Bride-to-be swallows engagement ring in her sleep during an 'action-packed' dream

[TBoneTX 46,000]

17 minutes ago, yuna628 said:

plenty of couples do just fine

"Bigamy is having one wife too many.  Monogamy is the same thing."

[laylalex 7,300]

11 hours ago, ALFKAD said:

Marriage is NOT a payoff.  It is simply a means for a judge to get involved in your split up.

 

you could live in harmony forever without a marriage (minus the other-country aspect)

Maybe "payoff" isn't the right word -- I mean, I know I don't need to be married to "prove" anything to anyone about our relationship or its strength. If we were a "domestic" couple, maybe we would have been okay just staying unmarried partners. But there's something symbolic about marriage beyond just the legal stuff. The joining of names (I will be adding his to my maiden name for a double barrel if I can -- I never took my maiden name back when my divorce was final so I may not be able to), the bringing together of families, two lives becoming one. The vows mean a lot to me. I mean to make this one work.

[Boris Farage 353]

1 hour ago, laylalex said:

Maybe "payoff" isn't the right word -- I mean, I know I don't need to be married to "prove" anything to anyone about our relationship or its strength. If we were a "domestic" couple, maybe we would have been okay just staying unmarried partners. But there's something symbolic about marriage beyond just the legal stuff. The joining of names (I will be adding his to my maiden name for a double barrel if I can -- I never took my maiden name back when my divorce was final so I may not be able to), the bringing together of families, two lives becoming one. The vows mean a lot to me. I mean to make this one work.

Will there be a prenup?

[laylalex 7,300]

13 minutes ago, Boris Farage said:

Will there be a prenup?

 Of course there's going to be a prenup! My dad was really, REALLY clear with Al that my money was mine, and that he shouldn't expect to be living off my money. I have an excellent attorney down in LA who protected my interests for the last prenup and also during the divorce to make sure I got everything I was entitled to, despite my ex and his father trying to hide assets in offshore accounts that hadn't been disclosed during the prenup...  Not that I intend to get divorced, but a girl can never be too careful. 

[Ban Hammer 13,498]

5 hours ago, TBoneTX said:

"Bigamy is having one wife too many.  Monogamy is the same thing."

isn't there a limit on recycling jokes?

[Nature Boy 2.0 8,378]

46 minutes ago, Ban Hammer said:

isn't there a limit on recycling jokes?

werd 

[Boris Farage 353]

3 hours ago, laylalex said:

 Of course there's going to be a prenup! My dad was really, REALLY clear with Al that my money was mine, and that he shouldn't expect to be living off my money. I have an excellent attorney down in LA who protected my interests for the last prenup and also during the divorce to make sure I got everything I was entitled to, despite my ex and his father trying to hide assets in offshore accounts that hadn't been disclosed during the prenup...  Not that I intend to get divorced, but a girl can never be too careful. 

You know me to always be truthful with you, even when the truth is harsh. So to this I say well done. For anyone with any kind of net worth, it's absolutely mandatory. Will your cave man be demanding the engagement bracelet back if things turn sour?

 

Interesting that you consider marriage as just a "payoff," and that you would be fine with just a partnership. But isn't the truth that you will be filing for immigration on his behalf?

[laylalex 7,300]

10 minutes ago, Boris Farage said:

You know me to always be truthful with you, even when the truth is harsh. So to this I say well done. For anyone with any kind of net worth, it's absolutely mandatory. Will your cave man be demanding the engagement bracelet back if things turn sour?

 

Interesting that you consider marriage as just a "payoff," and that you would be fine with just a partnership. But isn't the truth that you will be filing for immigration on his behalf?

The bracelet is a family heirloom, so yes, it will go back to the family if we break it off. It was something I agreed to with his mother and I think it's only fair. After all, the ring I thought I was going to have came back to his family when he got divorced from his first wife. 

 

As for a "payoff," you're twisting my words. I said I didn't consider it to be a "payoff" at all, not really. And yes, I would be happy if we could be together unmarried if that's what he wanted too. But yes, we have to do AOS from his visa so we need to get married to keep him here. I guess I could live in London but we both like it here.  And once he has adjusted status, we can think about things like maybe moving. I have been thinking about moving back to SoCal if we decide to go ahead with having a child so I can be closer to my family. It would mean being closer to my ex but LA is a big city and I can move strategically.  

[Boris Farage 353]

Be happy with your engagement bracelet I suppose. If you'd had the ring, it would be the ring his ex-wife wore. Rather a cursed little thing, isn't it.

[Voice of Reason 10,298]

10 hours ago, yuna628 said:

Certainly marriage is not a payoff and plenty of couples do just fine without the act of marriage... however many do take the vow of marriage very seriously and sacredly. Perhaps if more people did that... there would be less unfaithfulness.

That has gone the way of the dodo bird, for the most part.  But a stable relationship really doesn't  need the government to step in and ruin someone's life.

[Voice of Reason 10,298]

7 hours ago, laylalex said:

 Of course there's going to be a prenup! My dad was really, REALLY clear with Al that my money was mine, and that he shouldn't expect to be living off my money. I have an excellent attorney down in LA who protected my interests for the last prenup and also during the divorce to make sure I got everything I was entitled to, despite my ex and his father trying to hide assets in offshore accounts that hadn't been disclosed during the prenup...  Not that I intend to get divorced, but a girl can never be too careful. 

Gotta protect that money from guy 2 that you took from guy 1, eh?  You EARNED that money!

[Voice of Reason 10,298]

19 minutes ago, Boris Farage said:

Be happy with your engagement bracelet I suppose. If you'd had the ring, it would be the ring his ex-wife wore. Rather a cursed little thing, isn't it.

Curses can't sink into gold, you silly little man!!

[laylalex 7,300]

19 minutes ago, Boris Farage said:

Be happy with your engagement bracelet I suppose. If you'd had the ring, it would be the ring his ex-wife wore. Rather a cursed little thing, isn't it.

Well, if you believe that sort of thing. You know a version of the story which isn't totally accurate  but I think that on balance I'm happier having his sister have the ring. She can deal with the curse! The woman who had it before, the aunt, died fairly early and the person who had it before, Al's mother, lost her husband after only about 10 years of marriage to a very early death. Wow, when I write that, I feel (1) like I dodged a bullet and (2) like I should tell her to keep it in the safe deposit box her boyfriend told her to keep it in!

7 minutes ago, ALFKAD said:

Gotta protect that money from guy 2 that you took from guy 1, eh?  You EARNED that money!

Yes, I 100% earned it! And now it is my way of keeping myself safe. I lost a big chunk of time when I could have been working on my career, and now I'm starting over from scratch. I probably won't hit my stride for another 5-10 years, and who knows if I'll ever make any real money. Alex said he's not interested in the cash, and when I tried to tell him the other week how much it was, he didn't want to know. I told him he has to know eventually, the full and frank disclosure, but he said whatever I have must make me an even sweeter plum than he already knows me to be.  I want to use the money to have a good life together, to eventually buy some property and settle down. Whether it's here or back down in SoCal, I don't know. I'm going to see where life takes us.

9 minutes ago, ALFKAD said:

Curses can't sink into gold, you silly little man!!

I think some pirates may disagree with you!  

[Boris Farage 353]

2 minutes ago, laylalex said:

Yes, I 100% earned it! And now it is my way of keeping myself safe. I lost a big chunk of time when I could have been working on my career, and now I'm starting over from scratch. I probably won't hit my stride for another 5-10 years, and who knows if I'll ever make any real money. Alex said he's not interested in the cash, and when I tried to tell him the other week how much it was, he didn't want to know. I told him he has to know eventually, the full and frank disclosure, but he said whatever I have must make me an even sweeter plum than he already knows me to be.  I want to use the money to have a good life together, to eventually buy some property and settle down. Whether it's here or back down in SoCal, I don't know. I'm going to see where life takes us.

I think some pirates may disagree with you!  

Interesting. Do you feel you would have earned as much money had your career not been impacted, as you have in the settlement against your ex? I get the feeling that "earned" might be an overstatement.

[Voice of Reason 10,298]

3 minutes ago, laylalex said:

 

Yes, I 100% earned it! And now it is my way of keeping myself safe. I lost a big chunk of time when I could have been working on my career, and now I'm starting over from scratch. I probably won't hit my stride for another 5-10 years, and who knows if I'll ever make any real money. Alex said he's not interested in the cash, and when I tried to tell him the other week how much it was, he didn't want to know. I told him he has to know eventually, the full and frank disclosure, but he said whatever I have must make me an even sweeter plum than he already knows me to be.  I want to use the money to have a good life together, to eventually buy some property and settle down. Whether it's here or back down in SoCal, I don't know. I'm going to see where life takes us.

No, you did not EARN it.  You were awarded it.  Some day, you may understand the difference.  But for now, enjoy the boon life has thrown your way.  I reckon it DOES pay to marry into money.