Getting divorced just after receiving a marriage based Green Card

[Georgia16 2,858]

2 hours ago, Emi79 said:

Thank you.

And no, Green Card is going to be delivered to his mom’s and step dad’s address where we first lived. I trust the step dad, he is being supportive to mez

Okay remember you have to change address with USCIS within 10 days of a move (both you and daughters)

[Emi79 9]

8 minutes ago, Georgia16 said:

Okay remember you have to change address with USCIS within 10 days of a move (both you and daughters)

Should I really change my address now that they are sending the card already? 

[Georgia16 2,858]

1 minute ago, Emi79 said:

Should I really change my address now that they are sending the card already? 

Every time you move you have an obligation to change address. Also you said the card would come where you used to live so you didn’t updated that address either? 
just wait til you have the cards so you are sure to get them and then remember to change the address when you and the girls find your new place. 

[Emi79 9]

2 hours ago, Georgia16 said:

Every time you move you have an obligation to change address. Also you said the card would come where you used to live so you didn’t updated that address either? 
just wait til you have the cards so you are sure to get them and then remember to change the address when you and the girls find your new place. 

Well this is the safety place we are staying so we didn’t exactly move here.

But thank you for reminding. That is something I can easily forget in the middle of this all.

 

♥️

[Cata&Ben 199]

Hi Emi

I am reading about your case, I have not advice for you since I lack knowledge in this issuse but I wanted to ask a question.

I love love your country. I love Finland very much. I had the option to become a Finn citizen and I just didnt go for it. 

Looking back. at at times, I think it was a huge mistake.

My question is why do you choose to stay in the United States with all this situation of yours with a little child...

It is a difficult situation to be alone, with not much support, in a very complex economic system with not welfare state. 

But I know the power of Sisu 💕

I know my question doesnt help to your situation, I am just asking myself these days about previous decisions I made in my life. 

I am also sharing with you that overwhelming feeling of feeling powerless here. Hugs. 

 

Thank you 

Cata

 

 

[Emi79 9]

1 hour ago, Cata&Ben said:

Hi Emi

I am reading about your case, I have not advice for you since I lack knowledge in this issuse but I wanted to ask a question.

I love love your country. I love Finland very much. I had the option to become a Finn citizen and I just didnt go for it. 

Looking back. at at times, I think it was a huge mistake.

My question is why do you choose to stay in the United States with all this situation of yours with a little child...

It is a difficult situation to be alone, with not much support, in a very complex economic system with not welfare state. 

But I know the power of Sisu 💕

I know my question doesnt help to your situation, I am just asking myself these days about previous decisions I made in my life. 

I am also sharing with you that overwhelming feeling of feeling powerless here. Hugs. 

 

Thank you 

Cata

 

 

Hi

First, thank you for showing so much love towards our country 🇫🇮♥️
 

That is right that Finland is in some things much better country to leave than US. My personal decision to still stay here and not go straight away is really simple: I just moved my whole life to US last March. I sold everything and gave up my home and job and everything. We came here, went through the hardest missing home phase, settled here and started building our life here. Not to even mention the money (over $7000) we have spent.

 

Now when this happened from my husbands side is heart braking but as much as he has already done wrong, I don’t think that this should be a reason I again pack my whole life and again start from nothing. I can’t do it financially or have the strength to do it.

 

That I know that I will go back one day, but not in a panic, not this way, not because someone couldn’t what he promised to do.

 

But as soon as I get to work and settle down our lives here I can start making my own decision again, including decisions where to leave.

 

Thank you again for your lovely words about Finland 💖

 

and Hyvää Joulua (Merry Christmas) 😊
 

oh and P.S. My little child is already a 19 year old young lady 😊

Edited December 21, 2019 by Emi79

[Quarknase 1,072]

22 hours ago, Emi79 said:

Hi

First, thank you for showing so much love towards our country 🇫🇮♥️
 

That is right that Finland is in some things much better country to leave than US. My personal decision to still stay here and not go straight away is really simple: I just moved my whole life to US last March. I sold everything and gave up my home and job and everything. We came here, went through the hardest missing home phase, settled here and started building our life here. Not to even mention the money (over $7000) we have spent.

 

Now when this happened from my husbands side is heart braking but as much as he has already done wrong, I don’t think that this should be a reason I again pack my whole life and again start from nothing. I can’t do it financially or have the strength to do it.

 

That I know that I will go back one day, but not in a panic, not this way, not because someone couldn’t what he promised to do.

 

But as soon as I get to work and settle down our lives here I can start making my own decision again, including decisions where to leave.

 

Thank you again for your lovely words about Finland 💖

 

and Hyvää Joulua (Merry Christmas) 😊
 

oh and P.S. My little child is already a 19 year old young lady 😊

I so feel what you're stating here. I'm from Germany, got married here in the US and my husband turned out to be a violent piece of cr** only days after we got married. All the promises, all his words turned out to be lies and after filing my first police report the police officer looked him up in her phone (she probably wasn't allowed to) and hinted that he had an extensive list of domestic violence reports from his ex. Looking back I'm glad that she did this, as it helped me see that his violence was unlikely to go away.

Anyhow - I was all by myself in the US and of course the thought of going back to a much more comfortable life in Germany came up. But I decided against it because the thought of leaving my new life behind because of him was something I didn't want.

The US would have always reminded me of this scary and painful part of my life, and I was determined to create more (positive) memories in the US before - if ever - I return to Germany.

Fast forward - 4 years later - I am happily married and sponsoring my husband to come share a life with me in the US.

 

This shall pass, and I adore your clear mind and determination in this situation. And I'm sure you and your daughter are of great support for another ❤️

 

 

[Emi79 9]

5 hours ago, Quarknase said:

I so feel what you're stating here. I'm from Germany, got married here in the US and my husband turned out to be a violent piece of cr** only days after we got married. All the promises, all his words turned out to be lies and after filing my first police report the police officer looked him up in her phone (she probably wasn't allowed to) and hinted that he had an extensive list of domestic violence reports from his ex. Looking back I'm glad that she did this, as it helped me see that his violence was unlikely to go away.

Anyhow - I was all by myself in the US and of course the thought of going back to a much more comfortable life in Germany came up. But I decided against it because the thought of leaving my new life behind because of him was something I didn't want.

The US would have always reminded me of this scary and painful part of my life, and I was determined to create more (positive) memories in the US before - if ever - I return to Germany.

Fast forward - 4 years later - I am happily married and sponsoring my husband to come share a life with me in the US.

 

This shall pass, and I adore your clear mind and determination in this situation. And I'm sure you and your daughter are of great support for another ❤️

 

 

Thank you for sharing your story ♥️
 

I am so so sorry for that you had to go through all that 😔 But my starts (like they say here) how strong woman you are! Good job getting out of that kind of marriage.

 

Thank you for your support ♥️ I have been so alone with this thought about fighting my way trough this. Every Finn who is living a safe life here (money comes from their husbands) has all those opinions what I should do and how hopeless situation I have. I am sad that they don’t see that I have strength to go trough this. I don’t know all the options I have (which is the reason I wrote here the first time) but all the time I have had this thought that me and my daughter will survive from this and going to start our own life here and then later on move if I feel like it. 
 

Thank you so much for sharing your story♥️♥️ This will keep me going ♥️
 

And Frohe Weihnachten, Hyvää Joulua, Merry Christmas to you and your husband 🎄😊