waiting another 6 months to see fiance

[jaysaldi 213]

Sorry to hear this. Three questions here:

 

1. If he interviews on February 5 and his visa is approved, what is your plan as to when he will come to the USA?   He only has six months from the date of his medical exam to use the visa, right? Would his visa be expired by July 1 or whenever he plans to travel?  Or has he not had his medical exam yet?

 

2. Are you just finding out now that his sister is getting married on June 29? 

 

3. If he moves to the USA in 2020 and you guys get married in the USA, will his whole family including his sister attend?

 

I really don't see the problem with him telling this sister "Oh, sorry, I'll be in the USA in June and probably won't be able to leave so I don't think I can make it to your wedding."  Especially if he has made all of his life plans before she announced her wedding plans for a date that may be impossible for him to attend.

 

For him to put his entire life on hold for six months waiting around in Australia just to attend a ceremony for a day or two in late June seems nuts to me, but perhaps I'm not the sentimental type. 

 

Also, it seems the average processing time for EAD/AP applications now is 4-5 months. It's POSSIBLE, though probably unlikely, that if he comes to the USA and immediately marries you and applies for AoS and AP before, say, February 15 that he might get the AP approved before June 25 so he can travel for the wedding.

 

 

 

[Lili_K 39]

8 hours ago, mandajoy98 said:

There is a time in everyone's long distance journey where someone sacrifices something in order to be together long term.

 

DISCLAIMER: I apologize in advance if I sound whiny or complain too much but I just thought I would express my raw feelings on the first morning of 2020.

 

My fiance and I have came to harsh reality that we might not see each other for another six months. His interview is scheduled on Feb 5th but his sisters wedding is on June 29th (in AUS) leaving us no time to get accepted for a green card or advance parole in time to go back to Australia for the wedding. We both know it is the mature decision for him to stay in Australia even after the interview and wedding. This has been extremely hard because I know this is the right decision in the long run but I am having such a hard time dealing with it in the short run. This decision took me awhile to process last night but hit me so hard this morning and couldn't stop crying if I tried. Anyone in long distance knows how hard it is to be apart for so long, but today it just hit me like a ton of bricks.I know our relationship is very strong and will not break within this waiting period but I cant help but feel depressed at the fact I was counting down until February to possibly see him and now I may have to wait until June. I work and go to school full time so it so hard to drop everything and fly to Australia like I wish I could.

 

We have been doing long distance for almost 2 years now and I dont know how to cope with it anymore (other than staying busy like I am now). I feel so drained and hopeless and cant seem to go on with my day without crying or getting out of bed. If anyone has any advise on this situation it would really benefit because we both feel helpless. 

I've been in a long distance relationship with my fiance for 4 years now. and we only get to see each other about every 9 months or so :(. But we got used to it 

[Just Paul 4,595]

1 hour ago, jaysaldi said:

He only has six months from the date of his medical exam to use the visa, right?

He has to enter the US before it expires.  That is 6 months from the medical. After he enters the US he has 90 days to marry.

 

 

[jaysaldi 213]

30 minutes ago, Paul & Mary said:

He has to enter the US before it expires.  That is 6 months from the medical. After he enters the US he has 90 days to marry.

 

 

Which means if he already did the medical exam before December 30, he can't enter the USA after his sister's wedding on June 29, right?

[Erin86 39]

34 minutes ago, Paul & Mary said:

He has to enter the US before it expires.  That is 6 months from the medical. After he enters the US he has 90 days to marry.

 

 

I came in 7 months after medical... had no issues at POE. 

[Scandi 4,166]

The visa is only valid for 6 months from the date of the medical, so make sure the visa is still valid after the date of the sister's wedding. 

 

Obviously we're all different, for me personally.. well I can't see how a sibling's wedding is more important than being with your future spouse 6 months sooner. But then weddings have never a big deal to me anyway, in any shape or form.

[KittyKat3072 235]

@mandajoy98

You could email the consulate and try to reschedule his interview.

But imo I would definitely go to Aus to visit him and break it to your family you can't go on their trip. I'm pretty sure they will survive without you there. That way you can be with him and go to his sister's wedding with him, maybe even fly back to the US with him.

 

I feel like he's putting his needs before yours (as a couple) and doesn't seem willing to compromise much. I dunno.

[Treasure1 243]

You'll be fine 

Edited January 2, 2020 by Treasure1

[Treasure1 243]

3 minutes ago, Treasure1 said:

Must he attend the sister's wedding?  The sister is even supposed to encourage him to be with you as soon as possible, delaying being with the love of his life for six months just because of a sister's wedding doesn't sound cool to me but that's his choice though, I wish the both of you the best, all will be fine. 

 

[Cathi 5,746]

17 hours ago, JFH said:

Why not postpone the interview and he visits you beforehand? 

 

This is one reason why you couldn’t have paid me enough to do a K-1. Had you done a CR-1, he could come when his visa was issued and left in June for the wedding with no repercussions but that’s too late now. Might be useful food for thought for readers still wondering which option to go with. The K-1 is not the best choice for the vast majority of VWP nationals. 

Agreed. The small amount of extra wait time for the CR-1 was by FAR worth the aggravation and extra expense of the K-1.

[Cathi 5,746]

7 hours ago, Erin86 said:

I came in 7 months after medical... had no issues at POE. 

Ummmmmm...you were VERY lucky. They must not have caught it.

 

OP: I do NOT encourage you to even attempt this as you will NOT be allowed into the US unless your medical is up to date!

[Loren Y 2,755]

10 hours ago, Erin86 said:

I came in 7 months after medical... had no issues at POE. 

You had better check the validity date on your K1 where it says valid until, and if you have an entry stamp/I94 that shows you entered after the visa was expired, you should leave the country now as you are accumulating unauthorized stay. Your whole immigration path is completely done now if that is the case. Even if it was their mistake you will suffer as soon as you AOS, ROC, or naturalization. They will go back and check your whole immigration past, and if the first step was you entered on an invalid/ expired Visa, your done. But, hey, ride it out and let us know how it goes.

[The_Empyrean 733]

20 hours ago, mandajoy98 said:

There is a time in everyone's long distance journey where someone sacrifices something in order to be together long term.

 

DISCLAIMER: I apologize in advance if I sound whiny or complain too much but I just thought I would express my raw feelings on the first morning of 2020.

 

My fiance and I have came to harsh reality that we might not see each other for another six months. His interview is scheduled on Feb 5th but his sisters wedding is on June 29th (in AUS) leaving us no time to get accepted for a green card or advance parole in time to go back to Australia for the wedding. We both know it is the mature decision for him to stay in Australia even after the interview and wedding. This has been extremely hard because I know this is the right decision in the long run but I am having such a hard time dealing with it in the short run. This decision took me awhile to process last night but hit me so hard this morning and couldn't stop crying if I tried. Anyone in long distance knows how hard it is to be apart for so long, but today it just hit me like a ton of bricks.I know our relationship is very strong and will not break within this waiting period but I cant help but feel depressed at the fact I was counting down until February to possibly see him and now I may have to wait until June. I work and go to school full time so it so hard to drop everything and fly to Australia like I wish I could.

 

We have been doing long distance for almost 2 years now and I dont know how to cope with it anymore (other than staying busy like I am now). I feel so drained and hopeless and cant seem to go on with my day without crying or getting out of bed. If anyone has any advise on this situation it would really benefit because we both feel helpless. 

Hi!

I know how it feels. Umm.. We've been in long distance for nearly 5 years until she could move to US, and we would see each other during Christmas break and summer. So 2-3 weeks in the winter, and 2-3 months in the summer. Thats it. 

There were times where it was getting really rough on my psyche, anxious for no reason, depressed and all that. I found that once we reached the finish straight, meaning, K1 was approved by USCIS, it all came together, and we felt a lot better, both of us. Key to that, is NOT to think about the distance, NOT to think about the separation, NOT to think about time. It JUST 6 months and if you get yourself busy, you'll get through it. 

With not wanting get out of the bed, crying. Try to turn the whole situation positive, look at it as the "preparing" phase. Your Fiance is coming soon, so make yourself the best you can be for his/her arrival. Gym, Music, painting, learn something new. Work on yourself. Get your place nice and shiny, get your room ready for him, get some drawers empty for your Fiance. Make it positive, the outlook is the key here. 

If you tell a smart person 100 times that he's stupid, he'll start to believe that. Same here, if you beat yourself up every day that it's all bad, and you're breaking down, you will break down. It's hard work with yourself, nobody else can help you with this. If you'll pull Yourself together, you'll be proud of yourself, you S/O will be proud of you, time will fly faster, and your days will feel brighter.

Thats just what i can say after all this time apart from my S/O.

Get into new year happy and with positive attitude!

 

 

[ShayShayyy 44]

I don't understand how you say you are almost ready to cry but then you cant "break it to your parents" that you would rather go to Australia instead of a vacation... Its your life and your decision... If i had the funds and time off from work i would have visited my fiancé as much as i could... Do what you need to do to be happy... 

[PWB 213]

Keep your chin up, we all go through problems and challenges with this process.  Today, Jan 2 2020  is the day I was to fly to the Philippines to attend the interview  with my Fiancee, well Saint Lukes changed all of those plans with their Sputum Protocol.   Even though my fiancee tested negative she still is forced to wait 8 weeks for the culture.  I lost over $1500.00  in air travel, plus other expenses in preparation for the trip.  To keep your sanity you just have to accept all the challenges and pray to God for what you want.