The Visa Struggle

[Libin222 4]

Hello Everyone,

This is (removed) wife of(removed) (the account owner), I took to this platform to share our story. A little hesitant in the beginning, but Here I am folks  I live in Mumbai, and as much I love Mumbai, I am excited and enthralled at the thoght of moving in with my husband. I got married to my love on the 30th June 2018. And as mentioned in our profile , 1st week of Aug was when we filed our case. Our expectation from the immigration process was not as worse as it is now. We have been through lot many tough days and months. My husband has been traveling too and fro from Dallas to meet me, I even tried for a tourist visa but was rejected (what if I stayed longer in USA than what I claimed, this could be their basis for rejection). It's been almost one and a half year since we have been married, but I haven't seen my future home. I have suffered a lot because of lack of sleep, depression and stress and I don't think anything can compensate for the initial years we  lost. To worsen it, the consulate in Delhi has stopped issuing Interview letters, too increase the load in Mumbai  embassy. In addition to sleep deprivation, this wait has costed us ticket fares and festivities without our better half. I know many families suffering silently because of this, and I don't understand why cant we be permitted entry via tourist visa when others can? People commit fraud despite their marital status. Living in your home country becomes difficult with temporary jobs, no employer wants to recruit somebody leaving the country. It makes my heart sad to know that we have no tentative timelines in place, so that we can have a plan in place. I know my  situation will see no fruit full outcome, but I wish and pray there was a medium in which we could plea to the governing bodies to shorten the wait times. Imagine humans deprived of family life, yeah these are basic necessities. Lastly, I hope we all gain enough strength and courage to fight this phase of life through, AND yes...God Bless America!

Edited December 3, 2019 by Ontarkie
edited to remove personal information

[Nitas_man 3,100]

Has your petition been approved?

 

My wife didnt get an interim tourist visa either.  They didnt even ask questions - the “interview” was just an official “hell no we aren’t giving you a visa”

[Libin222 4]

1 hour ago, Nitas_man said:

Has your petition been approved?

 

My wife didnt get an interim tourist visa either.  They didnt even ask questions - the “interview” was just an official “hell no we aren’t giving you a visa”

I know right.

[Just Paul 4,595]

Now that you are at the NVC stage things will move a lot faster.  

 

The spousal process does move slower than the Fiance Visa process but there are definitely benefits to the path you have chosen.

 

We made the decision to move to a third country to be closer together.   You just do what you can to keep the relationship going.

 

[SalishSea 17,837]

On 12/2/2019 at 4:33 AM, Libin222 said:

Hello Everyone,

This is(removed) wife of (removed) (the account owner), I took to this platform to share our story. A little hesitant in the beginning, but Here I am folks  I live in Mumbai, and as much I love Mumbai, I am excited and enthralled at the thoght of moving in with my husband. I got married to my love on the 30th June 2018. And as mentioned in our profile , 1st week of Aug was when we filed our case. Our expectation from the immigration process was not as worse as it is now. We have been through lot many tough days and months. My husband has been traveling too and fro from Dallas to meet me, I even tried for a tourist visa but was rejected (what if I stayed longer in USA than what I claimed, this could be their basis for rejection). It's been almost one and a half year since we have been married, but I haven't seen my future home. I have suffered a lot because of lack of sleep, depression and stress and I don't think anything can compensate for the initial years we  lost. To worsen it, the consulate in Delhi has stopped issuing Interview letters, too increase the load in Mumbai  embassy. In addition to sleep deprivation, this wait has costed us ticket fares and festivities without our better half. I know many families suffering silently because of this, and I don't understand why cant we be permitted entry via tourist visa when others can? People commit fraud despite their marital status. Living in your home country becomes difficult with temporary jobs, no employer wants to recruit somebody leaving the country. It makes my heart sad to know that we have no tentative timelines in place, so that we can have a plan in place. I know my  situation will see no fruit full outcome, but I wish and pray there was a medium in which we could plea to the governing bodies to shorten the wait times. Imagine humans deprived of family life, yeah these are basic necessities. Lastly, I hope we all gain enough strength and courage to fight this phase of life through, AND yes...God Bless America!

Wait times are directly related to volumes of applications......    tourist visa denials are directly related to fraud and past behavior by people from specific countries.....

 

Some friendly advice:  "Imagine humans deprived of family life" - you can look at it this way, or you can look at it as being a result of your own life choices.  No one is forcing you to marry someone from another country, or to immigrate to the US.  Immigration is a privilege, and it is a choice to not be victimized by the red tape that goes along with it.

Edited December 3, 2019 by Ontarkie
edited quote to remove personal information

[Going through 5,671]

Many have been in your shoes---leaving spouses and sometimes even their children in another country for a long period of time.  Fortunately, immigration is a two-way street...and some families end up living in the foreign country because the location of their family doesn't matter as much as the togetherness.

 

It's good that you are able to vent some of your frustrations out here.  I wish you luck.

[Ontarkie 14,227]

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[Libin222 4]

On 12/4/2019 at 1:11 AM, Paul & Mary said:

Now that you are at the NVC stage things will move a lot faster.  

 

The spousal process does move slower than the Fiance Visa process but there are definitely benefits to the path you have chosen.

 

We made the decision to move to a third country to be closer together.   You just do what you can to keep the relationship going.

 

Thanks Paul and Marie :) Hoping this moves faster :)

[Libin222 4]

On 12/4/2019 at 1:55 AM, Jorgedig said:

Wait times are directly related to volumes of applications......    tourist visa denials are directly related to fraud and past behavior by people from specific countries.....

 

Some friendly advice:  "Imagine humans deprived of family life" - you can look at it this way, or you can look at it as being a result of your own life choices.  No one is forcing you to marry someone from another country, or to immigrate to the US.  Immigration is a privilege, and it is a choice to not be victimized by the red tape that goes along with it.

Hi Jorgedig,

 

Sorry but love and relationship knows no boundaries, :) If this was by force trust me wait would have been lot easier. For me immigration is a "right" more than a privilege. I am not saying I am victimized that's a very wrong tag to add :)

[Libin222 4]

On 12/4/2019 at 3:37 AM, Going through said:

Many have been in your shoes---leaving spouses and sometimes even their children in another country for a long period of time.  Fortunately, immigration is a two-way street...and some families end up living in the foreign country because the location of their family doesn't matter as much as the togetherness.

 

It's good that you are able to vent some of your frustrations out here.  I wish you luck.

Yes so true. Thank you so much and wish you luck and prosperity this Christmas season :)

[JoyfulJen 4]

OMG, this is exactly how I feel. I am living in Dallas and my husband is from Kerala, India. His visiting visa application was also rejected due to the same reason. I never thought it would take such a long time for this process. it was a package of  sleep deprivation, depression , tears, anger, frustration, hopelessness, insanity(almost)...I could go on and on. It had taken a toll on both of our mental health, our jobs. There were times I thought about quitting my job and move to India with him, but need the job and income for AOS. I thought 2019 would be the best year of my life being with the love of my life. But it has been just the opposite. Let's all hope 2020 will bring all the happiness to us and to everyone waiting like us.

Stay strong, girl. You are almost there! 

[ujones 148]

On 12/16/2019 at 3:32 PM, JoyfulJen said:

OMG, this is exactly how I feel. I am living in Dallas and my husband is from Kerala, India. His visiting visa application was also rejected due to the same reason. I never thought it would take such a long time for this process. it was a package of  sleep deprivation, depression , tears, anger, frustration, hopelessness, insanity(almost)...I could go on and on. It had taken a toll on both of our mental health, our jobs. There were times I thought about quitting my job and move to India with him, but need the job and income for AOS. I thought 2019 would be the best year of my life being with the love of my life. But it has been just the opposite. Let's all hope 2020 will bring all the happiness to us and to everyone waiting like us.

Stay strong, girl. You are almost there! 

Hi Joyful Jen. I’m from Kerala too. Stay strong friend.