Prince Harry and Meghan to step back as senior royals

[Boiler 45,970]

1 minute ago, laylalex said:

We didn't move to West Hollywood. We moved to Santa Monica. WeHo and SM are pretty clean, btw. They are both small cities separate from LA, and both are pretty wealthy. SM has its own police force, school district, etc. and quality of life is pretty good. We've only been here since Sunday but I am learning to like it.  The worst so far has been the tourists -- they can cause congestion on sidewalks and get drunk and shout at night. (This has happened once, so not sure how frequent yet.)

 

It was a job related move. I was in two minds about coming -- I loved Berkeley and my job, and Alex gave me the space to figure out if I wanted to move with him or be together but physically apart. At first I decided to stay, but then I started to realize I was only staying because I wanted to be clear that I was my own woman, not following my man like a good wifey-to-be. But really what I needed to do was put myself first, and putting myself first meant being where I truly wanted to be, which is with him. I'd waited too long to be with him for many reasons, and now I was making another one just because I wanted to be seen as being independent, at the expense of being happy. I choose happy.  

I think Jane Austin could have used that.

[laylalex 7,300]

1 minute ago, Boiler said:

I think Jane Austin could have used that.

My ex Voldy always said I have literary pretensions.  

[Boiler 45,970]

2 minutes ago, laylalex said:

My ex Voldy always said I have literary pretensions.  

I am not sure if I should be honoured with the comparison.

[laylalex 7,300]

Just now, Boiler said:

I am not sure if I should be honoured with the comparison.

Not so much a comparison as a chiming in, I think. Are you a blond? He is.

[Voice of Reason 10,298]

17 minutes ago, laylalex said:

We didn't move to West Hollywood. We moved to Santa Monica. WeHo and SM are pretty clean, btw. They are both small cities separate from LA, and both are pretty wealthy. SM has its own police force, school district, etc. and quality of life is pretty good. We've only been here since Sunday but I am learning to like it.  The worst so far has been the tourists -- they can cause congestion on sidewalks and get drunk and shout at night. (This has happened once, so not sure how frequent yet.)

 

It was a job related move. I was in two minds about coming -- I loved Berkeley and my job, and Alex gave me the space to figure out if I wanted to move with him or be together but physically apart. At first I decided to stay, but then I started to realize I was only staying because I wanted to be clear that I was my own woman, not following my man like a good wifey-to-be. But really what I needed to do was put myself first, and putting myself first meant being where I truly wanted to be, which is with him. I'd waited too long to be with him for many reasons, and now I was making another one just because I wanted to be seen as being independent, at the expense of being happy. I choose happy.  

I was asking that of Boiler, for his friends.   You're already living in that forsaken area, and I know exactly why you are moving.  I hope for both your sakes that you are able to escape before your 40s.  

[laylalex 7,300]

Just now, ALFKAD said:

I was asking that of Boiler, for his friends.   You're already living in that forsaken area, and I know exactly why you are moving.  I hope for both your sakes that you are able to escape before your 40s.  

Oh, sorry. You-know-who said I always make it about me and I'm never happy unless all attention is directed towards me.  

 

We'll see if we stay. It's sort of dependent on his work -- not a big finance hub here, so if things fizzle out here, it may be a move to New York or even to London.  

[Voice of Reason 10,298]

3 minutes ago, laylalex said:

Oh, sorry. You-know-who said I always make it about me and I'm never happy unless all attention is directed towards me.  

 

We'll see if we stay. It's sort of dependent on his work -- not a big finance hub here, so if things fizzle out here, it may be a move to New York or even to London.  

London - meh.   No experience there.  NY?  A definite jump out of the frying pan into the fire.  Highly disrecommend.

[laylalex 7,300]

2 minutes ago, ALFKAD said:

London - meh.   No experience there.  NY?  A definite jump out of the frying pan into the fire.  Highly disrecommend.

I have experience in London, hence the . That's why the ex and I did the K1 -- I was not moving to the UK if it meant splitting time between there and Suffolk which was bo-ring. London was just crowded and chaotic and there was so much making do with terrible plumbing in old buildings. NYC I have only visited but I'm not crazy about it for similar reasons as London, but the plumbing is probably better! 

 

I mean, I have enough for us to just "retire" now and live wherever, but (1) he has continuing obligations to his ex-wife and daughter financially that he doesn't want me to have to pay for and (2) I have a suspicion that he might feel emasculated if he never had to pay for anything ever again. And we both want to feel useful in the world, not just coasting along. Work is good for the soul -- that Protestant work ethic at work! (Which is funny because I am an atheist raised by an atheist and an agnostic.)

[TBoneTX 45,971]

6 hours ago, laylalex said:

Are you a blond?

Years ago, Boiler had a hilarious reply to this that I hope he'll repeat.

[Neonred 3,632]

Do you think it's time to ask a mod (T-Bone) to change the name of this thread to "Layla's life in Southern Cal"?

 

LOL

Edited January 17, 2020 by Neonred

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4 hours ago, TBoneTX said:

Years ago, Boiler had a hilarious reply to this that I hope he'll repeat.

Some of my replies have got me into trouble.....And some have fallen into the type before thinking category.

 

Back on subject, well the new topic title so I guess I am ahead of the change, must admit her age threw me as for whatever reason I thought she was significantly younger.

 

We all have to live our own lives, and it will not be that long before she hits 40, now I know it varies but for many that is a significant turning point and often when reality catches up. Going to be harder as the need for filler increases. I recollect a sort of similar conversation coming from a lady who must have been 50, nothing was said but I could tell we were all thinking the same, by that time it becomes delusional.

 

Positive things could happen but the odds are declining. And I seriously doubt there is anything anybody else can say that would help.

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2 hours ago, Neonred said:

Do you think it's time to ask a mod (T-Bone) to change the name of this thread to "Layla's life in Southern Cal"?

 

LOL

How apropo 

[Neonred 3,632]

17 minutes ago, Nature Boy 2.0 said:

How apropo 

Well, as usual I've had a busy week and have not been able to keep up with VJ.  Wanted to make a comment about Meghan and Harry but alas I am too late.  My own fault.

[Cyberfx1024 7,980]

20 hours ago, elmcitymaven said:

Ah, so this was for a move rather than a visit? There are some great family neighborhoods -- I'd recommend two I just mentioned, Culver City and Beverly Hills. Up in the Valley, Studio City and Sherman Oaks are great for families. However, both of those are in the LAUSD, and CC and BH have their own school districts, both of which are excellent. 

 

The assless chaps are quite something, and not what one would expect on a Sunday afternoon when the sun is still up.

That is something that was always weird to me when I lived in CA was that almost city had their own Unified School District (USD) with different rules for each district. Why not just have them joined up into one district? My kids went to schools in Pasadena USD while literally a couple miles down the road there is South Pasadena and San Marino school districts a couple miles west of that. All of which is not very efficient. 

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14 hours ago, laylalex said:

We didn't move to West Hollywood. We moved to Santa Monica. WeHo and SM are pretty clean, btw. They are both small cities separate from LA, and both are pretty wealthy. SM has its own police force, school district, etc. and quality of life is pretty good. We've only been here since Sunday but I am learning to like it.  The worst so far has been the tourists -- they can cause congestion on sidewalks and get drunk and shout at night. (This has happened once, so not sure how frequent yet.)

 

It was a job related move. I was in two minds about coming -- I loved Berkeley and my job, and Alex gave me the space to figure out if I wanted to move with him or be together but physically apart. At first I decided to stay, but then I started to realize I was only staying because I wanted to be clear that I was my own woman, not following my man like a good wifey-to-be. But really what I needed to do was put myself first, and putting myself first meant being where I truly wanted to be, which is with him. I'd waited too long to be with him for many reasons, and now I was making another one just because I wanted to be seen as being independent, at the expense of being happy. I choose happy.  

They are clean because they don't tolerate the BS like Los Angeles does. What's funny is that BH banned those little scooters in that city. So the company had to set up a type of geo-fence around BH so that scooters can't work there.