The derailment exempt thread

[elmcitymaven 9,712]

1 hour ago, ALFKAD said:

If I PM you my wife's #, can you ask him to have a talk with her please?  Vietnamese or somewhere around Belarus, I am not picky.  🤪

Send it on. I'll see if Oxsana has any "sisters."

[TBoneTX 45,567]

Blondes, please, si ma'am.

[laylalex 7,293]

2 hours ago, TBoneTX said:

Blondes, please, si ma'am.

My sister might be available -- she is threatening to kick her boyfriend out for trying to get too serious. But she is kind of a lot to deal with, speaking as someone who has known her my entire life.

[Boiler 45,712]

Just now, laylalex said:

My sister might be available -- she is threatening to kick her boyfriend out for trying to get too serious. But she is kind of a lot to deal with, speaking as someone who has known her my entire life.

I recollect you describing her as hot, but was downhill from there.

 

Sort of sounds it may be a blessing in disguise for him.

 

[laylalex 7,293]

Just now, Boiler said:

I recollect you describing her as hot, but was downhill from there.

 

Sort of sounds it may be a blessing in disguise for him.

 

Oh, she's hot. But she is also demanding, petulant and meddling (while no one else is allowed to meddle in her life). As it turns out, she doesn't think monogamy is for her after all which is the issue between them at the moment. She says she tried, which should count for something.  Who knows, maybe he'll learn to deal with it. I have never gotten these open relationships or how people deal with alllllllll that drama and work and all the time toing and froing from dates. I have enough on my plate and I am strictly monogamous! 

[Boiler 45,712]

I seriously doubt he will learn to deal with it, best to have a get out of jail plan.

[Voice of Reason 10,298]

18 minutes ago, laylalex said:

My sister might be available -- she is threatening to kick her boyfriend out for trying to get too serious. But she is kind of a lot to deal with, speaking as someone who has known her my entire life.

Related to you, and a lot to deal with?  No, day it isn't so!

[Nature Boy 2.0 8,376]

26 minutes ago, laylalex said:

My sister might be available -- she is threatening to kick her boyfriend out for trying to get too serious. But she is kind of a lot to deal with, speaking as someone who has known her my entire life.

She has a live in boyfriend she is not in a serious relationship with ? 

[laylalex 7,293]

2 minutes ago, ALFKAD said:

Related to you, and a lot to deal with?  No, day it isn't so!

I'm not really that much to deal with. I'm nice and fairly helpful in real life, and I'm pretty good at organization.

 

3 minutes ago, Nature Boy 2.0 said:

She has a live in boyfriend she is not in a serious relationship with ? 

She is in a serious relationship, but he wants to get married/have kids and she doesn't, well, at least the first. And I think it's probably more a cry for help her saying "oh, I'll just see other people if you can't deal with not getting married." (She tells me she isn't really, she's just thinking it's a good way to force his hand into giving up on marriage, which is so dumb I can't even.) I mean, there is a genuine issue here -- they love each other but one person wants to get married and the other doesn't. But the response should not be, if I can't have you just the way I want you, I want to be a jerk to you and you have to take it because you love me. Or you can move out. Or you can have a long conversation and see if both people can live with one person's preference and like it. The adult thing to do, I think, is for him to leave if he really MUST marry her. You shouldn't force people to do that. And she can deal with the consequences of being so selfish as to threaten to cheat on him. 

[Boiler 45,712]

Could your friend the Divorce Lawyer mediate?

[laylalex 7,293]

21 minutes ago, Boiler said:

Could your friend the Divorce Lawyer mediate?

Hahaha, nooooo. I wouldn't even think to ask -- she has known my sister since she (the lawyer) was 10 and would be firmly in the boyfriend's court. She thinks my sister is a total drama queen and should just deal with the fact that she's getting older. Getting married is a symptom of getting older -- like, omg, I'm going to die someday (if the fillers don't keep her alive forever) and still with this person. Also, she sees what happened to me and she's worried that in 10 years he'll wake up and decide, that's it, and she'll have wasted all that time on something that didn't work out. I told her it's a crapshoot, but people in relationships can do a lot to keep those relationships healthy and strong. Communication is key to that.  

 

All of this goes back to her being terrified of getting older. She would completely start massaging down her age but for the fact that she has a younger sister and I am VERY happy to tell people exactly how old she is. (37 as of last week.)

 

Oh god, I really do make it all about me, don't I?  

Edited January 17, 2020 by laylalex
Removed my sister's name -- probably already said it somewhere else. :-P

[Boiler 45,712]

Hmmm. Not sure what to say, time will and is taking its toll and reality will catch up, for some reason I had assumed she was the younger.

[laylalex 7,293]

Just now, Boiler said:

Hmmm. Not sure what to say, time will and is taking its toll and reality will catch up, for some reason I had assumed she was the younger.

No, she's older by over 2 years. I was the younger, responsible one who did everything right, and she was the older one who got to get away with murder and a "gap year" working at Abercrombie & Fitch after high school. I promise I'm not jealous, it's just... sometimes I wonder what ticking every box and jumping through every hoop and being a "good girl" actually got me in the end. 😕 

 

If you think *I* suck up all the attention by making it all about me, I learned it from an absolute pro in my sister. I'm only a faint echo of the master. 

[laylalex 7,293]

Okay, somehow it is unacceptable if I spend almost the same amount on skincare today as the pair of jeans he bought??? His reasoning is along the lines of, well, that stuff gets used up and all I'm left with is empty containers but he still has a pair of jeans. I pointed out that he already has many, many jeans, and he just liked the look of these new ones. My purchase was an investment in myself, and in keeping my skin healthy. I'm never taking him to the Grove again. Oh, and I was made to wait while he looked at new iPads at the Apple Store, even though I pointed out he has a perfectly serviceable one. I *did* win on this point. 

 

Uggghhh. He's also commandeered the TV to watch John Wick. Again. Sorry this is 100% whining from me. Just been a day. We rarely fight so when we do, it stings because it's something I'm not used to, and I start reacting like I am dealing with someone who he isn't that I used to fight with, much more frequently. So I get prickly, then shut down and don't want to talk, which is really what we should be doing. Instead I'm hiding out in the bedroom, which is beyond lame. Someone tell me something to make me feel like I'm not completely selfish in buying what I want with my own money.

[Voice of Reason 10,298]

3 minutes ago, laylalex said:

Okay, somehow it is unacceptable if I spend almost the same amount on skincare today as the pair of jeans he bought??? His reasoning is along the lines of, well, that stuff gets used up and all I'm left with is empty containers but he still has a pair of jeans. I pointed out that he already has many, many jeans, and he just liked the look of these new ones. My purchase was an investment in myself, and in keeping my skin healthy. I'm never taking him to the Grove again. Oh, and I was made to wait while he looked at new iPads at the Apple Store, even though I pointed out he has a perfectly serviceable one. I *did* win on this point. 

 

Uggghhh. He's also commandeered the TV to watch John Wick. Again. Sorry this is 100% whining from me. Just been a day. We rarely fight so when we do, it stings because it's something I'm not used to, and I start reacting like I am dealing with someone who he isn't that I used to fight with, much more frequently. So I get prickly, then shut down and don't want to talk, which is really what we should be doing. Instead I'm hiding out in the bedroom, which is beyond lame. Someone tell me something to make me feel like I'm not completely selfish in buying what I want with my own money.

A) You should be in the kitchen making him some banana bread to enjoy while watching John Wick.  Be a dear and get out of the bedroom. 

2) Skin care products are a waste of money.  You should seriously consider a couple of months of nothing but showers/soap/dry (or at the very most, a bit of lotion after the shower).  Seriously, I think you wimminz put WAY TOO MUCH man-made chemicals into your pores.  Especially makeup.

 

Poor Alex.  The struggles he must endure.  Jeans are (almost) forever.