Common sense OR Gamble for Wedding date?!?!?

[SalishSea 17,829]

2 minutes ago, Juli. said:

I'm not the kind of person who watch this kind of thing. You have a big imagination.  Have a good weekend.  😘😘 

And yet you somehow have managed to misunderstand the purpose of the K-1 visa anyway:

 

13 minutes ago, Juli. said:

I don't know all your storie but is good take time during the 90 days to be sure if you really want to marry someone

 

[HRQX 4,145]

8 hours ago, mandajoy98 said:

Based on other timelines it doesnt look like Advance Parole isnt issued as fast as 2-3 months anymore, more like 5-6 months realistically.

Correct. If he continues to be stubborn about the Feb 14 wedding and leaving the US for sister's wedding then he should pay for the I-485 ($1225) that will most likely be abandoned and the subsequent I-130 fee, NVC fees, USCIS Immigrant fee, etc. for the CR-1 process.

[Pitaya 2,577]

1 hour ago, Juli. said:

I don't know all your storie but is good take time during the 90 days to be sure if you really want to marry someone. IJS. hhaha

 

Good luck 

What you seem to be espousing is the fictional stuff of TV reality shows. Somehow, it seems that you may have a mistaken idea of the real purpose and method of the K1 Fiance(e) visa process. The Form I-129F visa petition instructions clearly states the the petitioner and beneficiary have 90 days to get married once the beneficiary enters the US. "The figuring out and deciding if you want to get married after US arrival" is nonsense, and should already be done and finished before the petitioner goes through all of the time and effort to apply for the K1 visa petition approval, and afterwards the beneficiary goes through all of the time and effort to apply for a K1 visa, not after the beneficiary comes to the US.  Not sure is it is due to imagination or comprehension. 

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Who May File Form I-129F?

You may file this petition if you are a U.S. citizen and:

1. You and your fiancé(e):

   1. Are legally free to marry and intend to marry within 90 days of your fiancé(e)’s admission to the United States; and

REF: https://www.uscis.gov/i-129f , Instructions, page 1

BTW, where are you in your visa journey, your timeline is vacant? 

 

Best of luck to you on your visa journey. 

[geowrian 22,337]

There is no requirement to marry with a K-1 visa...one can choose not to marry and go home.(beneficiary) or just stay single (petitioner).

That said, it certainly is not a time to figure out if you want to marry or not. Besides the obvious issue of signing an affidavit that you intend to marry already, the entire process is about 2 people who already want to marry, and 90 days is not nearly the time to figure that out or not, or to "confirm" what they were already thinking. It's for people comitted to marrying. Yeah, sometimes things happen and that falls apart, but that is not supposed to be part of the plan.

Edited December 14, 2019 by geowrian

[Nitas_man 3,100]

15 hours ago, mandajoy98 said:

Hello Visa Journey,

 

My fiance and I applied for  K1 visa and are coming to a close with an interview at Sydney on Feb 5th. All this should be exciting but I am no where near excited because of all this wedding planning stress along with the Advance Parole. 

 

My fiance feels so confident that he will be in the states by Valentines Day and wants to get married on that exact day in the form of a small elopement ceremony and dinner afterwards. He wants to get married the moment he comes off the plane so we can apply for Adjustment of Status and Advanced Parole in order to make it to his sisters wedding in Australia by the end of June.

 

PROBLEM: Its VALENTINES Day (everywhere is probably booked) and its five days before my birthday (Feb19). Not to sound spoiled but I really prefer not to have valentines day an anniversary, and my birthday all in the same week for the rest of our married lives. 

 

Based on other timelines it doesnt look like Advance Parole isnt issued as fast as 2-3 months anymore, more like 5-6 months realistically. SO I suggested we get married on March 1st because I really dont think 2 weeks will make a difference on getting this AP approved. My fiance thought this idea absolutely stupid but I dont want to make all these plans and hes not here by Feb 14th. It is a gamble and I am not willing to plan a wedding on one of the most busiest days of the year for him not to be here by chance. Until he has a visa in his hands I dont want to make risky plans and claim a wedding date. March 1st seems more realistic but he thinks its insane because he believes those two weeks will make all the difference in getting his AP in time.

 

If anyone else has advice, please share down below.

Thank you

Your fiancé is an optimist. That’s a good trait, until optimism = dumb decisions.
 

There is no, zero chance that a feb 5th interview in Sydney = a feb 14th wedding in the US.  Late feb, early March is more likely.  Giving time for marriage license application, etc good throwdown ceremony date is first week of March.

With that said, sister’s wedding end of June?  You don’t “marry and file AOS the next day”.  You marry, wait for the marriage certificate, then file AOS at soonest a week or two after the ceremony.  So - Earliest AOS filing date? Mid march.  Most likely?  Late March. 
 
Chances of making it to a June wedding?  😂😂😂😂😂 

 

This is really all about his sister’s wedding anyway.  
 

So choice:  Attend sister’s wedding and possibly start over or commit to yours/his, and send his sister a gift.

 

 

 

 

[JFH 12,190]

Yet another true-life story of why the K-1 is such a poor choice for many people. Thank you for posting this as it may give food for thought to others pondering the options who may find themselves in a similar situation of wanting to travel back home soon after arrival. 

 

He can leave the country before his AP is approved, the US is not a prison and we are all free to leave whenever we want. It’s getting back in that won’t be possible without AP or his GC.

 

We married on my husband’s birthday. The date was chosen deliberately by me so that he would never forget our anniversary. So far it’s worked well.

 

OP, you and I have the same birthday. We also share our birthday with Seal and Prince Andrew. As a Brit I used to be proud of my “royal birthday” but with recent events... anyway, you have my sympathy with a birthday so close to Valentines Day. My husband used to like to have flowers delivered to my office on my birthday but I asked him to stop doing that the year I took a train home from work on February 19 with a huge beautiful bunch of flowers and at least 20 people commenting on how my loved one “obviously forgot Valentine’s Day and is making up for it big time”. 

[Russ&Caro 1,549]

Delay the sister wedding. That's what makes the most sense to me.

 

EDIT: I should have read the entire thread. Of course Boiler would have given this advice earlier.

Edited December 14, 2019 by Russ&Caro

[Kate&Jason 24]

IMHO, it’s a bit tight to have the interview on the 5th and in the states and married by the 14th. It took 5 working days (a week calendar days) to get my passport back with the visa, so you can’t even book the flight until you have the passport in your hand realistically! 
 

Unfortunately when you enter the K-1 visa he must be prepared to forgo everything else, as hard as that is, to concentrate on starting his new life. It sucks i know! I’ve missed my sisters wedding and the birth of my nephew, it was hard and still is, but it’s the choice I made and everyone understood it’s just the way this visa works. 
 

he may be having a slight panic and trying to make everything fit. I understand Cos I was the same way! Looking back, it would have been easier on me and my partner to prioritize us and the process and just accept somethings And just rolled with it. It’s kind of out of your hands a bit! 
 

good luck I hope for you he gets his AP quick and can do it all! But I would definitely not make any wedding plans until his flight is booked! I stand with you, better to err on the side of caution than act on stress!! It’s tough! Hang in there! Xx 

[Temi & Obim 24]

22 hours ago, mandajoy98 said:

Hello Visa Journey,

 

My fiance and I applied for  K1 visa and are coming to a close with an interview at Sydney on Feb 5th. All this should be exciting but I am no where near excited because of all this wedding planning stress along with the Advance Parole. 

 

My fiance feels so confident that he will be in the states by Valentines Day and wants to get married on that exact day in the form of a small elopement ceremony and dinner afterwards. He wants to get married the moment he comes off the plane so we can apply for Adjustment of Status and Advanced Parole in order to make it to his sisters wedding in Australia by the end of June.

 

PROBLEM: Its VALENTINES Day (everywhere is probably booked) and its five days before my birthday (Feb19). Not to sound spoiled but I really prefer not to have valentines day an anniversary, and my birthday all in the same week for the rest of our married lives. 

 

Based on other timelines it doesnt look like Advance Parole isnt issued as fast as 2-3 months anymore, more like 5-6 months realistically. SO I suggested we get married on March 1st because I really dont think 2 weeks will make a difference on getting this AP approved. My fiance thought this idea absolutely stupid but I dont want to make all these plans and hes not here by Feb 14th. It is a gamble and I am not willing to plan a wedding on one of the most busiest days of the year for him not to be here by chance. Until he has a visa in his hands I dont want to make risky plans and claim a wedding date. March 1st seems more realistic but he thinks its insane because he believes those two weeks will make all the difference in getting his AP in time.

 

If anyone else has advice, please share down below.

Thank you

 

21 hours ago, Greenbaum said:

You know sometimes you just have to allow them to find out the hard way. Just go along with what he wants EXCEPT the Valentines day and Bday I agree with that so nix that idea now. Good luck. USCIS is all over the board with approved GC. My wife had to wait 14 months to get hers. Kinda sucks. BUT, naturalization was less then 3 months. Go figure.

I'll tell you to let him find out in the hard way because that is what my now wife did to me. I went for my interview ending of May and I got verbally approved and I insisted on buying my flight ticket even though she told me no but I wanted to be here by June 12 for her birthday. Almost caused a big fight between us then and she just left it alone; my visa wasn't ready till June 26 or so and I lost 80% of the flight money.  I also didn't want to file for EAD or AP with AOS because according to VJ people in my field office get greencard before combo card but she did the paperwork anyways and I have combo card and still waiting for my interview date. My wife was just laughing at me but I learnt my lesson. 

[SalishSea 17,829]

2 minutes ago, Temi & Obim said:

 

I'll tell you to let him find out in the hard way because that is what my now wife did to me. I went for my interview ending of May and I got verbally approved and I insisted on buying my flight ticket even though she told me no but I wanted to be here by June 12 for her birthday. Almost caused a big fight between us then and she just left it alone; my visa wasn't ready till June 26 or so and I lost 80% of the flight money.  I also didn't want to file for EAD or AP with AOS because according to VJ people in my field office get greencard before combo card but she did the paperwork anyways and I have combo card and still waiting for my interview date. My wife was just laughing at me but I learnt my lesson. 

Always listen to your wife ❤️ 😉

[Pitaya 2,577]

29 minutes ago, Jorgedig said:

Always listen to your wife ❤️ 😉

Happy wife, happy life !!! 

[kumbaya 139]

On 12/13/2019 at 2:48 PM, mandajoy98 said:

Hello Visa Journey,

 

My fiance and I applied for  K1 visa and are coming to a close with an interview at Sydney on Feb 5th. All this should be exciting but I am no where near excited because of all this wedding planning stress along with the Advance Parole. 

 

My fiance feels so confident that he will be in the states by Valentines Day and wants to get married on that exact day in the form of a small elopement ceremony and dinner afterwards. He wants to get married the moment he comes off the plane so we can apply for Adjustment of Status and Advanced Parole in order to make it to his sisters wedding in Australia by the end of June.

 

PROBLEM: Its VALENTINES Day (everywhere is probably booked) and its five days before my birthday (Feb19). Not to sound spoiled but I really prefer not to have valentines day an anniversary, and my birthday all in the same week for the rest of our married lives. 

 

Based on other timelines it doesnt look like Advance Parole isnt issued as fast as 2-3 months anymore, more like 5-6 months realistically. SO I suggested we get married on March 1st because I really dont think 2 weeks will make a difference on getting this AP approved. My fiance thought this idea absolutely stupid but I dont want to make all these plans and hes not here by Feb 14th. It is a gamble and I am not willing to plan a wedding on one of the most busiest days of the year for him not to be here by chance. Until he has a visa in his hands I dont want to make risky plans and claim a wedding date. March 1st seems more realistic but he thinks its insane because he believes those two weeks will make all the difference in getting his AP in time.

 

If anyone else has advice, please share down below.

Thank you

lol

 

me and my fiance have my bday, valentine's, wedding date/anniversary, and then her bday each week after the other 😅we just see it as time to take extended vacation all of february haha but i def understand

 

like everyone else said, might not have a green card that quickly though

[Lemonslice 4,841]

Leap year, February 29 would be cool.