Have a issue...

[KJ34 10]

5 minutes ago, Duke & Marie said:

I’m sorry, I may be a little bias but I’ve seen too many male Aussie friends of mine have similar issues with dare I say Thai ladies 🙈 that have turned out to be scams for cash or visas.. t

 

im seeing major alarm bells here... 

 

if you do do a passport check just know a lot of countries no longer stamp passports it’s all going electronic these days.. I’ve got just two entry and exit stamps for maybe 10 countries.. 

 

i wish you luck, truely, but if your all already having trust and secrecy issues, you might wanna reconsider the whole relationship thing

I mean i met her family and everything i don't understand all of this seemed real, shes excited to get married to me eventhough she wants her sex change surgery first but she said she would put her dream aside so we can do the surgery in Thailand together...this may seem weird but this could be a huge misunderstanding 

[KJ34 10]

32 minutes ago, Lemonslice said:

Look up previous versions of her pages...

 

https://archive.org/

 

Extra points for pictures she shared with you "only".

I've tried this but i already screen capped it 

[Fogi 91]

9 minutes ago, KJ34 said:

No i wasnt aware,

How much does she make, this is another red flag. Engaged people know each others wages. 

[SalishSea 17,693]

1 minute ago, KJ34 said:

I mean i met her family and everything i don't understand all of this seemed real, shes excited to get married to me eventhough she wants her sex change surgery first but she said she would put her dream aside so we can do the surgery in Thailand together...this may seem weird but this could be a huge misunderstanding 

I guess what it boils down too is.....if it turns out she is an escort/prostitute, can you live with that?  If that is her occupation, it doesn't mean what you had/have isn't real.

[Nitas_man 3,100]

28 minutes ago, KJ34 said:

Yeah, i do she had one post i remember seeing asking someone to unlock her wechat and one of those numbers on that site was a wechat number when my friend tried to access it, it this number was comprised or something 

She has a webchat as well as escort travel business?

Run

[KJ34 10]

2 minutes ago, Jorgedig said:

I guess what it boils down too is.....if it turns out she is an escort/prostitute, can you live with that?  If that is her occupation, it doesn't mean what you had/have isn't real.

The fact she lied when the proof was presented to her and didn't tell me before this got deeper then no..

[Duke & Marie 1,389]

2 minutes ago, KJ34 said:

I mean i met her family and everything i don't understand all of this seemed real, shes excited to get married to me eventhough she wants her sex change surgery first but she said she would put her dream aside so we can do the surgery in Thailand together...this may seem weird but this could be a huge misunderstanding 

Thailand is awesome for surgery and super cheap.. gosh if I was brave enough my body would be 20 years younger... 😂 

 

I think you just need to talk to her? Say how you feel that not adding etc makes you nervous or even feels like she’s ashamed of you.. etc... if she still don’t add you them perhaps there is something she’s hiding.. 

 

Just remember too though, social media has been the undoing of many couples... really quite a nasty little tool.. particularly where trust in a relationship is not established 

[SalishSea 17,693]

1 minute ago, KJ34 said:

The fact she lied when the proof was presented to her and didn't tell me before this got deeper then no..

Makes sense.  So sorry.....

[KJ34 10]

1 minute ago, Duke & Marie said:

Thailand is awesome for surgery and super cheap.. gosh if I was brave enough my body would be 20 years younger... 😂 

 

I think you just need to talk to her? Say how you feel that not adding etc makes you nervous or even feels like she’s ashamed of you.. etc... if she still don’t add you them perhaps there is something she’s hiding.. 

 

Just remember too though, social media has been the undoing of many couples... really quite a nasty little tool.. particularly where trust in a relationship is not established 

Yeah she mentioned that adding each other may not be good because that's what causes issues in couples and she doesn't want  her trans friends to "steal" me from her like her ex

[Duke & Marie 1,389]

2 minutes ago, KJ34 said:

Yeah she mentioned that adding each other may not be good because that's what causes issues in couples and she doesn't want  her trans friends to "steal" me from her like her ex

Yeah, not sounding good... if was me, I’d cut strings as say later 👋👋

[KJ34 10]

9 minutes ago, Duke & Marie said:

Yeah, not sounding good... if was me, I’d cut strings as say later 👋👋

I need anwsers from her before this...it may sound bad but she could be truthful here I'm just scared to assume without proof..maybe because this is my first real relationship like ever, like every time i sent her money for something she needed she always send me the pic of the receipt, no matter how much I sent 

Edited November 12, 2019 by KJ34

[Villanelle 4,122]

One huge mistake you are making is believing if she truly loves you then she wouldnt lie to you. Those two concepts are independent of each other. Make sense? You keep saying things like her emotions seem real so therefore if they are then everything else is a misunderstanding. Or if she has lied then she must be faking her emotions as well. Again she can have legit emotions for you and still be lying to you. 

 

A few things are pretty clear. She is hiding stuff from her past and possibly present from you and you are too afraid to confront her about it. Trust is a key part of a solid foundation needed in a marriage. You do not have that and should think twice about moving forward with out having a serious conversation with her about things. 

[jskibo 588]

Guess I'll ask the missing question. 

 

What were you doing trolling escort pages?

 

I can't remember ever "stumbling" on escort pages...

 

But still, run fast, you obviously have doubt when you started stumbling around the pages.  

 

Good luck

[RO_AH 1,658]

You need to understand that there are what I would consider professional scammers there in the Philippines as well as many other countries. They do this for a living and they are pro's. You are an amateur. They know how to bait you, they know how to hook you, they know how to keep you on the line as long as possible. They know how to play your emotions, they say all of the right things, they have all the right answers. Like I said, they are pro's. This is also very big within the gay/trans community there.

 

I am not saying that is the case here, but I see a lot of red flags like everyone else here. Here is how you get played. You allow your heart to make all of the decisions. Once you do that your heart convinces your mind to disregard all of the red flags it sees. In these LDR with people from another country, you must ALWAYS use your brain as the filter to your heart and ALWAYS be skeptical.

 

Everything that everyone here has said to you as a warning, you came back with an excuse trying to defend the circumstances. That is my biggest red flag. If you have not watched 90 Day Fiance Before the 90 Days, you should watch the most recent season. You remind me of Ceaser.

 

Good luck to you.

 

 

[Carpe Vinum 2,327]

Your heart is telling you it is a misunderstanding. But, your brain is telling you the truth. That's why you posted this on VJ. You are being played. Deep down you know this. Time to walk away....