Separation and moving back home

[Tanambera 84]

Hi everyone,

Unfortunately for me here I'm posting at the section...My relationship didn't work out. I have no intention to stay in the US. I already got my flight ticket. I wish I could get divorced before going back but the timeframe for my departure is too short. I don't think my ex-spouse and I will keep in touch. How can I make the divorce process while living overseas?

[Going through 5,671]

I'm sorry things didn't work out as you'd hoped.  Others will chime in with their experience and knowledge about how to handle divorce proceedings while overseas.

 

Also wanted to mention---if you weren't aware of it--- to file the i-407 (there is no fee) to voluntarily give up your LPR status...you can also file it in person with the US embassy/consulate in some cases.  It's a "loose end" that should be tied up.

 

https://www.uscis.gov/i-407

[kris&me 572]

see a lawyer here ASAP (you can call today and see today or tomorrow)

This is to protect your interests for the divorce

Any children?  important as you can not take a child out of the states (even out of a state) without spouse's approval

inform your spouse of name of your attorney and let him handle your side

I , personally ,  would not file for the divorce

i would let the USC pay spouse's lawyer,  and for the divorce  and the filing fees 

you only need to protect your rights under the divorce and a lawyer can explain this for a consultation fee

[Ontarkie 14,222]

You can file for divorce in your home country once you meet the laws for that there. 

[AA1 4]

On 12/10/2019 at 8:55 AM, kris&me said:

see a lawyer here ASAP (you can call today and see today or tomorrow)

This is to protect your interests for the divorce

Any children?  important as you can not take a child out of the states (even out of a state) without spouse's approval

inform your spouse of name of your attorney and let him handle your side

I , personally ,  would not file for the divorce

i would let the USC pay spouse's lawyer,  and for the divorce  and the filing fees 

you only need to protect your rights under the divorce and a lawyer can explain this for a consultation fee

Good advice. Maybe you even stay in US and get a well paid job. Don't give up your green card so easy, maybe later you regret.

[Tanambera 84]

On 12/10/2019 at 6:20 AM, Going through said:

I'm sorry things didn't work out as you'd hoped.  Others will chime in with their experience and knowledge about how to handle divorce proceedings while overseas.

 

Also wanted to mention---if you weren't aware of it--- to file the i-407 (there is no fee) to voluntarily give up your LPR status...you can also file it in person with the US embassy/consulate in some cases.  It's a "loose end" that should be tied up.

 

https://www.uscis.gov/i-407

Thank for your message. I red about the the i-407. I will consider it. Today, I feel confused. I don't know what to decide. 

[Tanambera 84]

On 12/10/2019 at 9:55 AM, kris&me said:

see a lawyer here ASAP (you can call today and see today or tomorrow)

This is to protect your interests for the divorce

Any children?  important as you can not take a child out of the states (even out of a state) without spouse's approval

inform your spouse of name of your attorney and let him handle your side

I , personally ,  would not file for the divorce

i would let the USC pay spouse's lawyer,  and for the divorce  and the filing fees 

you only need to protect your rights under the divorce and a lawyer can explain this for a consultation fee

We haven't children. I don't want anything such as material or whatever, also I have nothing to give. I can't afford a lawyer but I do read a lot.

7 hours ago, Ontarkie said:

You can file for divorce in your home country once you meet the laws for that there. 

We can't unfortunately 

[Tanambera 84]

2 hours ago, AA1 said:

Good advice. Maybe you even stay in US and get a well paid job. Don't give up your green card so easy, maybe later you regret.

I feel lost, afraid and tired. I don't know what to do or not to

[Going through 5,671]

32 minutes ago, IF-Mclean said:

I feel lost, afraid and tired. I don't know what to do or not to

It's hard in any marriage when it first starts out.  

 

Add in adjusting to living with someone, immigrating to a new country, giving up your friends and family, new lifestyle, losing a sense of your "self" in new surroundings---the adjustment period to a marriage is double-difficult.  I'm sure it's been a stressful time for you both, especially you in a new place.  

 

The first step is, naturally, deciding what you want to do.  If your support system is strong in your home country, and there is no hope for reconciliation, then perhaps it's beneficial to end the marriage and go back home.  You also have the option to remain in the US and even apply for citizenship when eligible if you wish to do so---then move back to your home country with the comfort that you are guaranteed entry into the US at any time in the future.

 

Talk to your spouse---perhaps marriage counselling would be beneficial.

[Ontarkie 14,222]

16 hours ago, IF-Mclean said:

We haven't children. I don't want anything such as material or whatever, also I have nothing to give. I can't afford a lawyer but I do read a lot.

We can't unfortunately 

 If you can't file in your home country once you establish residency (if that is required there) than you may be stuck waiting until your husband files.  

[Tanambera 84]

On 12/11/2019 at 9:09 PM, Going through said:

It's hard in any marriage when it first starts out.  

 

Add in adjusting to living with someone, immigrating to a new country, giving up your friends and family, new lifestyle, losing a sense of your "self" in new surroundings---the adjustment period to a marriage is double-difficult.  I'm sure it's been a stressful time for you both, especially you in a new place.  

 

The first step is, naturally, deciding what you want to do.  If your support system is strong in your home country, and there is no hope for reconciliation, then perhaps it's beneficial to end the marriage and go back home.  You also have the option to remain in the US and even apply for citizenship when eligible if you wish to do so---then move back to your home country with the comfort that you are guaranteed entry into the US at any time in the future.

 

Talk to your spouse---perhaps marriage counselling would be beneficial.

Thank you for your words. I felt as a fish out of water, having to learn everything from A to Z. I never thought it would be so hard. I'm going to give myself some time. I have decided not to decide in a rush. Now I know how people feel when this happens to them.

Thanks again.

[Tanambera 84]

9 hours ago, Ontarkie said:

 If you can't file in your home country once you establish residency (if that is required there) than you may be stuck waiting until your husband files.  

I'm going to wait a little bit. It's still fresh 

[Ontarkie 14,222]

44 minutes ago, IF-Mclean said:

I'm going to wait a little bit. It's still fresh 

A wise decision. 

[AA1 4]

On 12/11/2019 at 7:31 PM, IF-Mclean said:

I feel lost, afraid and tired. I don't know what to do or not to

Try to calm down and think what's the best for you. Don't give up on your life and your future easy, think and if you wish to live in US, do everything possible to stay. Many dream about this and never get this possibility. Now you are sad, disappointed and confused, later you may regret leaving it all. Try to think well and be strong.

[Tanambera 84]

On 12/13/2019 at 12:55 AM, AA1 said:

Try to calm down and think what's the best for you. Don't give up on your life and your future easy, think and if you wish to live in US, do everything possible to stay. Many dream about this and never get this possibility. Now you are sad, disappointed and confused, later you may regret leaving it all. Try to think well and be strong.

Thank a lot for your words 🤗