Bride-to-be swallows engagement ring in her sleep during an 'action-packed' dream

[Ban Hammer 13,498]

1 hour ago, elmcitymaven said:

I've been with my guy for eight years now and no ring. Doesn't mean he's not 100% committed. I know from his words and his deeds and the way he sings my praises to everyone who will listen that he loves me with every single part of his existence. (I passed the bar exam in May and he's still telling random people at supermarkets this fact because he's so proud.) Be well and be happy. And now I want an engagement bracelet knowing Jacqueline Kennedy Onassis had one!

well of course - you're an attorney now and you can sue the pants off him for breathing wrong - and he know that! 

[elmcitymaven 9,712]

1 hour ago, Ban Hammer said:

well of course - you're an attorney now and you can sue the pants off him for breathing wrong - and he know that! 

I find that fear is a very important element in maintaining a relationship that is free from drama.

[Voice of Reason 10,298]

17 hours ago, laylalex said:

Does it matter if it's a ring now or a ring later? I mean, I'm still engaged. And yes, it was disappointing that it wasn't the family ring, but it's not like I'm not going to be part of this family just because I don't have it. And the bracelet is from the family, so there is still that. And yes, it is as nice or even nicer than the ring. At least the bracelet doesn't need to be resized.

Doesn't matter if there was no ring.  It's not like any ring in history has ever plugged a hole.  What matters is how he treats you and whether or not he respects you enough to remain faithful (assuming that is important to you).

[Neonred 3,633]

Bride-to-be swallows

 

Well now we know....

[Nature Boy 2.0 8,378]

1 hour ago, Neonred said:

Bride-to-be swallows

 

Well now we know....

because we all know after she is married

[Cyberfx1024 7,980]

Congratulations on the engagement. So what if you didn't get a ring as long as he got your something 

[laylalex 7,300]

6 hours ago, ALFKAD said:

Doesn't matter if there was no ring.  It's not like any ring in history has ever plugged a hole.  What matters is how he treats you and whether or not he respects you enough to remain faithful (assuming that is important to you).

Thanks. Honestly, I couldn't ask for a better partner in life. I make jokes about his off-color jokes, but he says them because (1) he knows I know he's joking and (2) he shows me how he loves me in all the little things. The way he'll calm me down when I get upset by just folding me into his arms and tucking my head under his chin. The bag of bagels and cream cheese and smoked salmon he'll go out to fetch on a Sunday morning. How he holds out his hand for mine when I'm rising from a chair. How he'll comb out the tangles in my wet hair after a shower. And up here in the coldest house in Scotland (how it feels at times), the electric blanket on when I get into bed. He notices what I like, and does his best to make my life easier and more peaceful. He's a good man, a man who loves his family, even though I think they're not always so appreciative of the sacrifices he makes for them. 

 

And he's faithful, which is important to me. I know all the women he's had relationships with since I met him, and the only time he ever sort of cheated on someone was when he was 20, and he left his then-girlfriend for me, but didn't tell her. (We broke up partly because of this, when she found out.) He learned his lesson. His ex-wife and I are friendly and she said of all his faults (and I know what those faults are), his faithfulness was never one of them. 

 

1 hour ago, Cyberfx1024 said:

Congratulations on the engagement. So what if you didn't get a ring as long as he got your something 

Thank you! The bracelet is beautiful, sapphires and diamonds in a Art Deco setting. And I still get to get my ring when I get back! 

3 hours ago, Neonred said:

Bride-to-be swallows

 

Well now we know....

 

1 hour ago, Nature Boy 2.0 said:

because we all know after she is married

LOL! These made me think of this afternoon, when I was complaining about how my hands felt really dry from the weather being so cold here, and being in heated (or almost-heated) rooms all the time. So I asked Alex if he had any cream I could use. Al said to me, "I've got some cream for you" and waggled his eyebrows and I told him he was disgusting. And he said, no, I have that Vaseline hand therapy cream you like, and you have a filthy mind.

[Neonred 3,633]

4 hours ago, Nature Boy 2.0 said:

because we all know after she is married

It's already happening before the marriage....

1 hour ago, laylalex said:

LOL! These made me think of this afternoon, when I was complaining about how my hands felt really dry from the weather being so cold here, and being in heated (or almost-heated) rooms all the time. So I asked Alex if he had any cream I could use. Al said to me, "I've got some cream for you" and waggled his eyebrows and I told him he was disgusting. And he said, no, I have that Vaseline hand therapy cream you like, and you have a filthy mind.

 

[laylalex 7,300]

6 hours ago, Neonred said:

It's already happening before the marriage....

 

Well, I was in something of a bad mood at the time. I had been coerced into listening to a radio broadcast of the football team he supports (St. Johnstone) which is at the very bottom of the Scottish football league, because all the rest of the family were listening to it. It was extremely boring because it was a radio broadcast, and I had no idea who any of the players were who were playing for the two teams, but everyone else thought it was great. We were all stuck in the kitchen because it's actually warm in there, so I was making homemade pasta for dinner later on while everyone else (except Al) just barked out orders for tea when they weren't groaning over the score. 

 

Last full day here in Scotland. We have an early flight tomorrow morning from Edinburgh. We're going in about an hour to a distillery today in Crieff for a tour and to poke around the town. Even though it is so chilly up here, and the roof leaks, and I swear the attic is haunted (or is full of squirrels or pheasants or something), it really is beautiful here, right on the edge of the Highlands. It's going to be a shock going back to California after a week and a half here. I

[TBoneTX 46,000]

Woman gets fancy engagement ring; man gets ring in nose.

 

Bigamy is having one wife too many; monogamy is the same thing.

Socrates died from an overdose of Wedlock.

[Neonred 3,633]

6 hours ago, laylalex said:

 We were all stuck in the kitchen because it's actually warm in there, so I was making homemade pasta for dinner later on while everyone else (except Al) just barked out orders for tea when they weren't groaning over the score. 

 

 

Anyone call out for a sammich?

[Voice of Reason 10,298]

Another piece of unsolicited advice I'll throw out there... don't spend a lot of money on your wedding.  What a waste.  I see friends doing this and think it's crazy.  Recently attended a wedding that had about a $40,000 price tag.  I'd have cut that back to about $2,000 and invested $38k.

 

I think my wedding cost us around $250 for the gown, food, and marriage license.  Expensive weddings and the duration of the marriage are often inversely proportional. 

[laylalex 7,300]

1 hour ago, Neonred said:

Anyone call out for a sammich?

No, thankfully. I really would have lost it!

1 hour ago, ALFKAD said:

Another piece of unsolicited advice I'll throw out there... don't spend a lot of money on your wedding.  What a waste.  I see friends doing this and think it's crazy.  Recently attended a wedding that had about a $40,000 price tag.  I'd have cut that back to about $2,000 and invested $38k.

 

I think my wedding cost us around $250 for the gown, food, and marriage license.  Expensive weddings and the duration of the marriage are often inversely proportional. 

Well, I had a biggish wedding the first time around. I don't know how much I intend to spend this time, but I want it smaller unless he insists on something big. It's not so much a money thing, though I don't like wasting it on unnecessary things, but really more that I don't have anything to prove. I want a pretty dress and a fun party and all our friends there to celebrate. And since he's in the US already (assuming his L1 gets extended later next year, which is expected) we have time to plan and make it right. That's kind of been our mindset throughout our relationship: we're older now, and wiser (maybe) so let's take our time and make it right. We messed up too many times before, together with each other and with other people. What if we just thought it through? 

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3 minutes ago, laylalex said:

No, thankfully. I really would have lost it!

Well, I had a biggish wedding the first time around. I don't know how much I intend to spend this time, but I want it smaller unless he insists on something big. It's not so much a money thing, though I don't like wasting it on unnecessary things, but really more that I don't have anything to prove. I want a pretty dress and a fun party and all our friends there to celebrate. And since he's in the US already (assuming his L1 gets extended later next year, which is expected) we have time to plan and make it right. That's kind of been our mindset throughout our relationship: we're older now, and wiser (maybe) so let's take our time and make it right. We messed up too many times before, together with each other and with other people. What if we just thought it through? 

Congrats.  Sounds like you have fine and workable plan.

[luckytxn 2,265]

On 10/18/2019 at 5:19 PM, Ban Hammer said:

i'd say he's a cheapskate. 

I never bought one for my babe and during the 72 hours we had to wait to get married after we got the license we went and bought gold wedding bands which she won't wear but insists I wear mine always. I didn't ask her to marry me but she asked me once when chatting on video call how long I was going to make her wait? I was very drunk and asked wait for what? And she said to get engaged and I said OK we can get married but if we don't get along after she comes she had to promise to give me a divorce but I would make sure she got her green card and she agreed. I bought a plane ticket that week.