USC Responsibilities after Divorce

[Shattered 0]

My husband immigrated here two years ago from the UK.  He is currently on a conditional green card.  We will file to remove conditions next January.

 

Right before Christmas, my husband told me that he is gay.  However, he wants to stay married and try to suppress his attraction to men.  I think this is a terrible idea.  When I brought up divorce, he reminded me that I signed the I-864 paperwork, so I am financially responsible for him.  He told me that if I file for divorce, he will stop working so I will have to financially support him.  He also said he will go on as many government benefits as possible so the government will come after me for repayment.  

 

I am absolutely reeling from all of this.  What are my options?

[Georgia16 2,858]

I would file for divorce on the spot if that was me. 

[geowrian 22,337]

I would too. Extortion is not a healthy response to anything.

It almost certainly is just him blowing smoke. Good luck trying to live on the bare minimums + getting the I-864 enforced and doing so w/o a order to seek employment (it is possible, but things would really have to line up in his favor).

 

While yes, the I-864 does remain in effect, typically most of the stuff regarding support is figured out in divorce proceedings.

I would discuss this with a divorce lawyer.

[Boiler 45,538]

Dump him, he is in for a nasty shock.

[portorusa 431]

If he is gay why did he marry you? Is he implying that this realization of being gay dawned on him just now? What a BS, IMHO🤮

 

[little immigrant 801]

As a conditional LPR I'd imagine he'll get denied government benefits because he simply doesn't qualify. He will have to work to support himself regardless. I also wonder if he can self petition if he was on government benefits. I highly doubt it. It is fraud to stay married for immigration benefits BTW. 

[carmel34 3,634]

13 hours ago, Shattered said:

Right before Christmas, my husband told me that he is gay.  However, he wants to stay married and try to suppress his attraction to men.  I think this is a terrible idea.  

You are right.  File for divorce and move on with your life.  So sorry to hear that he is putting you through this.  Find a good divorce attorney and start the process.  Staying married because of his idea that he can suppress his attraction to men is a recipe for disaster.  You obviously already know this, that it is better to get divorced for your mutual happiness.  His immigration will be his to deal with, he can file to remove conditions with a divorce waiver if he wants to.  If he does use government benefits, it will be the government that will come after you for repayment, not him, and the chances that this will happen are low based on similar cases.  He won't be getting any money directly from you, he will have to work to support himself after the divorce based on the terms of the decree once finalized.  Good luck and stay strong!

Edited January 2, 2020 by carmel34

[Pinkrlion 2,724]

If he is gay, you can file annulment and not worry about divorce agreement. 

[Ortolan 381]

He did not suddenly realize he's gay. He misrepresented himself. I'm so sorry you got taken by this fellow.

You might look at him calmly and whisper, "You know...misrepresentation is tantamount to fraud. I'm sure USCIS would be interested in that. Would you like me to check for you?"

They probably could care less...but he might stop threatening you. Divorce this loser.