Age Gap

[AD19 36]

4 minutes ago, Sea Leslie said:

Thanks, this is good to know. I think I am worried for nothing and I know that my marriage is for the right reason so I have nothing to worry about. 

If you are honest,you have nothing to worry about. Worrying too much might sent the wrong msg. So just relax.. Age gap is normal nowadays so they dont consider it as red flag anymore,as long as you show that your relationship is pure. 

[Crazy Cat 41,808]

19 minutes ago, Aili & Dani said:

Age gap is normal nowadays so they dont consider it as red flag anymore,as long as you show that your relationship is pure. 

Absolutely false.........Consulates do still consider age gap as a red flag.

Edited January 31, 2020 by missileman

[AD19 36]

1 minute ago, missileman said:

Absolutely false.........

You can argue. But im talking from my own experience with big age gap. And not Only age gap, religion diff, gay relationship.. so yeah all that someone would say is red flag, but red flag is lying to officer, sound nervous,thinking about Your answer..   you just need to be natural and honest. Its your relationship,you are in it,you just talk from heart and they wont question age. 

[Crazy Cat 41,808]

11 minutes ago, Aili & Dani said:

You can argue. But im talking from my own experience with big age gap. And not Only age gap, religion diff, gay relationship.. so yeah all that someone would say is red flag, but red flag is lying to officer, sound nervous,thinking about Your answer..   you just need to be natural and honest. Its your relationship,you are in it,you just talk from heart and they wont question age. 

You said "so they don't consider it as red flag anymore"..........I haven't seen that as being the case.

Edited January 31, 2020 by missileman

[Boiler 45,443]

2 minutes ago, Aili & Dani said:

You can argue. But im talking from my own experience with big age gap. And not Only age gap, religion diff, gay relationship.. so yeah all that someone would say is red flag, but red flag is lying to officer, sound nervous,thinking about Your answer..   you just need to be natural and honest. Its your relationship,you are in it,you just talk from heart and they wont question age. 

Red Flag is not an official term, just something that is used on here to denote potential factors that cause issues.

Edited January 31, 2020 by Boiler

[Cathi 5,746]

I'm 21 years older than my husband and we didn't have any issues.

[AD19 36]

2 minutes ago, Boiler said:

Red Flag is not an official term, just something that is used on here to denote potential factors that cause issues.

Im just saying, age gap is not the only issue. Many will misunderstand why they being denied. Its not only age gap. 

Just now, Cathi said:

I'm 21 years older than my husband and we didn't have any issues.

 

[Orangesapples 1,954]

8 minutes ago, Aili & Dani said:

You can argue. But im talking from my own experience with big age gap. And not Only age gap, religion diff, gay relationship.. so yeah all that someone would say is red flag, but red flag is lying to officer, sound nervous,thinking about Your answer..   you just need to be natural and honest. Its your relationship,you are in it,you just talk from heart and they wont question age. 

A gay relationship is against cultural norms already (illegal in some places), I'm sure they're looked at differently. 

[Cathi 5,746]

1 minute ago, Aili & Dani said:

Im just saying, age gap is not the only issue. Many will misunderstand why they being denied. Its not only age gap. 

 

OK. My husband and I are also different religions, I'm divorced with children and we married on my first visit. We had all of the big so called "red flags" and we never had any issues, not even a single RFE. All the way from filing the petition and up to and including naturalization.

 

I believe that being prepared and following all instructions closely has a lot to do with approval.

[SalishSea 17,801]

21 minutes ago, Sea Leslie said:

I did not realize that... so they would prefer to marry in the states?

They would prefer to marry an American in order to immigrate to the states.

[AD19 36]

2 minutes ago, Orangesapples said:

A gay relationship is against cultural norms already (illegal in some places), I'm sure they're looked at differently. 

Illegal in my country. 

[Boiler 45,443]

6 minutes ago, Aili & Dani said:

Im just saying, age gap is not the only issue. Many will misunderstand why they being denied. Its not only age gap. 

 

Of course not, every case is individual, often on here we tend to see multiple issues grouped together, putting a weighting on each one is not possible,.

[AD19 36]

2 minutes ago, Cathi said:

OK. My husband and I are also different religions, I'm divorced with children and we married on my first visit. We had all of the big so called "red flags" and we never had any issues, not even a single RFE. All the way from filing the petition and up to and including naturalization.

 

I believe that being prepared and following all instructions closely has a lot to do with approval.

Agree! 

[AD19 36]

13 minutes ago, missileman said:

You said "so they don't consider it as red flag anymore"..........I haven't seen that as being the case.

My personal experince, i was a lil afraid of age gap as a red flag, but the officer in embassy told me that his wife is older than him and thats just fine. 

[Sea Leslie 430]

50 minutes ago, Aili & Dani said:

If you are honest,you have nothing to worry about. Worrying too much might sent the wrong msg. So just relax.. Age gap is normal nowadays so they don't consider it as red flag anymore,as long as you show that your relationship is pure. 

Thanks, I appreciate the encouraging words. I will talk to my husband about it because my behavior has increased his anxiety.