Got divorced before the interview

[AliceFL 0]

57 minutes ago, Cryssiekins said:

Agree.  
 

Long distance dating and living in marital union are very different things.

 

Coming on a K1 is hard, but there is no “dating” visa, so people need to be sure (as best they can) that they will both try to make it work.

 

Differences in culture play a part into this, and honestly, sometimes love isn’t enough, but you have to know that going in.

 

I was fully prepared to go back home with nothing (I gave up my place, my job, my everything) if it didn’t work out here.  
 

Any marriage is hard, which is why I still feel stunned when people want to rush in to a marriage.  You need to know someone inside and out before taking that leap.

 

When you’re just dating, your focus is 100% on the good times - seeing the person, enjoying the time, having good experiences.  When you move in, your also blending your regular life.  Who takes out the trash, does the cleaning, etc.  

 

Expecting it to be like a never ending date visit is unrealistic.   

We tried the best as we can... and I believe if the love wasnt enough we wouldnt be trying again... 

 

good for you that worked... we never thought this wouldn't work...  

15 hours ago, Bill & Katya said:

Are you both planning on canceling the divorce prior to it being finalized on the court?  If so, then you are still married, so your biggest issue will be trying to explain to the IO at USCIS why you are living apart.

 

Good Luck!

well...lets see what happens

thank you!

[AliceFL 0]

21 hours ago, geowrian said:

Can you be denied? Yes. Will you be denied? Depends on the totality of your case. Not actually living together (by choice) is going to be a significant hurdle. Actually being divorced is major as well.

 

Was the divorce finalized?

Is he willing to continue with the I-864 commitment?

Are you still together?

 

The purpose of AOS here is family reunification still - meaning that the green card is for the purpose of being together with your spouse.

 

Assuming he still wants to continue with the I-864, it is possible to be approved still (even if divorced, per matter of Sesay). But it does sound like an uphill case to say the least.

yes... we are together!!! 

 

[AliceFL 0]

15 hours ago, Bill & Katya said:

Are you both planning on canceling the divorce prior to it being finalized on the court?  If so, then you are still married, so your biggest issue will be trying to explain to the IO at USCIS why you are living apart.

 

Good Luck!

maybe cancel the divorce...

thank you!

 

[Sunny_Skies 22]

Yes, cancel the divorce, and be prepared to explain why you two aren't living together. The issues you were dealing with are very common with the K-1, and easy to learn about by simply Googling the process. I think you both let the downsides of the K-1 get to you too much and didn't think enough about the interview and what lies ahead. If you had at least waited until the interview to live apart, you'd be in better shape.

[AliceFL 0]

7 hours ago, Boiler said:

You will find very few cases here where a K1 is recommended, sadly people still go for it.

 

The old adage of do you research applies.

Lets says we get denied... how long it gonna takes to get the notification to leave the country?

 

Cause if wont work... wont work... and move forward.

[Georgia16 2,858]

8 hours ago, AliceFL said:

It is super sad... 90 days to get married its almost nothing to know someone living in the same roof... 

My situation was like this: we met in another country... not mine, not his... fell in love... he used to go once in a month to see me... was like vacations for us... we used to wait for each other... visiting places together, smiling with the eyes, learning about others cultures... flying together.

we had night and night over the phone talking and making planes for the next time that we would be together... cry hugging each other every time we had to say goodbye (or see you soon).

Until we decided to come to meet his family here... OH but you have to get married in 90 days... ok, lets do it!!!! start to live together...

I wasnt alow to work yet... 

I didnt know anybody

I couldnt drive

I didnt have my family

for me was diferent country, language, culture... for him NO! so we weren't in the same page anymore

guess what? CHAOS

 

I would spend the day at home...waiting for him... dependent on him even to do my nails... just cooking...doing laundry...cleaning the house... NO WAAAAAAAAAY

(and a lot of other things) particular things...

I started to feel sad, useless... ( i used to like to get ready to go for a dinner with him) go dancing, travel, see the sunset... but all the complains ( I ve been working all day; you not tired because you didnt do anything at home... )

 

A lot of the magic of the love was broken after the marriage... was too fast... we would date more... 

 

90 days to a change you way of life based on what people wants ... on their time... is cruel... 

I really think the USCIS should start to think better about this rules...if they really want to give opportunity to solid relationships.

 

 

 

Sounds more like an adjustment problem from both of you.

You both should have been aware of these things were going to happen when you got here. 

I came on a K-1 also I knew this was going to happen so I was prepared for it. Now I still had a very hard time adjusting here because everything is s different from my home country and it took almost a year before I (and my son) was more into everything here and felt more comfortable. 

You really have to communicate well with your spouse about your feelings and he about his to make this work. Things will change when you get your EAD and can drive and work and be more independent.