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[KJ34 10]

47 minutes ago, Lemonslice said:

Why do you only have a vague idea of what she'll be doing?

 

As others, I'm afraid there's more red flags than I can count. Is there any way you could live together for a few months and see how real/true her stories, and your relationships, are?

I believe that's what she said she will do, I wish I could but I work at a hospital it's hard to take that much time off

 

 

4 minutes ago, PatLuvO said:

Have you filed the K1 yet? I know you’re deeply in love with her but it’s starting to look like the relationship is very one sided. It appears she uses the love you have for her to get things from you. There is a lot going on in her life that you do not know about.  I do not know the life perils or what trans women go through but if the focus is the future you all are planning together she should not put so much pressure on you financially.  You’re  going through a lot of turmoil with this relationship and I hope it works out for you but there are so many red flags. I don’t want to chastise you or put your fiancée down in anyway that’s not my aim. Love is a gamble especially when dating someone from another country but we all have to be wise.

yeah we're waiting on the NOA 2 She's leaving because she's ashamed and can't face the people there and they will laugh at her so she feels she needs to go

[PatLuvO 284]

27 minutes ago, KJ34 said:

I believe that's what she said she will do, I wish I could but I work at a hospital it's hard to take that much time off

 

 

yeah we're waiting on the NOA 2 She's leaving because she's ashamed and can't face the people there and they will laugh at her so she feels she needs to go

Wishing her a successful surgery and recovery. Hopefully afterward she will be happy and be at peace. Please don’t put yourself in financial ruins for the sake of the relationship. Don’t be afraid to set your foot down if something she requests is outside of your financial means. I wish you both the best.

[KJ34 10]

Now she's stuck in Thailand because immigration took a hour interviewing her so she had to rebook her flight and she had to pay extra for the bag she brought, now she short on her surgery money, she cant do the teaching thing because she needs a license no telling how long that takes, and shes whining about wanting to go home, but refuses to leave... I'm really frustrated, I think the only thing that would make her leave is our NOA 2 which hasn't came through yet, and even asked if I had 2,000 as if it magically popped in my bank account because you want to be impulsive and irrational, I want to give her the benefit of the doubt but I'm afraid this behavior will bleed into our marriage, and if it does we will be homeless here , going to a country because people talk about you behind your back and scrambling to get this surgery.. real smart

Edited February 2, 2020 by KJ34

[Zach2015 211]

On 2/2/2020 at 8:36 AM, KJ34 said:

Now she's stuck in Thailand because immigration took a hour interviewing her so she had to rebook her flight and she had to pay extra for the bag she brought, now she short on her surgery money, she cant do the teaching thing because she needs a license no telling how long that takes, and shes whining about wanting to go home, but refuses to leave... I'm really frustrated, I think the only thing that would make her leave is our NOA 2 which hasn't came through yet, and even asked if I had 2,000 as if it magically popped in my bank account because you want to be impulsive and irrational, I want to give her the benefit of the doubt but I'm afraid this behavior will bleed into our marriage, and if it does we will be homeless here , going to a country because people talk about you behind your back and scrambling to get this surgery.. real smart

Can I be honest with you? When my wife was in the Philippines, she didn’t ask me for a dime and she didn’t work. I paid for all the k1 expenses, but she never asked me for money for anything else. Maybe it’s because we knew each other before she had to go back home to the Philippines. I think you are being scammed and need to walk away. Unfortunately, easier said than done when it involves the heart. Oh yes, the spending gets worse when they are here 😂

[KJ34 10]

Ah yeah, I mean at times I felt obligated to help because you know I'm her future husband and I wanted to be there for her, I didnt want her to be homeless or do something drastic, That's my fault I believe, she never really flat out asked at times, She's still in Thailand they're times we barely talk, i'll be calling her here and there and no answer sometimes...I was gonna help and give my tax returns but looks like they may reduce it so now i dont know...I wanted to do that to truly see if she will stick around or not.. I know it's dumb but she's my first everything it's hard to give up for me

[KJ34 10]

On 2/15/2020 at 11:49 AM, KJ34 said:

Ah yeah, I mean at times I felt obligated to help because you know I'm her future husband and I wanted to be there for her, I didnt want her to be homeless or do something drastic, That's my fault I believe, she never really flat out asked at times, She's still in Thailand they're times we barely talk, i'll be calling her here and there and no answer sometimes...I was gonna help and give my tax returns but looks like they may reduce it so now i dont know...I wanted to do that to truly see if she will stick around or not.. I know it's dumb but she's my first everything it's hard to give up for me

Yeah thats why I'm  worried about this taking so long...other cases around us are getting awnsers and we all filed the same day...

[Zach2015 211]

14 hours ago, KJ34 said:

Yeah thats why I'm  worried about this taking so long...other cases around us are getting awnsers and we all filed the same day...

Just maybe in your case, you shouldn’t rush this. 

[neilsqueen 433]

You seem very young.  Have you talked to your parents for advise on this?  You really need someone close to you to help you see things for what they are.  Something that hasn't been mentioned is the fact that you will be on the hook for a LONG time financially if you do marry her and things don't work out.  Are you prepared to live life without her and still be responsible for her if she becomes a public charge?  I pray you open your eyes and brain to see all the red flags and please stop thinking with your heart.  I don't know you but I'm very concerned for you.  You seem like a very decent young man who is desperate for love.  Please slow down and seek someone who is deserving of you.  Best wishes!

[KJ34 10]

41 minutes ago, neilsqueen said:

You seem very young.  Have you talked to your parents for advise on this?  You really need someone close to you to help you see things for what they are.  Something that hasn't been mentioned is the fact that you will be on the hook for a LONG time financially if you do marry her and things don't work out.  Are you prepared to live life without her and still be responsible for her if she becomes a public charge?  I pray you open your eyes and brain to see all the red flags and please stop thinking with your heart.  I don't know you but I'm very concerned for you.  You seem like a very decent young man who is desperate for love.  Please slow down and seek someone who is deserving of you.  Best wishes!

Yeah I've talked to my parents about this, they stopped believing in this once I found her on the escort site the first time 

[Hank_ 9,174]

Escort site???  That isn't a red flag .. that's is a fire truck with lights and siren blazing!

[KJ34 10]

1 minute ago, Hank_ said:

Escort site???  That isn't a red flag .. that's is a fire truck with lights and siren blazing!

Yeah, like i was saying earlier it was all for her surgery claimed she had no customers, she said that when i found her again recently.

[Cyberfx1024 7,980]

3 hours ago, KJ34 said:

Yeah, like i was saying earlier it was all for her surgery claimed she had no customers, she said that when i found her again recently.

If she had no customers then why keep a profile on that site? 

[KJ34 10]

2 minutes ago, Cyberfx1024 said:

If she had no customers then why keep a profile on that site? 

Yeah she took them down after i caught her

[Cyberfx1024 7,980]

35 minutes ago, KJ34 said:

Yeah she took them down after i caught her

It's ok bro, we all live and learn in life.  There are many other great Filipinas around that need a good man. 

[Lemonslice 4,852]

6 hours ago, KJ34 said:

Yeah, like i was saying earlier it was all for her surgery claimed she had no customers, she said that when i found her again recently.

You seem to be a very caring and loving person.  Having to dig to find one's fiancé(e)s selling their sexual services on the internet is not normal (unless that is your special kink, which it does not seem to be). 

Please take a step back and look at it logically - what would you say to a friend telling you your story?  

When reading this article on Relationships red flags , how many boxes are you checking?  

Take care and stay safe.