K1 spouse kinda desperate - may need advise/help

[carmel34 3,634]

1.   Get a job.  Any job, to start earning your own money.

2.   Save up as much as you can in a separate bank account.

3.   Gather up all the evidence you can that the marriage was entered into in good faith--joint accounts, photos, everything submitted with AOS, evidence of financial co-mingling.  You will need this for ROC.  Copy everything to a personal digital cloud account so that you can use it later.

4.   Have a serious conversation with her about the future of your marriage relationship.

5.   Try marriage counseling together if you really want to try to save the marriage.

6.   Make your decision about what to do, stay or get a divorce.

7.   If you decide on a divorce, if she freaks out or you don't feel safe, find a place to stay, move out with the money you have saved up from your new job.

8.   Ask her to settle the divorce through mediation, it's cheaper and less stressful than a full-blown ugly divorce and trial.

9.   File for ROC with a divorce waiver after you get the divorce decree, if you want to stay in the US and live, you can.  Or return to Switzerland.

10.   Move on with your life and try to put all this behind you.  You can be happy again.

 

Be safe and careful and think through things rationally, logically, away from her.  Try not to let your emotions get in the way of making good decisions.  Good luck!

[SusieQQQ 11,586]

15 hours ago, shizo83 said:

What do I do when my K1 spouse kicks me out of the house.

Feeling alone and have no contacts in the U.S where I could go or ask for help if I become homeless

 

No job yet...

Sorry if I missed this, but what is stopping you getting a job? If you already have a conditional GC, you have been here for a while. You clearly speak decent English. The jobs market is absolutely pumping at the moment. At worst you can get a minimum wage job. I know others have suggested counseling, and that is certainly an option, but my reading of your posts is that you are quite certain you will be moving out. If that is the case - if the area you are in is not suitable for the profession you’re in (though I imagine IT jobs are needed most places), move. Or move back to Switzerland if your job and living prospects are better there.
 

1 hour ago, Beth & Achraf said:

I want to build up my life in the U.S again.. with her or without...

I don’t mean to sound unsympathetic, but I am wondering why you seem intent on staying here if your marriage does break up, when you say you “feel alone and have no contacts”, and have no job, and are worried about becoming homeless, when it sounds like you could return to a comfortable life in a safe, beautiful first world country.  

Edited February 7, 2020 by SusieQQQ

[Julesnbloom 2]

16 hours ago, shizo83 said:

Greetings to everybody

 

Long story short... I came from Switzerland for a women.. Visa got approved and I moved from switzerland to the USA in May 19.. I love her... I still do... but I don't feel like she loves me the same anymore.. Before you bomb me with greencard (removed).. like I said.. I am from Switzerland.. made over 85k CHF (more or less same as in the U.S) per year.. supported her since July 18 with 1'500/month (and still support her since May 19 with now 2k from my retirement swiss money) so she did not lose the house for her/us/ and her kids she has.

I literally screw up my life in Switzerland for her, made debts to support her...

 

So my question is.. if I can't take it anymore.. or she can't take me anymore.. what are my options?

I know she signed a paper that says that she is responsible for me for 10 years in the U.S...

 

But what are my options when (removed) hits the fan?

I feel slowly like I have to protect myself and to inform me.. won't give up asap.... but I want to be prepared.

I want to build up my life in the U.S again.. with her or without... sure rather with her... 

Please don't get a wrong picture of me..  just as example: I sent her flowers like monthly from Switzerland  to her home or to her office for anniversary's .. still do it between even when money is short.. but she rather plays the game on her phone were we met,than be happy to spend time together without the phone.

 

Thanks and regards

How about marriage counselling to work through your issues. There was love there once in this relationship right?

[Lucky2Lucky 2,526]

If you don’t want to divorce then work on your marriage. Try couples counseling or individual counseling if she doesn’t want to. Hopefully that can help you decide if it’s a marriage you want to stay in. Obtain employment- you have nothing holding you back immigration wise- you have a SS, green card, past working experience and speak English.