VAWA, Part 17

[HopeHope__ 72]

3 minutes ago, Stillwinning!!!😊 said:

I understand my dear. Good thing you're working with an attorney. Let's hope she's right. And also and most importantly, let's pray the officer catches the gist of the whole narrative.🙏

I hope so. 😞

[cashweed 22]

12 minutes ago, HopeHope__ said:

I completely understand your thoughts about it. At that time I insisted with my attorney about it but she said that I wasn’t the person committing fraud or doing anything wrong. In the end his marriage was real. It wasn’t a fraud. She was a victim like I was. About see the red flags... omg you won’t believe how manipulative and smart he is. He is better than the best actor in Hollywood. When I meet him I was in need and he came as a savior. We planned to have a baby. I thought he was the man of my life. 

This things you are saying about his manipulation, you being in need and he was like a saviour I hope you explained that well in your affidavit. I think in your case maybe it helps to show you fell for him because you were in a vulnerable situation. But also dont over do it so that then your marriage seems like not a good faith one. Since you have already send the statement. I think your character is the only one at stake. Maybe you should compensate for that with having alot of affidavits for your character. Places you have worked. Volunteer. Church or mosque. Anything that paints your character well. Maybe that will compensate. 

Also during that time you met him you said your were in need and he was like your saviour.. depending on what you mean by in need... maybe you can have talks with a psychologist about that time. For example if someone is depressed or even cant afford food or even very lonely they are prone to not see the red flags or make bad choices. Should we judge them for their choices?. 

Anyway since you already have send the statement. Try to gather other stuff which might help in your case. Just incase it turns bad for you. Also since this decision you made to fall for him back then seems have affected you maybe therapy can help. Who knows those therapy notes might come in hand incase things turn sour. Just my thought.

Sometime things just work out. Lets pray all will go well and the person handling your case will ignore that or understand it differently. 

[HopeHope__ 72]

6 minutes ago, cashweed said:

This things you are saying about his manipulation, you being in need and he was like a saviour I hope you explained that well in your affidavit. I think in your case maybe it helps to show you fell for him because you were in a vulnerable situation. But also dont over do it so that then your marriage seems like not a good faith one. Since you have already send the statement. I think your character is the only one at stake. Maybe you should compensate for that with having alot of affidavits for your character. Places you have worked. Volunteer. Church or mosque. Anything that paints your character well. Maybe that will compensate. 

Also during that time you met him you said your were in need and he was like your saviour.. depending on what you mean by in need... maybe you can have talks with a psychologist about that time. For example if someone is depressed or even cant afford food or even very lonely they are prone to not see the red flags or make bad choices. Should we judge them for their choices?. 

Anyway since you already have send the statement. Try to gather other stuff which might help in your case. Just incase it turns bad for you. Also since this decision you made to fall for him back then seems have affected you maybe therapy can help. Who knows those therapy notes might come in hand incase things turn sour. Just my thought.

Sometime things just work out. Lets pray all will go well and the person handling your case will ignore that or understand it differently. 

I think your advice is very good. I’m doing therapy with 2 psychologist. One is for my PTSD and the other is specialized in help victims of sociopaths  . I’m having therapy for over a year. Your suggestion of get an affidavit of people about my good moral character is very good. I’m very active on my church and my pastor also knows me very well so maybe he can help me. I had 5 friends writing affidavits but they were talking more about the abuse that they witnessed. I have more friends and family that can help me with that. 

[cindy122808 134]

9 hours ago, Stillwinning!!!😊 said:

Sometimes giving someone a second chance is like handing them an extra bullet because they missed us the first time!😏 A word they say, is enough for the wise! Those who have ears, let them hear!👍

I agree especially when it comes to abuse.

[Stillwinning!!!😊 4,570]

7 minutes ago, cindy122808 said:

I agree especially when it comes to abuse.

👍 Exactly what I was referring to. May God help us all.🙏

[Deserteagle 158]

21 hours ago, sandranj said:

You should not have a problem with her affidavit ok.

Thank you so much for responding. Means a lot to me 

[Mira20 46]

17 hours ago, Cob said:

my vawa got approved november 2018, since then i've been waiting for my green card interview. i'm nigerian. would this immigration ban affect my adjustment of status? please? @sandranj

 It applies to those that want to bring in their relatives with immigrant visa

[Firat(Tur) 11]

hi

I filed wawa and I got prima facie when I got married I did not go to school. I lost my f1 status. With pending wawa and prima facie. Can I go back to community college?

[jack182 24]

11 minutes ago, Firat(Tur) said:

hi

I filed wawa and I got prima facie when I got married I did not go to school. I lost my f1 status. With pending wawa and prima facie. Can I go back to community college?

Hey, you can

[DatMotorcycleRide 3]

Hi all! I am so thankful that this thread exists, knowing that I am not alone in this terrible situation and that there are other people out there who understand what being abused means. 

 

I am at early stages, haven't filed yet, because I am scared to file.. And honestly scared to take the step and leave. I know it sounds crazy, but my question is if anyone here (or if you know anyone) got approved for GC and VAWA after filing on grounds of emotional abuse only? With no Incidents of physical abuse? This is nuts even asking this, but I am afraid that since I am not being physically abused - I shouldn't even try filing  I came on a K1 visa, been married for 6 months, just about to receive my first conditional GC (got EAD last week). My husband has been mentally abusing me since the day we got married (surprise, he was a charming person before that, I had no idea), besides the yelling/gaslighting and belittling me constantly he has tried to control my freedom: I wasn't allowed to have a phone number, I still don't have an US bank account cause he pressures me into putting the last of my saving in his account so he can control me completely, I am rarely allowed to meet up with friends, I always need to ask permission for every action, for every item I want to buy at the store (I pay with my own money, but it doesn't matter, I need to ask him first), he tells me what to wear... He also kicked me out from our apartment in November, but took me back after a week. I have a neighbour who witnessed that. 

I talked to an attorney - she says that I need to call the police during one of the incidents, in order to build a strong case for VAWA.. But I am afraid. I am afraid that they will come and I don't have any signs of physical abuse and he will manipulate the situation against me and tell lies to police about me... I am terrified! I am also terrified if police comes, believes him and just leaves - I don't know what he might do I me then for calling the police. But I know I can't live like this much longer. Does anyone have any advice or been in similar situation? Please share 🙏❤️

[Gi Gi 46]

@Stillwinning!!!😊 I’m pass a mth now and a day haven’t received any letter after getting vawa ead. In Fort Lauderdale. 

[Stillwinning!!!😊 4,570]

39 minutes ago, Gi Gi said:

@Stillwinning!!!😊 I’m pass a mth now and a day haven’t received any letter after getting vawa ead. In Fort Lauderdale. 

Hi some persons here have been waiting for over a month as well..give it some more time before contacting congressman.👍

[Stillwinning!!!😊 4,570]

4 hours ago, DatMotorcycleRide said:

Hi all! I am so thankful that this thread exists, knowing that I am not alone in this terrible situation and that there are other people out there who understand what being abused means. 

 

I am at early stages, haven't filed yet, because I am scared to file.. And honestly scared to take the step and leave. I know it sounds crazy, but my question is if anyone here (or if you know anyone) got approved for GC and VAWA after filing on grounds of emotional abuse only? With no Incidents of physical abuse? This is nuts even asking this, but I am afraid that since I am not being physically abused - I shouldn't even try filing  I came on a K1 visa, been married for 6 months, just about to receive my first conditional GC (got EAD last week). My husband has been mentally abusing me since the day we got married (surprise, he was a charming person before that, I had no idea), besides the yelling/gaslighting and belittling me constantly he has tried to control my freedom: I wasn't allowed to have a phone number, I still don't have an US bank account cause he pressures me into putting the last of my saving in his account so he can control me completely, I am rarely allowed to meet up with friends, I always need to ask permission for every action, for every item I want to buy at the store (I pay with my own money, but it doesn't matter, I need to ask him first), he tells me what to wear... He also kicked me out from our apartment in November, but took me back after a week. I have a neighbour who witnessed that. 

I talked to an attorney - she says that I need to call the police during one of the incidents, in order to build a strong case for VAWA.. But I am afraid. I am afraid that they will come and I don't have any signs of physical abuse and he will manipulate the situation against me and tell lies to police about me... I am terrified! I am also terrified if police comes, believes him and just leaves - I don't know what he might do I me then for calling the police. But I know I can't live like this much longer. Does anyone have any advice or been in similar situation? Please share 🙏❤️

A wounded mind is just as terrible as a wounded body! Abuse is abuse. If you read about VAWA you will find out all that you need to know. It includes physical and psychological/emotional/mental abuse. If you can prove either..then you qualify. We always encourage new members to read previous/early threads..it's very enlightening!👍 also online resources are very helpful as well. Gather all documents that you need..it's a good place to start. Are you attending therapy? Please start ASAP! The psychological evaluation will help you prove abuse in that regard! We are here for you. Hugs.❤

[Stillwinning!!!😊 4,570]

7 hours ago, Firat(Tur) said:

hi

I filed wawa and I got prima facie when I got married I did not go to school. I lost my f1 status. With pending wawa and prima facie. Can I go back to community college?

Lots of folks here have done that with a pending i360 and most importantly the prima facie! So I believe you can as well.👍

[A.DUBAI 23]

On 1/23/2020 at 7:22 PM, sandranj said:

You should be fine, but remember your Country is considered one Country with a high number of fraudulent marriages and a LOT of cases are denied.Go to see your wife at least once  before getting married. I do not suggest you going there and getting married right away. Wait to get married when you visit her for the second time.DO NOT PERFORM ANY RELIGIOUS CEREMONY BEFORE the exact day that you are getting married.

Thank you Sandra