VAWA, Part 17

[Sandra G. 5,048]

7 hours ago, luminarc said:

Quick question, does the current immigrant visa ban apply to vawa applicants? @sandranj

If you are talking about the travel restriction imposed by the Presidential Proclamation 9645(7 Countries) then the Section 7 of the Proclamation states who has AP  is exempt of the travel ban. I advise you to travel just after you speak with your attorney ok.

   

Edited February 1, 2020 by sandranj

[waqasah 1]

On 1/27/2020 at 11:04 AM, Stillwinning!!!😊 said:

You're sounding like you didn't go through abuse..but a few difficulties in your marriage..and now wifey is back to charm her way back into your arms. Well if that is the case you filed a wrong petition! You can always mend fences..but if deep down in your heart you truly were abused, you should be running in the opposite direction, as you'll be sucked/trapped in a vicious cycle! The choice is yours!👍

I love her. There is no need to explain this. She has tried to kill me at her best peek of anger. That's all I know. I have not contacted her. It's hard to explain. If you love someone, you can't even see her in pain. This is why I stayed with her. My attorney has forbidden me to contact her. Now, she is sending countless messages that she feels sorry. She knew I loved her crazy. This became my weakness. She is using that like she did in the past. 

[waqasah 1]

On 1/28/2020 at 1:47 PM, sandranj said:

You are wasting your time if your wife is indeed an abusive person. Talk without the support of action means nothing. How did  she show you that she changed? just because she told her friends is not enough, you need way more than this to reconcile.

 

Why do you want to reconcile with someone who doesn't love you? because it's clear that your spouse doesn't love you. Yeah she feels '"remoserful" because she needs you to pay her bills.

Yes Sandra, I am not sure what to do here. I am not responding her back. I loved her so much that I became a fool. I am not sure what to do here. Perhaps, it was her bills or Karma. I wanted to know if I talk to her, it will have any effects on VAWA. I am not sure. I am a human being and a man too. I still love her. I can't move on. I just don't wanna see her in any troubles. This thought is clinching my mind. 

[Abuga 25]

4 hours ago, sandranj said:

It's normal.I had cases that the USCIS took 2 months to issue the receipts.

Thanks Sandraj. Pls may I know when it took this 'client' to receive his ead if you know pls?. My abusive usc wife withdrew i130 and I will be out of work by the end of June including losing my graduate studies. I feel so worried and it is my earnest prayer that I at least get my ead from i360 filing? Pls can you share with my the timeline for this client whose receipt took about 2months

[Cob 6]

my vawa got approved november 2018, since then i've been waiting for my green card interview. i'm nigerian. would this immigration ban affect my adjustment of status? please? @sandranj

[cashweed 22]

8 hours ago, HopeHope__ said:

I have an attorney and when I asked her if I should say about his marriage she encouraged me even more to say the truth and write every detail about my whole situation. When I wrote my affidavit I was very sick, scared , depressed and having panic attacks. I was shocked with his behavior. He became a monster and I was 100% sure he would destroy my life  and take my baby from me like he promised me. So my focus when I wrote my affidavit  was to say the truth no matter what. My police record is clear, my marriage was real, I was abused physical and mentally so why I would not qualify for vawa ? because he told me he was in a fake marriage? What I supposed to do? Now I know his marriage was real but before that what I supposed to do? Report him without any proofs? It’s really complicated. 

Well if you have an attorney and you told her your story and told you to go ahead and tell it all then you should relax or express your fears to her. I suppose she read what you wrote before sending it?. Talk to her again about your fear and she might know something we dont know. I think you are in good hands so dont worry much. 

[Stillwinning!!!😊 4,570]

Sometimes giving someone a second chance is like handing them an extra bullet because they missed us the first time!😏 A word they say, is enough for the wise! Those who have ears, let them hear!👍

[Optimistic1986 146]

On 1/30/2020 at 7:06 PM, Stillwinning!!!😊 said:

N.Y. is moving at snail's pace. Will keep you posted.🙏😊

Thanks hun

[Stillwinning!!!😊 4,570]

21 hours ago, HopeHope__ said:

Hi dear friends ,

There is something  about my case that is making me feel really concerned. I dated my abuser for 8 months and got pregnant after that. During all this time he was married. On our first date he told me was married but his marriage was not real and he just got married 2 months prior our first date because he wanted to help his wife to get a green card. He told me they were living like roommates. I got really upset but I believe what he said. In the begging of the relationship he was very kind and gentle with me. He helped me financially a lot and was always with me. I really thought he had a good heart. We were dating I truly believed on him. We rented a place together after 6 months. He had his interview for green card with his ex wife when we’re dating and she got her temporary green card. Right after we found out I was pregnant he started his divorced proceedings. When our baby born we got married. In the the end I found out that his marriage was real. He was cheating her like he did with me. He has a pattern : his ex wife, his new lover and I are from the same country and city! I found out he would lie about everything in his life and when I confronted him he became very abusive. It’s was a completely nightmare. I suffered physical abuse but the mental abuse is worse. We are still married because he doesn’t want to get divorce and he is always using ou baby to manipulate me. He is a very wealth and powerful person and get divorce with a baby it’s very complicated. He lives in another state but he comes home almost every weekend. That is how he can keep his double life. Every time I try to get divorce he threatens me saying he will take our baby from me and nobody will believe on me because he give us a very high end life.All I want is to protect my baby.  
I wrote everything on my affidavit everything but I’m very concerned if they will believe on my story. What do you guys think? 

I went through this briefly last night but wanted to absorb the details with a clear head in the morning. We're not here to judge anyone as we all make mistakes. But I believe you saw the red flags and chose to ignore. I mean this guy literally told you who he was..a snake! But you still stayed/continued with him that's why you're in this sensitive situation now. The deed has been done..you have submitted your affidavit to USCIS..the good, the bad and the ugly! We can only pray that God's mercy and favour rules on your behalf!🙏🙏🙏 truth be told most of the things you wrote are incriminating and a very bad look. I pray that somehow it all works out for your good!🙏

[HopeHope__ 72]

8 hours ago, sandranj said:

To prove abuse you need to submit a police report or a psychological evaluation, hospital record etc.. Infidelity and lies are not grounds for VAWA, you need to prove the abuse psychological and/or physical.

Hi @sandranj I do have psychological evaluation and ER Report. My concern isn’t about to prove abuse. I’m worried because when I met him he was married and I continue dating him because I believe on his story that his marriage with his wife was fake and he was with her only to give her green card. People here are saying that this could affect my good moral character   and could be use against me and this fact incriminates me. I’m afraid they are right but I would like to know your thoughts about it. 

[HopeHope__ 72]

31 minutes ago, Stillwinning!!!😊 said:

I went through this briefly last night but wanted to absorb the details with a clear head in the morning. We're not here to judge anyone as we all make mistakes. But I believe you saw the red flags and chose to ignore. I mean this guy literally told you who he was..a snake! But you still stayed/continued with him that's why you're in this sensitive situation now. The deed has been done..you have submitted your affidavit to USCIS..the good, the bad and the ugly! We can only pray that God's mercy and favour rules on your behalf!🙏🙏🙏 truth be told most of the things you wrote are incriminating and a very bad look. I pray that somehow it all works out for your good!🙏

Thanks for your opinion. I understand what you said. 

[Stillwinning!!!😊 4,570]

14 minutes ago, HopeHope__ said:

Hi @sandranj I do have psychological evaluation and ER Report. My concern isn’t about to prove abuse. I’m worried because when I met him he was married and I continue dating him because I believe on his story that his marriage with his wife was fake and he was with her only to give her green card. People here are saying that this could affect my good moral character   and could be use against me and this fact incriminates me. I’m afraid they are right but I would like to know your thoughts about it. 

While you're waiting for Sandra's opinion, I just want to state that no one knows for sure how the case may go..having a bad look and incriminating does not necessarily translate to a denial! It's just that your affidavit ropes you in as well in the supposed "greencard scheme" you discussed in your post. That's where the bad look comes in.. It basically says you knew he was participating in a scheme and stayed with him. Almost like an accomplice. Let's just pray it won't matter and that the officer will instead see your vulnerability and how gullible you were at the time. I'm praying it works out for your good.🙏

[HopeHope__ 72]

4 hours ago, cashweed said:

Well if you have an attorney and you told her your story and told you to go ahead and tell it all then you should relax or express your fears to her. I suppose she read what you wrote before sending it?. Talk to her again about your fear and she might know something we dont know. I think you are in good hands so dont worry much. 

She did wrote my affidavit and she revised it. We discussed a lot about it and at the time I was confident about my story. But now I with a clear mind of everything that happened I can’t stop thinking about what USCIS will think about my story. My attorney knows me very well because I worked for her as paralegal for over a year so she knows everything I’m saying is true and she knows who I’m but maybe the fact that she was in my life during this period made her blind for the fact that USCIS doesn’t know me like her. 

[HopeHope__ 72]

15 minutes ago, Stillwinning!!!😊 said:

While you're waiting for Sandra's opinion, I just want to state that no one knows for sure how the case may go..having a bad look and incriminating does not necessarily translate to a denial! It's just that your affidavit ropes you in as well in the supposed "greencard scheme" you discussed in your post. That's where the bad look comes in.. It basically says you knew he was participating in a scheme and stayed with him. Almost like an accomplice. Let's just pray it won't matter and that the officer will instead see your vulnerability and how gullible you were at the time. I'm praying it works out for your good.🙏

I completely understand your thoughts about it. At that time I insisted with my attorney about it but she said that I wasn’t the person committing fraud or doing anything wrong. In the end his marriage was real. It wasn’t a fraud. She was a victim like I was. About see the red flags... omg you won’t believe how manipulative and smart he is. He is better than the best actor in Hollywood. When I meet him I was in need and he came as a savior. We planned to have a baby. I thought he was the man of my life. 

Edited February 1, 2020 by HopeHope__

[Stillwinning!!!😊 4,570]

4 minutes ago, HopeHope__ said:

I completely understand your thoughts about it. At that time I insisted with my attorney about it but she said that I wasn’t the person committing fraud or doing anything wrong. In the end his marriage was real. It wasn’t a fraud. She was a victim like I was. About see the red flags... omg you won’t believe how manipulative and smart he is. He is better than the best actor in Hollywood. When I meet him I was in need and he came as a savior. We planned to have a baby. I thought he was the man of my life. 

I understand my dear. Good thing you're working with an attorney. Let's hope she's right. And also and most importantly, let's pray the officer catches the gist of the whole narrative.🙏