Rante Macabre

[TBoneTX 44,927]

Saturday GS/ES report, see man:

 

The two ESs were full-casa but duds, oh well man.

Local & community GSs yielded the take, see man:

  -- pair of brushed-nickel switchplates = $1, steal man

  -- shirt + book for Mini-B. = $1 + half a buck, deal man

  -- shirt for Mini-B. = $1, OK man

  -- Many (2+2) packs party plates; pair hotmats new-with-tags = $1 + half-of-half a buck,

          steal man

  -- book for Mini-B. = half-of-half a buck, deal man

Total = $Many ($2+2+1)

Edited November 24, 2020 by TBoneTX

[fip & jim 452]

1 hour ago, TBoneTX said:

Half-of-half an hour before planned end of siesta, Mrs. T-B. phones, intrusive she man.

She wanted to pick up more of her clothes et al., retrieve in stages she man.

Mrs. T-B. arrived half-of-half an hour later than promised, cheated us of zzzs she man.

Waltzed in rather breezily/haughtily, making beeline to collect stuff, beelining she man.

 

Announced that she wanted Mini-B. for Xmas as well as Thanksgiving, violate orders she man.

I've been absent for a while but gather that you and Mrs T-B have separated. It must be a difficult time for you and I hope Mini T-B is coping as well as can be expected.

 

From (bitter) personal experience I suggest that you re-draw boundaries ASAP, which will lead to better mental wellbeing in the future and more cordial relations for co-parenting. It takes time to untangle what has taken years to enmesh. After my major relationship breakdown (pre-LDR and current spouse) I found that all the problems that were in the relationship continued because my sense of self had been eroded over years of parenting and necessary compromise, and I continued to allow myself to be taken for granted, pick up the pieces, etc. What I found helpful was to draw up an inventory of what I wanted for myself, which didn't include being taken for granted or picking up the pieces every time ex-Mr-Fip stuffed up. This inventory included being valued and appreciated, and then I put boundaries in place to ensure that is what I got. Ex-Mr-Fip railed against this new arrangement, because of course it didn't suit him, but it made room for me to be ok for myself and for my children. A couple of months after Ex-Mr-Fip had left the family home he still had not collected all his belongings and was using my home as free storage and using me as arrranger of everything that he found tedious (continuation of previous problems in the relationship), inspite of, or possibly in-spite of my courteous requests for a clean break. I packed up all his belongings and messaged him asking to agree to a date that he would be able to collect them (taking back control is an important part of setting boundaries). I did not engage in any kind of emotional texting/phone calls/emails and gave him the impression that from now on it was strictly business between us, and that business was being parents to our children. This may seem harsh when you have shared so much of your life together but I had learned from others' mistakes during the crucial separation stage, and that how it is handled can have repercussions for many years. You are not obligated to answer your phone, or allow Mrs T-B access to your house, or give any explanation why, if it does not suit you. She can wait until a mutually agreed time, unless the matter is Mini T-B and there is an emergency. 

 

As for holidays and sharing Mini T-B, it is only fair that turns are taken and that his wishes are also taken in to consideration. Try to make this agreement now and appeal to her sense of fairness. If you end up divorcing there will inevitably be mediation to come to an agreement on parenting Mini T-B. My final piece of advice is to communicate all arrangements for Mini T-B in writing. Keep these communications child-focused. If there is a custody dispute in the future this can then be used as evidence of willingness to co-parent. All other communications should be minimal as you all recalibrate to the new circumstances. Mini T-B will learn the new rules for each household and his own way to navigate the situation. Each parent has their own way of parenting, just as when you were together. Unless you are concerned about Mini T-B's welfare then let Mrs T-B do things her way at her home and you will expect the same when Mini T-B is with you. Generally parents want the same things for their children, however they may go about achieving that - health, happiness, and a good education. Don't sweat the small stuff. 

 

This is a grieving process for everyone. If Mini T-B is still struggling in a couple of months then you could try to find a suitable therapist for him (worked very well for my son). It does get better. Wishing you and Mini T-B the best. 

 

 

[SAT 9,609]

Saturday, 14th....

 

Blowout,

Front tire,

Interstate,

Yukon, 

Me, 

Front, 

Alive,

Lucky, 

Damage,

Caliper,

Tow,

Upstate, 

$

 

 

[SAT 9,609]

You know, everything that was supposed to happen on Friday the thirteenth, happened on Saturday the 14th...

My wife's boss, her husband, fell 4 steps from a ladder, and died. 55 years old.

[Ontarkie 14,175]

10 hours ago, SAT said:

Saturday, 14th....

 

Blowout,

Front tire,

Interstate,

Yukon, 

Me, 

Front, 

Alive,

Lucky, 

Damage,

Caliper,

Tow,

Upstate, 

$

 

 

Omg how scary. I had the kids with me once when the tie rod snapped on my car. Luckily it happened before I hit the highway. So I can totally related to the fear. 

 

 

8 hours ago, SAT said:

You know, everything that was supposed to happen on Friday the thirteenth, happened on Saturday the 14th...

My wife's boss, her husband, fell 4 steps from a ladder, and died. 55 years old.

Oh how sad, you would not thin 4 steps was all to high 😭

[SAT 9,609]

I was able to conclude that he either

 

1- had a heart attack, fell off the ladder, and died. 

2- fell off the ladder, had a heart attack, and died.

 

They have a trans son, an estranged daughter, and a daughter in college..

 

[NikLR 13,227]

12 hours ago, SAT said:

Saturday, 14th....

 

Blowout,

Front tire,

Interstate,

Yukon, 

Me, 

Front, 

Alive,

Lucky, 

Damage,

Caliper,

Tow,

Upstate, 

$

 

 

Yikes!

[TBoneTX 44,927]

12 hours ago, SAT said:

everything that was supposed to happen on Friday

Many (2+2) steps off a ladder would have to be either a heart attack or falling really, really wrong, sigh man.

 

What happened with the tyre that caused a blowout, huh man?

[TBoneTX 44,927]

Thrilling Sunday report, see man:

 

Slept less well than we'd hoped, average zzz we man.

Didn't plan on leaving the casa, perfect Sunday envisioned man.

However, Mama T-B. called us to retrieve leftovers from her serviced lunches, get we from she man.

 

For lunch right after, we ate both soups, ingest we man.

We ate one of the two salads, ingest we man.

We ate two of the Many (2+1) desserts, ingest we man.

 

We then took an unsuccessful nap, frustrating man.

 

Thread-Laundress report, see man:

We did all our stuff in (drum roll, man) ONE load, unprecedented man.

This sure beats 2, Many, Many, Many, Many, and certainly Many loads, undoubtedly man.

We have spoken and thus reported, history made man.

 

Mini-B. made it just in time to watch AFV, bachelor tradition man.

Mini-B. renewed acquaintances with New Miu, big brother to little sister man.

Mini-B. actually seems to have fallen asleep, amazing man.

Mon. is Picture Day at skool, so we shall dress him appropriately*, assiduous we man.

       *Mini-B. long ago outgrew this shirt:  "If I don't match, it's because Daddy dressed me"

[TBoneTX 44,927]

 

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[TBoneTX 44,927]

20 hours ago, fip & jim said:

you and Mrs T-B have separated

Si, F ma'am (we had a better nickname for you, but we forgot it -- what was it, huh ma'am?).

20 hours ago, fip & jim said:

I hope Mini T-B is coping as well as can be expected.

Surprisingly, he seems to be, so far, amazing to us man.

20 hours ago, fip & jim said:

I packed up all his belongings and messaged him asking to agree to a date that he would be able to collect them

She's been taking stuff slowly, si ma'am; she was going to rent a storage space but decided against it because she expects to move into the rental casa as soon as the deadbeat tenant's lease expires, end of March man.  Her stuff isn't particularly disruptive to keep here, we must say man.

20 hours ago, fip & jim said:

I did not engage in any kind of emotional texting/phone calls/emails and gave him the impression that from now on it was strictly business between us, and that business was being parents to our children.

She's whacko, si and sigh F ma'am, sometimes harsh toward us but more often half-seriously saying that she misses us, si ma'am.

20 hours ago, fip & jim said:

As for holidays and sharing Mini T-B, it is only fair that turns are taken and that his wishes are also taken in to consideration. Try to make this agreement now and appeal to her sense of fairness. If you end up divorcing there will inevitably be mediation to come to an agreement on parenting Mini T-B.

The mediation agreement has a very formal schedule set, and a formal Many'rd-party site through which we're to communicate, judge's orders man.  However, she hasn't signed up for it, so we are using it to keep contemporaneous notes, good repository man.

20 hours ago, fip & jim said:

All other communications should be minimal as you all recalibrate to the new circumstances. Mini T-B will learn the new rules for each household and his own way to navigate the situation. Each parent has their own way of parenting, just as when you were together. Unless you are concerned about Mini T-B's welfare then let Mrs T-B do things her way at her home and you will expect the same when Mini T-B is with you. Generally parents want the same things for their children, however they may go about achieving that - health, happiness, and a good education. Don't sweat the small stuff. 

This is dead-nuts accurate, si F ma'am; the problem is that neither she nor her lawyer are particularly motivated to complete the final pieces of the process, no man, and we have no compelling authority to get them to move on it, no man.  Our lawyer charges us for every Many (2+2+2) minutes of work on our behalf, including sticking pins into the slowpoke opposing lawyer, $igh man.

[Ontarkie 14,175]

5 hours ago, SAT said:

I was able to conclude that he either

 

1- had a heart attack, fell off the ladder, and died. 

2- fell off the ladder, had a heart attack, and died.

 

They have a trans son, an estranged daughter, and a daughter in college..

 

I starting thinking the same. Poor guy and family. 

[Cyberfx1024 7,980]

I saw something funny today while driving and I immediately thought of this group. I was driving around doing errands on my day off and I saw a "Dane Life" sticker on the back of a car in front of me. 

[SAT 9,609]

1 minute ago, Cyberfx1024 said:

I saw something funny today while driving and I immediately thought of this group. I was driving around doing errands on my day off and I saw a "Dane Life" sticker on the back of a car in front of me. 

It was Dutch running away from Trophie...

[SAT 9,609]

22 hours ago, TBoneTX said:

 

 

What happened with the tyre that caused a blowout, huh man?

 

I'll sell it to you for 10 bucks