US SPOUSE, cheating, lying, abusing mentally

[tiberonsuave 0]

hello Everyone.. Thanks for all your comments, advices, support..

Well, we talked. We are going to separate, eventually divorce. Facts as follows:

Leaving some lies behind and because I love him, I insisted in make this marriage works. Offered my help, even financially. He is weak (or I dont find the word).. He opened his heart, some hours of hard drama, and asked me to leave him. He says, he is realizing his past is such a mess, and now, after living together in the US, he feel guilty, he can't made me happy.

Yeah. It hurt me.. a Lot.. He confessed the Ex is taking the child support debt off him if he does what she "needs" for the kids. ??!! And I wonder myself! Did I really get married with this man!????? Im angry, sad, I feel sorry !

So, yeah.. what is next is moving from this house, start again. We barely mentioned the AOS process, but he told me, "If you want it, you got it.. dont worry about it, Im not filing divorce until you do, now or in years":..

It has been hard, but we are still friends, we still sleep together, we still have dinner together. What is funny is, now while we have a conversation during dinner, we talk about "what are you planning to do, when you wanna live now, are you going to tell your family, how you see yourself without me.." wow! before we used to talk about our future together..

And for those playing the devil's advocate:

You are right "mermaid". Some of his Child Support was a direct consequence of his stay abroad with me. While in my country, even my brother offered help financially, he always said everything was ok, child support thing was automatically paid, deducted from a bank account. And Yes, he accepted he was outside US trying to forget his past, dues, problems, etc..Obviously now I can see it clear as crystal.

If you arrived in the USA in Feb 2007 on a K-1, how did he satisfy USCIS Affidavit of Support issues, if he lived with you for 3 years in your country? And if he did submit an I-134, how did he resolve the domicile issue? Surely, the I-134 was a tip-off to his financial situation, no?

We submitted the affidavit of course. Any expense and affidavits and financial stuff for the process has been made with my money. The domicile issue was never a problem because he owns an apartment in the US, so almost all correspondence was sent to the US address, then via fedEx to my home.

removed.

[Ban Hammer 13,491]

All of this and you are STILL sleeping with him?!

I am sorry but I can only arrive at two possibilities.

One...you are very messed up. If so, get professional help. FAST!

Two...you will do anything to get a greencard. I would rather believe this than the first choice. I can at least understand it a little more. However, you immigration is based on marriage and your marriage is over. It seems you are using the boy.

Luck in your endevors.

t

i think the above is jumping to a conclusion.