Rante Macabre

[SAT 9,609]

24 minutes ago, cdneh said:

No? Does that matter?

Yes, she was far from "indulged" or "catered to". 

[SAT 9,609]

 

She pretty much lived in squalor till about 26

[cdneh 3,112]

12 minutes ago, SAT said:

Yes, she was far from "indulged" or "catered to". 

But she has been since.

[theresaL 408]

2 hours ago, cdneh said:

One who has no responsibilities. One who has been long indulged, catered to. Every possible thing is being done for her. Why should she lift a finger.

I would add, SAT that you are enabling her to be this way. Stop enabling. That's what I did with my ex-husband but by that point the marriage was very dead just waiting to be buried.

[Lil bear 4,230]

14 hours ago, TBoneTX said:

Congratulations, si AA ma'am*/man*!

     *please specify, si AA ma'am/man

We got a pet cat and you got a pet peeve, si AA ma'am/man.

Pet peeves don’t cost as much .. no food needed and no vet bills !! Good thinking !! 

[Lil bear 4,230]

On 7/15/2020 at 1:37 AM, Asia said:

A little off topic My bathroom is finished 

 

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Oh I love it !! Well done !! Not off topic at all !! Need topics like this atm 

[trudi 1,317]

2 hours ago, SAT said:

 

She pretty much lived in squalor till about 26

 

2 hours ago, cdneh said:

But she has been since.

 

1 hour ago, theresaL said:

I would add, SAT that you are enabling her to be this way. Stop enabling. That's what I did with my ex-husband but by that point the marriage was very dead just waiting to be buried.

^^ this

if you stop giving them everything and stop doing everything for them maybe things will change, if they don't then maybe you need to decide what you can live with

 

We have bought a new (to us) 5th wheeler so we can run to AL and leave MIL to her own fantasy world, we have decided that she is going to keep pulling out strings if we stay so we're getting out 

[cdneh 3,112]

18 minutes ago, trudi said:

 

 

^^ this

if you stop giving them everything and stop doing everything for them maybe things will change, if they don't then maybe you need to decide what you can live with

 

We have bought a new (to us) 5th wheeler so we can run to AL and leave MIL to her own fantasy world, we have decided that she is going to keep pulling out strings if we stay so we're getting out 

Exactly. And I'd not be bringing anyone else over to add to your misery.

 

She's not going with you!?!

[trudi 1,317]

42 minutes ago, cdneh said:

 

 

She's not going with you!?!

She says she is but has refused to actually clear out any of her stuff (she's a hoarder) and is constantly changing her mind so we decided we aren't going to play her silly games, if she wants to come she knows what she needs to do

[TBoneTX 45,361]

5 hours ago, SAT said:

He's getting divorced

Emulate him, starting now man.

Is Nueva York a community-property state, huh man?

PM us, do it man.

Edited July 19, 2020 by TBoneTX

[cdneh 3,112]

19 minutes ago, trudi said:

She says she is but has refused to actually clear out any of her stuff (she's a hoarder) and is constantly changing her mind so we decided we aren't going to play her silly games, if she wants to come she knows what she needs to do

Good for  you! Sometimes people need the hard word put on them.  She probably doesn't really believe you will do it.

[trudi 1,317]

51 minutes ago, cdneh said:

Good for  you! Sometimes people need the hard word put on them.  She probably doesn't really believe you will do it.

It's going to be harder than I'd like to admit to leave her to fend for herself, she is 86 next month but she is so darn toxic we have to go for our own preservation

[cdneh 3,112]

18 minutes ago, trudi said:

It's going to be harder than I'd like to admit to leave her to fend for herself, she is 86 next month but she is so darn toxic we have to go for our own preservation

I understand that,  when my MIL gave us the boot in 2017 at Christmas, I was worried what would happen to her. Particularly as I knew she wasn't altogether 'there'.  She was 86 at the time, will turn 90 in a few months, and is still making people around her miserable.  I am glad to this day that I got Himself off and away from her.

Seriously, reservations aside, pack up and go.

[Lil bear 4,230]

49 minutes ago, trudi said:

It's going to be harder than I'd like to admit to leave her to fend for herself, she is 86 next month but she is so darn toxic we have to go for our own preservation

She will survive. Take this for yourselves. Yes it will be painfully hard and you shouldn’t have to do it .. but when “usual ways” of being with people doesn’t work ... it means it’s not you .. try something else. Go!!!!! 

[SAT 9,609]

17 hours ago, trudi said:

 

 

 

 

We have bought a new (to us) 5th wheeler so we can run to AL and leave MIL to her own fantasy world, we have decided that she is going to keep pulling out strings if we stay so we're getting out 

 

I pretty much ignore my stepmother too. 

I'm the one stuck taking care of her. I didn't sign up for this 4 decades ago. 

Thank heavens I saw this coming from a really young age. 

I didn't bank on my father leaving me anything. 

So I went off on my own since 18. 

Now, over 3 decades later, I did pretty good.

But....I'm stuck taking care of her...

And she's being an ahole about it. 

She hoards money, with nowhere to spend it. 

So she gives it all to my sis, who does absolutely nothing for her. 

 

 

Tiff finally got up today at around 930, on her own. 

Asked me if I need anything, with an attitude. 

It's unbelievable. 

It's like they're doing me a favor...

There are 130s pending for the other 3 siblings. 

And her sister here, when the time comes, I suppose I have to be the sponsor as well. 

And this is the attitude I get? 

 

Now when and if they come, I'm going to have to provide room and board as well. 

 

Longer term, the I-130s for the other 3 siblings...

Their priority dates should be in 4-6 years. 

I'm not going to ^%$#$%$ do this again. 

But by then, the older kid  will be 15-16, I bet she'll try to get the kid to do it. 

 

It's unbelievable  how useless my BIL is. 

How the %$#$ is he in the business of real estate? 

Can't even find someone to fill out a DS 260? 

Well, it's daddy's money that he's been using to buy flats. 

 

I remember a conversation we had in 2013. 

The kid thinks he knows a lot. Having visited 0 other countries in his life. 

He thought Malaysia was the shits lol 

I told him, "You have not experienced liberty and freedom"