Live separately affects AoS?

[Lisa93 0]

My husband and I decided to live separately because of our children. My husband and I are getting along but his son and my son are not. They were good before but after started to live together, got bad. 

Does living separately affect AoS? Or just should apply for the same address pretending to live together? 

[Joyoussinger 1,427]

You're asking if you should lie on your application. The answer is a resounding "NO"!  What you are talking about is immigration fraud. You do need to be living together to prove it's a bona fide marriage. I would recommend family counseling. I'm sure it's hard for the children to adjust to their new situation and a professional may be able to help.

[Lisa93 0]

My son really got depressed and need to be separated from his step brother. He now can’t sleep, doesn’t want to do anything... 

one of my friends got Green card even though they live separated because her husband had to work abroad. 

[Lemonslice 4,947]

I can't say how it will affect your AOS, however, are you guys working on a solution to move back together? Seeing a counselor?  Permanent/long term separation seems like an exaggerated solution if nothing else was tried before.

[Joyoussinger 1,427]

4 minutes ago, Lemonslice said:

I can't say how it will affect your AOS, however, are you guys working on a solution to move back together? Seeing a counselor?  Permanent/long term separation seems like an exaggerated solution if nothing else was tried before.

Yes. Depression is serious but it's understandable, considering everything in your son's life has changed. I hope he feels better and learns to cope with it, and one day enjoy his new life. I really believe professional help is the way. I hope it all works out for you.

[Lisa93 0]

6 minutes ago, Lemonslice said:

I can't say how it will affect your AOS, however, are you guys working on a solution to move back together? Seeing a counselor?  Permanent/long term separation seems like an exaggerated solution if nothing else was tried before.

We will move back together when our boys get independent after like 5-6years. 

[Crazy Cat 42,042]

17 minutes ago, Lisa93 said:

We will move back together when our boys get independent after like 5-6years. 

I would expect a LOT of scrutiny for this "marriage" arrangement ........5 or 6 years apart?    I would seriously seek another solution.......just my opinion......

 

EDIT:  I am not judging your relationship.  I am saying that your solution seems to be highly unusual.......and it could generate a lot of scrutiny about the nature of your relationship......and "pretending" is not a good way to deal with immigration.

Edited October 4, 2019 by missileman

[Lemonslice 4,947]

I hope you find way to reconcile everybody and live together.  5-6 years separation does not seem like a realistic solution (or marital cohabitation).  I would expect many questions at your AOS interview when asked about the different addresses and plans to live together.  

 

Otherwise, have you thought of moving back home until for son is older?  

[Boiler 45,928]

Maybe best to wait 5 or 6 years then to file AoS.

[Lisa93 0]

3 hours ago, Lemonslice said:

I hope you find way to reconcile everybody and live together.  5-6 years separation does not seem like a realistic solution (or marital cohabitation).  I would expect many questions at your AOS interview when asked about the different addresses and plans to live together.  

 

Otherwise, have you thought of moving back home until for son is older?  

Everyone around us advise us that we should have live separately for Both kids. Not healthy life at all. Both are teenagers. 

My husband and I will see each other like once a month or so without kids. I know we would be asked a lot why we live separated but it can’t help. Or my son might hurt my husband’s son and vice versa. They want to kill each other. 

[Lemonslice 4,947]

1 minute ago, Lisa93 said:

Everyone around us advise us that we should have live separately for Both kids. Not healthy life at all. Both are teenagers. 

My husband and I will see each other like once a month or so without kids. I know we would be asked a lot why we live separated but it can’t help. Or my son might hurt my husband’s son and vice versa. They want to kill each other. 

I am not the one you need to convince.  You should be aware that seeing each other only once a month, and living separately, might not look like a bona fide marriage to an outsider.  

 

I hope both sons are receiving counseling, wanting to kill each other is not an appropriate reaction and they should learn how to manage their anger. 

[Crazy Cat 42,042]

10 minutes ago, Lisa93 said:

Everyone around us advise us that we should have live separately for Both kids. Not healthy life at all. Both are teenagers. 

My husband and I will see each other like once a month or so without kids. I know we would be asked a lot why we live separated but it can’t help. Or my son might hurt my husband’s son and vice versa. They want to kill each other. 

How old are the 2 sons?

[little immigrant 801]

You only see each other once a month?? 

[Lisa93 0]

8 minutes ago, Lemonslice said:

I am not the one you need to convince.  You should be aware that seeing each other only once a month, and living separately, might not look like a bona fide marriage to an outsider.  

 

I hope both sons are receiving counseling, wanting to kill each other is not an appropriate reaction and they should learn how to manage their anger. 

We have been doing this over year. My husband doesn’t want to let them to get counseling. This makes us stressful and live separately for a while would be better for all of us. 

5 minutes ago, missileman said:

How old are the 2 sons?

13 and 14

[Lisa93 0]

4 minutes ago, little immigrant said:

You only see each other once a month?? 

If we live separately, I would get out of the island because it’s hard to live in countryside. I don’t have a car and need to find a room without job. But I have friends to rely on in the other island so we don’t have afford and have time to see each other often.