Freshman Rep. Katie Hill resigns amid allegations of affair with staffer

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1 minute ago, laylalex said:

There is no very fine line. There is no line at all. As I have mentioned to you before, he does not take his temper out on me. It is reserved for those who deserve it.

And if one day he decides you do deserve his temper? What then?

 

You've been in relationships. It's not always a honeymoon, is it? Ever fought with him? I'm not talking about "you're five minutes late collecting me, I shall pout and not speak with you for awhile" fight, nor an argument where you're cross with one another for a few hours, but a truly hurtful no quarter taken fight that every single couple eventually finds themselves in. I suspect you have not. But when it inevitably happens, I do suspect he will decide you deserve his temper.

 

I've used no outside sources to form my opinions on your fiance. Only your own words.

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31 minutes ago, Boris Farage said:

And if one day he decides you do deserve his temper? What then?

 

You've been in relationships. It's not always a honeymoon, is it? Ever fought with him? I'm not talking about "you're five minutes late collecting me, I shall pout and not speak with you for awhile" fight, nor an argument where you're cross with one another for a few hours, but a truly hurtful no quarter taken fight that every single couple eventually finds themselves in. I suspect you have not. But when it inevitably happens, I do suspect he will decide you deserve his temper.

 

I've used no outside sources to form my opinions on your fiance. Only your own words.

We have had one large disagreement, about how I handled information about his sister that she had asked me not to tell him. I kept her confidence; he did not think I should have, and that it was keeping secrets. Yes, there were raised voices, and yes, there was a sulk afterwards. We are still working through it. We understand where the other is coming from even though we still don't agree, and may never. And even though there was shouting and stomping about and some not nice things said, there was nothing fatal. Nothing we couldn't work towards resolving. There's no resentment, just a lack of understanding.

 

If you've read anything from me that makes you think otherwise, I'm going to go with your tendency towards melodrama again. But that's okay. You can have a peck on the cheek, too. 😘

 

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I feel I am in some American version of Pride and Prejudice.

[laylalex 7,300]

7 minutes ago, Boiler said:

I feel I am in some American version of Pride and Prejudice.

I finished that Sense & Sensibility you recommended. It was excellent, thank you for the tip.  

[Voice of Reason 10,298]

What was the movie you guys recommended again?  Not the joker,  but the other one.

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Just now, ALFKAD said:

What was the movie you guys recommended again?  Not the joker,  but the other one.

Parasite. Alex and I were literally talking about it now -- a guy in the legal department at his work saw it: 

 

Parasite is a dark comedy

 

😛

 

Chris the lawyer says it's a dark comedy if Hitchcock had written it

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20 minutes ago, laylalex said:

 

Parasite is a dark comedy

 

😛

 

is it about an ex wife?  

[Boiler 46,406]

2 minutes ago, laylalex said:

I finished that Sense & Sensibility you recommended. It was excellent, thank you for the tip.  

I am no expert on the period, but the characters seem more believable as far as age is concerned, the mother was 39  at the time, I assume the father 50 when he died but that would not have been uncommon at the time. Most of these adaptions seem to show the characters significantly older.

 

 

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22 minutes ago, Boiler said:

I am no expert on the period, but the characters seem more believable as far as age is concerned, the mother was 39  at the time, I assume the father 50 when he died but that would not have been uncommon at the time. Most of these adaptions seem to show the characters significantly older.

 

 

I think Elinor's supposed to be around 20 and Marianne around 16? It makes so much more sense with them being these ages rather than whatever age Emma Thompson was (I checked -- 36.)

 

I read quite a good modern retelling of P&P this summer by Curtis Sittenfeld (who writes beautiful stories about class in America -- her books "Prep" and "American Wife" are fantastic) titled "Eligible." It reimagines the setting in Cincinnati, with Mr. Bingley a recent contestant on a show like The Bachelor, and Darcy as his surgeon colleague. Lydia and Kitty are Crossfit fanatics, Jane is a yoga instructor and Mary has a dark secret that turns out to be not nearly as exciting as everyone thought it would be. Lizzie writes for a women's magazine and Wickham (now Jasper Wick) is as charming and dastardly as ever. (Lydia has a completely different romance though, not involving him.) I ate the whole thing up in a weekend.

 

I think Joanna Trollope did the modern retelling of S&S in the same series.

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1 hour ago, Ban Hammer said:

is it about an ex wife?  

That would be a horror movie.

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31 minutes ago, laylalex said:

I think Elinor's supposed to be around 20 and Marianne around 16? It makes so much more sense with them being these ages rather than whatever age Emma Thompson was (I checked -- 36.)

 

I read quite a good modern retelling of P&P this summer by Curtis Sittenfeld (who writes beautiful stories about class in America -- her books "Prep" and "American Wife" are fantastic) titled "Eligible." It reimagines the setting in Cincinnati, with Mr. Bingley a recent contestant on a show like The Bachelor, and Darcy as his surgeon colleague. Lydia and Kitty are Crossfit fanatics, Jane is a yoga instructor and Mary has a dark secret that turns out to be not nearly as exciting as everyone thought it would be. Lizzie writes for a women's magazine and Wickham (now Jasper Wick) is as charming and dastardly as ever. (Lydia has a completely different romance though, not involving him.) I ate the whole thing up in a weekend.

 

I think Joanna Trollope did the modern retelling of S&S in the same series.

As a general rule of thumb I do not like re positioning of historical stories to other periods, usually to make any sense they have to be changed so much that it becomes a why bother, also comes across as lazy like all the many sequels that Hollywood seems to like churning out now.

 

They have Becoming Jane on Netflix, not watched that and probably will.

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5 minutes ago, Boiler said:

As a general rule of thumb I do not like re positioning of historical stories to other periods, usually to make any sense they have to be changed so much that it becomes a why bother, also comes across as lazy like all the many sequels that Hollywood seems to like churning out now.

 

They have Becoming Jane on Netflix, not watched that and probably will.

Well, the Sittenfeld and Trollope books are in a series -- it's not been uniformly well received. I'd been given a copy of the book by a friend who said I needed something to distract myself this summer, and I had no expectations going in. All I knew is that I liked Sittenfeld's writing, and that I'd enjoyed P&P when I'd read it in college. It was sufficiently different that I enjoyed it for itself rather than just as an update. 

 

I have not seen Becoming Jane either -- the preview I watched when it autoplayed didn't appeal to me.

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9 hours ago, laylalex said:

At least he's trying. It's the least of his sins. Other women enabled this but it stops now.

There's nothing quite as nice as a woman who latches onto man and sets about changing him.  You are an angel!!

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Just now, ALFKAD said:

There's nothing quite as nice as a woman who latches onto man and sets about changing him.  You are an angel!!

There's a difference, though, between setting about changing someone and supporting him in his own efforts to change, I think. I told him I wanted some help, and he said he'd like to help, he just didn't know how to make life easier for me. I love cooking -- don't get me wrong -- but I would also like him not to be eating out of a can of Hormel Chili when I'm not there. And I know myself, I'm likely to spend time cooking and freezing stuff so that he can just microwave something healthy and delicious instead of something out of a can or another meal delivery (the costs add up -- we can afford it, but he is also trying to work on his tendency to let money flow through his hands). So he can help me by learning how to cook, even just a little. He can cook pasta, he's not a complete idiot, but I'm teaching him how to make gnocchi from scratch this weekend.   It's something fun we can do together when we're not looking for a new place -- he's put that on hold until all the power outages are over.

 

I don't want him to change, not a bit. He's pretty great just the way he is, even if I did get an engagement bracelet.  (Kidding, I really do love it.)

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3 hours ago, laylalex said:

even if I did get an engagement bracelet.  (Kidding, I really do love it.)

It's nice. But it's not a ring, is it?