Letters from family and friends

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5 hours ago, jaysaldi said:

Hi, I remember your case. I think submitting a bunch of affidavits from people who have never met her and never seen the two of you together will not help you.   They are not in any position to help the consular officer determine if your relationship is genuine. The fatal flaw in your case was that you were set up by her (scheming?) aunts in your hometown and flew to Cambodia to meet her once and had an engagement party on your first meeting.  

 

You need to meet her again and spend face time together to overcome the suspicions about the relationship moving too fast and about your fiancee's motivation being reunification with her family.  Affidavits from her family members advocating for you or affidavits from your friends saying "I've never met this woman but I know she's in love with him" aren't going to move the needle it all. 

I've been back since the denial, and I have another trip coming before her next interview. I haven't kept up to date with my progress here, because honestly, I see no point to do it. I appreciate the help I've received from some members, but it feels like no one personally cares about anyones situation. I thought this was supposed to be a site to help people going through difficult times, not a place where people are going to post questions, and than get snarky responses like. "Looks like my price has gone up". It's just not necessary. 

 

[Boiler 45,527]

I have not met her, how many of the people providing affidavits have?

[jaysaldi 213]

45 minutes ago, Dataunavailable said:

I've been back since the denial, and I have another trip coming before her next interview. 

 

That's good. Good luck.

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12 hours ago, Boiler said:

I have not met her, how many of the people providing affidavits have?

My parents have spoken with her regularly for the last two years, my dad just passed away, so I have to bring a copy of the death certificate to prove that I'm sure. Because he wrote a letter and I'm not sure if the embassy will or would call, since everyone left a phone # and email to be reached. 

 

The rest are mainly character letters, showing I dont't hide our relationship from anyone, specific things they know about me personally. No one is begging a consular to make any specific decision. It's no different than me taking letters of recommendation to a job interview,  these are from people who have known me for a long time. 

 

I've also stated in my post to the OP, that I don't know if they will make a difference. 

 

And while I appreciate that you have been around here for a long time. You can also be extremely rude at times. Not that it makes a difference one way or the other. You have to remember what it's like being on the other side of the fence for so many people who don't have their significant others here yet. You can think a question is ridiculous, or whatever else you want about people, that's your freedom, but you're also here as a higher standing member of this community. 

 

So try to step back at times and remember the frustration and feelings you felt while going through your own process. 

[jaysaldi 213]

1 hour ago, Dataunavailable said:

 Because he wrote a letter and I'm not sure if the embassy will or would call, since everyone left a phone # and email to be reached. 

 

The rest are mainly character letters, showing I dont't hide our relationship from anyone, specific things they know about me personally. No one is begging a consular to make any specific decision. It's no different than me taking letters of recommendation to a job interview,  these are from people who have known me for a long time. 

 

I've also stated in my post to the OP, that I don't know if they will make a difference. 

 

 

It's not really a job interview though.  They don't call people who send in letters. You need a self-contained package of evidence that supports the petition. They look at it for 1-2 minutes before calling her up to the window. They're not going to go outside that and call people who write letters on your behalf. They won't ask for proof your Dad is dead.

My concern here is twofold. 1. Don't include any affidavits from her family in the USA because there may be a concern that they are driving this whole thing and that may have been a reason why you were denied the first time.  You want to take here family's fingerprints off this as much as possible.  2. Loading your petition with lots of letters from people who have never met her may make the consular officers say "This is unusual to have all these letters and from people who haven't met her, they're not helpful at all, and why are they submitting all these letters, is the rest of his evidence really weak?"

They're going to spend 1-2 minutes reviewing what you submit, I'd recommend you really focus the submission on your strongest evidence -- the boarding passes, the photo evidence of three visits, etc. If you can take her on a trip together from Cambodia to Thailand or something and have photos/boarding passes that will help too.

But that's just my opinion/advice. It's your call.