i need ur advices again guyz

[tiki 0]

hi to everyone,its me again and wanted to read ur advices in my situation.i dont know if some of the members here was able to read my post few days ago.anyways. me and my husband had a very serious talk yesterday while we are on our way going for my biometrics. we talked about my pregnancy and about his ex girlfriend. with regards with my pregancy i think he already kinda accepted it that he is gonna be a father soon and we were like thinking of names that we might gave to our baby and i am so much happy about that now. but the same time i am sad to see my husband being sad and depressed. its because him and his ex girlfriend talked on sunday that its better that both of them should not be talking now cos my husbands ex gf's mom advices her that its not healthy for them to be still talking and remaining bestfriends now that he is married to me and will be having a baby soon.my husband admitted to me on that day that he just realized that he still have feelings for her and the girl also admitted that she has still feelings for him too.he told me that he had known her for almost 7 years now and its hard to forget a person who was ur love and bestfriend for that long.my husband and her broke up 2 years ago and remained bestfriends until now and me and my husband got together few months after their break up.i really cant explain how i feel when my husband told me about him still having a feelings for him. but he told me also that his feelings for me were all true and that he really loves me. i hate seeing my husband like this being so sad and so depressed.he always tells me everyday that he loves me and he is telling me that whats happening now is not my fault. i really love my husband so much and i really cant afford to lose him. im just afriad that one day he will be so cold and just leave me. i can really feel that he is so hurt of losing his bestfriend. and now i am so confused on what to do. should i gave him a space or should i be around this time with him especially that he is so down.??? my husband is really a good person and i can really tell that. pls tell me what to do guyz.i just cant believe this things is happening to us.

[almaty 19]

give him space

[Sinergy 3]

Tiki im really happy to hear the baby thing worked out for you. You have been in my thoughts and prayers about that.

As far as your husband, atleast he was honest with you about it. I would feel the same as you, but he was honest about how he felt about his ex and he also loves you. If he had strong feelings for his ex he wouldnt be married to you. Its sometimes normal to have feelings still for an ex if you continue to be best friends with them after the breakup. Especially if you hang around eachother and talk all the time to eachother. But the important thing is he loves YOU and he wants to be married to YOU. and your having a babyyyyyyyy!!! yaaaaaaay mama

[doodlebug 3]

Tiki im really happy to hear the baby thing worked out for you. You have been in my thoughts and prayers about that.

As far as your husband, atleast he was honest with you about it. I would feel the same as you, but he was honest about how he felt about his ex and he also loves you. If he had strong feelings for his ex he wouldnt be married to you. Its sometimes normal to have feelings still for an ex if you continue to be best friends with them after the breakup. Especially if you hang around eachother and talk all the time to eachother. But the important thing is he loves YOU and he wants to be married to YOU. and your having a babyyyyyyyy!!! yaaaaaaay mama

[alexandra8886 0]

give him space

hi tiki..

good to hear that baby will be fine..

almaty is right..give him space..

just continue with you AOS & stay healthy for the baby..

the fact that he has an "unfinished business" before he said "I DO" to you..means that he's selfish in a way..

anyway..you're there now..& there's a new human being involved..stay focus on you & the baby..for the meantime.. 'til he will realize by himself of his faults.

regards,

alexandra

[tiki 0]

my mother in law thinks that i should give him space.like going away for 2 weeks and stay in my half sister in california. she said that i should make him miss me and let him reliaze things. but im thinking also if im gonna go away for 2 weeks, my husband is so down right now and who will be with him when he need someone to talk with especially now that he just lost his bestfriend. i know i couldnt replace his bestfriend but im his wife that will always be with him forever..do u think guyz i will follow what his mom told me or should be here with him at this momemnt.

[Sinergy 3]

my mother in law thinks that i should give him space.like going away for 2 weeks and stay in my half sister in california. she said that i should make him miss me and let him reliaze things. but im thinking also if im gonna go away for 2 weeks, my husband is so down right now and who will be with him when he need someone to talk with especially now that he just lost his bestfriend. i know i couldnt replace his bestfriend but im his wife that will always be with him forever..do u think guyz i will follow what his mom told me or should be here with him at this momemnt.

Hes your husband, you should be there for him. Regardless what its about. He lost his best friend, but he shouldnt be this bummed about it. I mean hes married to the one he wanted to marry and hes having a baby. I dont think this was "unfinished business" before he got married, if it was he wouldnt have married you. I cant say too much on his end bc i dont know him.

give him space

hi tiki..

good to hear that baby will be fine..

almaty is right..give him space..

just continue with you AOS & stay healthy for the baby..

the fact that he has an "unfinished business" before he said "I DO" to you..means that he's selfish in a way..

anyway..you're there now..& there's a new human being involved..stay focus on you & the baby..for the meantime.. 'til he will realize by himself of his faults.

regards,

alexandra

What faults??

[Mephys 2]

Well I would say that sometimes mom knows their boy really good. So if she tells you to give him a little space, that might not be a bad idea, and yeah it would probably help him to realize how much he misses you. And about him needing to talk to somebody, if his mom is around, she might be a good confident as well.

You know better if they are close to each other or not. If they are, I would say its safe enough to go away for 2 weeks cause hes not gonna be completely alone.

He really need to get over his ex to completely focus on your marriage and the baby to come

Edited June 13, 2007 by Mephys

[Sinergy 3]

I dont think leaving for 2 weeks is going to solve anything. You just got here and you JUST got married. This is your marriage, you need to stay and work things out. You need to be there for him as he has to be there for you. You dont leave for 2 weeks just bc things get rough a bit.

Edited June 13, 2007 by Ionescu

[tiki 0]

im so hurt seeing him like this. what should i do to make him happy and bring back those times when we were so happy.

[Emancipation 2]

im so hurt seeing him like this. what should i do to make him happy and bring back those times when we were so happy.

This is love Tiki.. it has ups and downs and challenges and times that are very very hard indeed.. I'm so sorry you are going through this right now, but you are doing the right thing, remaining forgiving and understanding and open to him even with all the "issues" he's working through. Your love for him is strong and true, and right now he needs to see that. You keep hanging in there and as others have said, take care of you & the baby.. He is a blessed man, and I pray he realizes that today.

[Lance27 19]

Its hard not to have feelings for someone after being with them for 7 years. But at the same time Im sure he loves you and his unborn baby very much. Im sure he also knows that his ex was the past and you are the present and the future and you and baby will always come first. As someone said, give him some space, he needs to sort this out on his own and will come to you when he is ready.

[tiki 0]

guys thank u so much.i really appreciate all ur opinions. i guess the better thing i must have to do now is just pray and put God in the middle of our relationship.i will just keep loving my husband and support him. oh my!! why love needs to be like this?why theres always pains..whoohhh!!!

[tiki 0]

im back here and needing ur advice again...last night my husband came home from work and stayed in his car for like 1 hour.i was really wondering what he is doing inside his car and of course i was thinking again that he might be talking to his ex girlfriend and yeah im right he told me that he called her up and they talked.the girl was kinda mad at him telling him that he knows that he cant call her up cos her mom doesnt want them talking anymore and she was asking what he wants from her.when my husband was telling this things to me he end up crying and telling me how he hates his life now and now he is losing his bestfriend(the ex GF). when he told me these things, i was really hurt cos it seems that he hates his life now since i came here and now he's gonna be a father soon. i feel like its all my fault but i know i didnt do anything wrong. ever since when i am still in Philippines, i always asked him if he is already over with his ex gf and he keeps telling me that yes he is over with her and i am the one that he wants to be with for the rest of his life. but then i remember the day me and him went to have my biometrics he admitted to me that he still have feelings for her while we are on our way driving there..now im so confuse again on what to do. i see my husband suffering,i feel like he is not happy with me anymore but just being force to stay with me because i am pregnant now and theres no way he could turn back on his promises that he will love me for the rest of my life.God knows im doing everything just to make him happy. i take care of him and did my responsibilities as a wife. i feel like me and our baby is a big burden for him.i really wanted to help him with financial matters but i cant cos i cant work yet and by the time i will be getting my greencard i will be almost near to my due date.i dont know. i feel like my life now is so miserable. i just want my husband to love me again and build a family that i really wanted.i really dont know what to do anymore.

guys,im really sorry if i keep bringing up my problems here.its just that theres nothing i cant talk with exept my mother in law and my sis in law which they also support and understand how i am going through with now.

[tiki 0]

im back here and needing ur advice again...last night my husband came home from work and stayed in his car for like 1 hour.i was really wondering what he is doing inside his car and of course i was thinking again that he might be talking to his ex girlfriend and yeah im right he told me that he called her up and they talked.the girl was kinda mad at him telling him that he knows that he cant call her up cos her mom doesnt want them talking anymore and she was asking what he wants from her.when my husband was telling this things to me he end up crying and telling me how he hates his life now and now he is losing his bestfriend(the ex GF). when he told me these things, i was really hurt cos it seems that he hates his life now since i came here and now he's gonna be a father soon. i feel like its all my fault but i know i didnt do anything wrong. ever since when i am still in Philippines, i always asked him if he is already over with his ex gf and he keeps telling me that yes he is over with her and i am the one that he wants to be with for the rest of his life. but then i remember the day me and him went to have my biometrics he admitted to me that he still have feelings for her while we are on our way driving there..now im so confuse again on what to do. i see my husband suffering,i feel like he is not happy with me anymore but just being force to stay with me because i am pregnant now and theres no way he could turn back on his promises that he will love me for the rest of my life.God knows im doing everything just to make him happy. i take care of him and did my responsibilities as a wife. i feel like me and our baby is a big burden for him.i really wanted to help him with financial matters but i cant cos i cant work yet and by the time i will be getting my greencard i will be almost near to my due date.i dont know. i feel like my life now is so miserable. i just want my husband to love me again and build a family that i really wanted.i really dont know what to do anymore.

guys,im really sorry if i keep bringing up my problems here.its just that theres nothing i cant talk with exept my mother in law and my sis in law which they also support and understand how i am going through with now.