Bride-to-be swallows engagement ring in her sleep during an 'action-packed' dream

[laylalex 7,301]

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Jenna Evans, 29, said she was told by her fiancé Bobby Howell to swallow her ring during an "action-packed" dream.

Writing about the dream on her Facebook page, the California native said it involved a "sketchy situation" on a high-speed train and some "bad guys".

Ms Evans half-woke from her sleep during her dream and then went back to bed, believing she had only swallowed the ring during her dream.

It was only after she awoke later that morning that she noticed her engagement ring wasn't on her finger.

 

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https://www.itv.com/news/2019-09-17/bride-to-be-swallows-engagement-ring-in-her-sleep-during-an-action-packed-dream/

 

So… I’m engaged! Finally! 14 years and 25 days after we met (yes, I remember the day), after we each married other people (and divorced them), and more drama than I really ever wanted to deal with, we are finally ready to get married. It happened this afternoon, before I started cooking dinner (I can’t let Alex’s mother or sister cook when I’m here if I want it to be edible). I was just hanging out in the library with the family dog, reading a book, and hiding from Alex’s mum. Alex slipped in and sneaked up on me, and in front of the fire and Beast (the dog), he told me he was ready to do what he should have done back in 2009, when I had ended a previous engagement with my ex-husband, but he had felt too young and too scared back then. He asked if I was sure I wanted to get sucked into his bonkers family, and going through immigration all over again, so we could make everything right at last. I asked if he was finally asking to marry me and when he said yes, I SAID YES!  

 

The only thing that was a little disappointing about it all is that I didn’t get the family ring, which is kind of why I thought we were here in Scotland in the first place. Apparently, that ring is going to his sister, who had already asked her mother if she could have it. (Al had just assumed the ring would be his and had not asked already… ) It killed him to have to tell me that he doesn’t have a ring for me today, but that we could go into Perth tomorrow to look at rings, or wait until we’re back in California next week. By way of an apology, he did give me a an heirloom bracelet, but am I bad in thinking, who gets an engagement bracelet????

 

Anyway, I am now officially engaged, and yes, I still cooked dinner for everyone after all that. Even Al’s mother seemed passably happy with the news, and the Glaswegian solicitor (who’d been tipped off) brought home two bottles of Belle-Epoque to celebrate. I guess there’s one thing I can say for having no ring -- I won’t swallow it in my sleep!

[Ban Hammer 13,965]

i'm afraid to ask what the relationship is between the reported story and your situation - something about engaged and swallowing while sleeping?

[Dashinka 25,332]

  On 10/18/2019 at 7:30 PM, laylalex said:

https://www.itv.com/news/2019-09-17/bride-to-be-swallows-engagement-ring-in-her-sleep-during-an-action-packed-dream/

 

So… I’m engaged! Finally! 14 years and 25 days after we met (yes, I remember the day), after we each married other people (and divorced them), and more drama than I really ever wanted to deal with, we are finally ready to get married. It happened this afternoon, before I started cooking dinner (I can’t let Alex’s mother or sister cook when I’m here if I want it to be edible). I was just hanging out in the library with the family dog, reading a book, and hiding from Alex’s mum. Alex slipped in and sneaked up on me, and in front of the fire and Beast (the dog), he told me he was ready to do what he should have done back in 2009, when I had ended a previous engagement with my ex-husband, but he had felt too young and too scared back then. He asked if I was sure I wanted to get sucked into his bonkers family, and going through immigration all over again, so we could make everything right at last. I asked if he was finally asking to marry me and when he said yes, I SAID YES!  

 

The only thing that was a little disappointing about it all is that I didn’t get the family ring, which is kind of why I thought we were here in Scotland in the first place. Apparently, that ring is going to his sister, who had already asked her mother if she could have it. (Al had just assumed the ring would be his and had not asked already… ) It killed him to have to tell me that he doesn’t have a ring for me today, but that we could go into Perth tomorrow to look at rings, or wait until we’re back in California next week. By way of an apology, he did give me a an heirloom bracelet, but am I bad in thinking, who gets an engagement bracelet????

 

Anyway, I am now officially engaged, and yes, I still cooked dinner for everyone after all that. Even Al’s mother seemed passably happy with the news, and the Glaswegian solicitor (who’d been tipped off) brought home two bottles of Belle-Epoque to celebrate. I guess there’s one thing I can say for having no ring -- I won’t swallow it in my sleep!

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Only if you swallow it.

 

Congrats by the way in being the first to get an engagement bracelet.  

[yuna628 9,812]

  On 10/18/2019 at 7:30 PM, laylalex said:

https://www.itv.com/news/2019-09-17/bride-to-be-swallows-engagement-ring-in-her-sleep-during-an-action-packed-dream/

 

So… I’m engaged! Finally! 14 years and 25 days after we met (yes, I remember the day), after we each married other people (and divorced them), and more drama than I really ever wanted to deal with, we are finally ready to get married. It happened this afternoon, before I started cooking dinner (I can’t let Alex’s mother or sister cook when I’m here if I want it to be edible). I was just hanging out in the library with the family dog, reading a book, and hiding from Alex’s mum. Alex slipped in and sneaked up on me, and in front of the fire and Beast (the dog), he told me he was ready to do what he should have done back in 2009, when I had ended a previous engagement with my ex-husband, but he had felt too young and too scared back then. He asked if I was sure I wanted to get sucked into his bonkers family, and going through immigration all over again, so we could make everything right at last. I asked if he was finally asking to marry me and when he said yes, I SAID YES!  

 

The only thing that was a little disappointing about it all is that I didn’t get the family ring, which is kind of why I thought we were here in Scotland in the first place. Apparently, that ring is going to his sister, who had already asked her mother if she could have it. (Al had just assumed the ring would be his and had not asked already… ) It killed him to have to tell me that he doesn’t have a ring for me today, but that we could go into Perth tomorrow to look at rings, or wait until we’re back in California next week. By way of an apology, he did give me a an heirloom bracelet, but am I bad in thinking, who gets an engagement bracelet????

 

Anyway, I am now officially engaged, and yes, I still cooked dinner for everyone after all that. Even Al’s mother seemed passably happy with the news, and the Glaswegian solicitor (who’d been tipped off) brought home two bottles of Belle-Epoque to celebrate. I guess there’s one thing I can say for having no ring -- I won’t swallow it in my sleep!

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JFK gave a rather expensive and beautiful engagement bracelet to Jackie O. I mean he got her one heck of a ring too (which she changed), but that bracelet was a common item on her arm always. Even wore it at the wedding.

[Boris Farage 353]

  On 10/18/2019 at 7:30 PM, laylalex said:

The only thing that was a little disappointing about it all is that I didn’t get the family ring

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It seems I know your curly haired neanderthal better than you do. I did tell you.

 

  On 10/18/2019 at 7:30 PM, laylalex said:

By way of an apology, he did give me a an heirloom bracelet, but am I bad in thinking, who gets an engagement bracelet????

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That's nice. I'm sure an engagement bracelet will be almost as nice as the ring you were promised.

[laylalex 7,301]

  On 10/18/2019 at 8:32 PM, yuna628 said:

JFK gave a rather expensive and beautiful engagement bracelet to Jackie O. I mean he got her one heck of a ring too (which she changed), but that bracelet was a common item on her arm always. Even wore it at the wedding.

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Thank you -- that is very good to know! I have always loved Jackie O's style and grace. She always carried herself with so much dignity, which I can never manage to do myself. 

 

We've just had a family discussion with everyone and (1) we are waiting to go home to California to get a ring (2) his sister expressed a little regret on calling dibs on the ring but said as far as she was concerned it was a done deal (I don't think she is ANYWHERE close to getting married, but I could be wrong) and (3) everyone thought the proposal was very sweet and very us. ❤️ I'm glad to have had it up here after all. Even his mum got a little emotional though it might have been all the booze.

[laylalex 7,301]

  On 10/18/2019 at 9:08 PM, Boris Farage said:

It seems I know your curly haired neanderthal better than you do. I did tell you.

 

That's nice. I'm sure an engagement bracelet will be almost as nice as the ring you were promised.

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Does it matter if it's a ring now or a ring later? I mean, I'm still engaged. And yes, it was disappointing that it wasn't the family ring, but it's not like I'm not going to be part of this family just because I don't have it. And the bracelet is from the family, so there is still that. And yes, it is as nice or even nicer than the ring. At least the bracelet doesn't need to be resized.

[Boris Farage 353]

  On 10/18/2019 at 9:18 PM, laylalex said:

Does it matter if it's a ring now or a ring later? I mean, I'm still engaged. And yes, it was disappointing that it wasn't the family ring, but it's not like I'm not going to be part of this family just because I don't have it. And the bracelet is from the family, so there is still that. And yes, it is as nice or even nicer than the ring. At least the bracelet doesn't need to be resized.

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If you're happy with an engagement bracelet, then I suppose that's all that matters. Strange how there wasn't any ring at all though. It almost seems last minute.

 

 

[Ban Hammer 13,965]

  On 10/18/2019 at 10:04 PM, Boris Farage said:

Strange how there wasn't any ring at all though. It almost seems last minute.

 

 

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i'd say he's a cheapskate. 

[laylalex 7,301]

  On 10/18/2019 at 10:04 PM, Boris Farage said:

If you're happy with an engagement bracelet, then I suppose that's all that matters. Strange how there wasn't any ring at all though. It almost seems last minute.

 

 

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It wasn't last minute. I knew this was going to happen today. I mean, yes, he should have asked before we got here for the ring. That was last minute. Was he supposed to give me a rubber band or a ring pop or something cheap from the charity shop in town? The bracelet is very nice, and has been in the family for a long time. Honestly I'm surprised they still have any of the family jewelry at this point, they're always bouncing from some financial calamity or another that requires a thick application of Alex's money to make it better. Whoever eventually marries his sister is going to need to be ready to act like an ATM. 

[Boris Farage 353]

  On 10/18/2019 at 10:20 PM, laylalex said:

It wasn't last minute. I knew this was going to happen today. I mean, yes, he should have asked before we got here for the ring. That was last minute. Was he supposed to give me a rubber band or a ring pop or something cheap from the charity shop in town? The bracelet is very nice, and has been in the family for a long time. Honestly I'm surprised they still have any of the family jewelry at this point, they're always bouncing from some financial calamity or another that requires a thick application of Alex's money to make it better. Whoever eventually marries his sister is going to need to be ready to act like an ATM. 

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Yes... yes, he should have asked. He should have planned. He should have taken this much more seriously than he did.

 

Best not to dwell on it though. The deed is done, you and your bracelet are now "officially" engaged, which was after all the goal.

[laylalex 7,301]

  On 10/18/2019 at 10:19 PM, Ban Hammer said:

i'd say he's a cheapskate. 

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He's frugal. He wanted me to have the ring I deserve since I couldn't have the ring I wanted. I don't want anything fancy this time around anyway -- the last one I had was this big flashy thing that wasn't me, but I was too polite to refuse it. I would prefer either vintage or something a little less showy. I don't need something like the 3 carat one I had before -- I didn't even want to wear it.

  On 10/18/2019 at 10:26 PM, Boris Farage said:

Yes... yes, he should have asked. He should have planned. He should have taken this much more seriously than he did.

 

Best not to dwell on it though. The deed is done, you and your bracelet are now "officially" engaged, which was after all the goal.

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He took it very seriously. We're not entering into this quickly. I don't even know when I'm going to set a date for the wedding. And yes, I got what I wanted. I got him. ❤️ 

Edited October 18, 2019 by laylalex

[Boris Farage 353]

  On 10/18/2019 at 10:34 PM, laylalex said:

He's frugal. He wanted me to have the ring I deserve since I couldn't have the ring I wanted.

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So he convinced you that you wanted something smaller and less valuable because he's cheap. (as @Ban Hammer noted)

 

  On 10/18/2019 at 10:34 PM, laylalex said:

I would prefer either vintage or something a little less showy.

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It's very clear to me. You wanted a ring. You made it clear to him, you even laid out the type of ring you would be happy with, were he not to manage procuring the family ring. He did not listen to you, and through some last minute wheedling he managed to obtain a trinket nobody else in the family wanted.

 

I and the others here have pegged this man for what he is every step of the way. A cheapskate and a manipulator, and his family seems none too fond of you either. I'm sorry. I for one think you deserve better. I would never treat the woman I intend to marry in such a fashion. But don't rely on some random internet people. Go to those closest to you... your mother perhaps. Get some good independent advice from somebody who is not this man, and who want to see you happy.

[laylalex 7,301]

  On 10/18/2019 at 10:46 PM, Boris Farage said:

So he convinced you that you wanted something smaller and less valuable because he's cheap. (as @Ban Hammer noted)

 

It's very clear to me. You wanted a ring. You made it clear to him, you even laid out the type of ring you would be happy with, were he not to manage procuring the family ring. He did not listen to you, and through some last minute wheedling he managed to obtain a trinket nobody else in the family wanted.

 

I and the others here have pegged this man for what he is every step of the way. A cheapskate and a manipulator, and his family seems none too fond of you either. I'm sorry. I for one think you deserve better. I would never treat the woman I intend to marry in such a fashion. But don't rely on some random internet people. Go to those closest to you... your mother perhaps. Get some good independent advice from somebody who is not this man, and who want to see you happy.

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Well, it's bedtime here and I shouldn't reply but I will. The bracelet is something that is an heirloom, not something that "nobody else in the family wanted." Yes, maybe he should have had a ring. Yes, maybe he should have planned it better. He didn't manipulate me into accepting the bracelet -- I think it's beautiful. And I will have the ring I want when I get back to California. Fenn can have the ring for all I care. 

 

 As for my mother, she adores him. I'm sure she will think it's all fine. I do appreciate the comment that I should speak to friends though, and I will call some of our mutual friends tomorrow. 

[elmcitymaven 9,712]

Hey gurl, congrats. You wear that bracelet and take it for what it is -- just a trinket to mark a really important day. No one actually needs a ring to get engaged -- stick around here on VJ long enough and you'll see that said enough times. Once you say you're engaged -- hey, that's it. Don't let these guys rattle you. 

 

I've been with my guy for eight years now and no ring. Doesn't mean he's not 100% committed. I know from his words and his deeds and the way he sings my praises to everyone who will listen that he loves me with every single part of his existence. (I passed the bar exam in May and he's still telling random people at supermarkets this fact because he's so proud.) Be well and be happy. And now I want an engagement bracelet knowing Jacqueline Kennedy Onassis had one!