waiting another 6 months to see fiance

[Kidayi 15]

On 1/5/2020 at 6:56 PM, Rob Beri said:

Because members from VisaJourney are updating their timeline. That is one of the ways to confirm what cases USCIS is currently working on. Currently people who filled in September are receiving their NOA 2, however, as noted some cases take longer.

Oh thts smart. I shud do tht. Haha thanks! 

[EllaC 190]

On 1/1/2020 at 11:24 AM, mandajoy98 said:

There is a time in everyone's long distance journey where someone sacrifices something in order to be together long term.

 

DISCLAIMER: I apologize in advance if I sound whiny or complain too much but I just thought I would express my raw feelings on the first morning of 2020.

 

My fiance and I have came to harsh reality that we might not see each other for another six months. His interview is scheduled on Feb 5th but his sisters wedding is on June 29th (in AUS) leaving us no time to get accepted for a green card or advance parole in time to go back to Australia for the wedding. We both know it is the mature decision for him to stay in Australia even after the interview and wedding. This has been extremely hard because I know this is the right decision in the long run but I am having such a hard time dealing with it in the short run. This decision took me awhile to process last night but hit me so hard this morning and couldn't stop crying if I tried. Anyone in long distance knows how hard it is to be apart for so long, but today it just hit me like a ton of bricks.I know our relationship is very strong and will not break within this waiting period but I cant help but feel depressed at the fact I was counting down until February to possibly see him and now I may have to wait until June. I work and go to school full time so it so hard to drop everything and fly to Australia like I wish I could.

 

We have been doing long distance for almost 2 years now and I dont know how to cope with it anymore (other than staying busy like I am now). I feel so drained and hopeless and cant seem to go on with my day without crying or getting out of bed. If anyone has any advise on this situation it would really benefit because we both feel helpless. 

I've been following your timeline so closely and just saw this post. My fiance is Italian, but lives in Australia on a working holiday visa. He has been here with me since November and he has to go back to Australia in February and I have a flight scheduled for March to go see him. I am hoping and praying for a quick NOA2, but there is no guarantee. If I knew I had an approval date I had to count down to... I would do so much better mentally. Our NOA1 date is only 2 December, so we still have a couple months to wait. But it is SO humbling to read your post and other people's posts here on VJ as it gives me strength knowing that we can all do it. I don't normally chime in for advice because every family situation is unique and I don't want to say something inappropriate. Maybe have a really calm conversation where you work out the best solution for being together the quickest, while still considering all options? We were also in a sticky situation some months ago after I had just returned from Australia and just newly engaged. We looked at the processing times on USCIS, but we picked the Vermont service center, unaware that for years now, California handles the K-1. So Vermont said 10-12 months for approvals, and that got me and my fiance sooo down. We considered international filing at local USCIS offices in Italy, which involved me moving there, but then we would have not qualified for some thing such as income etc. It was a difficult time for us and every day we were waking up planning, making phone calls to see what we can do in Italy. By chance we found out that the K-1s are being processed much faster than we had initially thought so we decided to stick with not moving abroad and filing here in the states. But I remember feeling aggravated and feeling that there was no good solution for our situation. I think if you both keep talking about all of your options, a good solution will appear. I wish nothing but the best for you guys! Go over there in March and we can fly together to see our loved ones. 🙂❤️ 

Edited January 9, 2020 by EllaC