Withdrawal of second application, future application problems?

[carmel34 3,633]

There is no US visa to "try out" a relationship with an alien love interest.  You're either going to have to be committed to marriage (K-1) or married (CR-1/IR-1).  Given your track record with K-1s and a clear desire to find love overseas, I recommend that if you do find someone else online, that you go live with her in her home country for a few months or years to try it out, then petition for a US visa later once you can trust her and have built a stronger relationship in person.  Good luck!

[SunflowerSweet 1,321]

Having so many past visa applications is going to be a decently noticeable red flag at the very least. Slowing down and taking a break before jumping into another foreign relationship is highly recommended, beyond just avoiding a mess with how your petition is going to be looked at and your chances of getting approved.

 

Multiple failed serious relationships within the frame of just a few years isn’t something to just ignore and keep pushing through. The way you seem to make it sound like it’s always your partner’s fault that these things fall apart is pretty telling. The apparent requirement that your partner be someone from outside your country is also... not great? 

[DylanandLaura 46]

2 hours ago, humptydumpty12345 said:

I applied January 2018 for a k1, it was approved by USCIS and went through the embassy in September 2018; just as our relationship was effectively over (we (she) started to argue too much and it became to "rocky" to sustain; I had not seen her in several months) so the girl broke contact and we did nothing with the visa, I dont know what she said to the embassy person who contacted her.

 

In June 2019 I applied for another visa (different fiancee from different country that I had met around May 2018 while my earlier relationship had declined; I never actively dated both at once, I never saw my first fiancee in person after March 2018). That second application recently came back to me for request for evidence, asking again about the waiver needed since I had applied for a previous K1 within the two year period. I explained the situation as best I could.

 

"Hypothetically speaking", supposing I just found out my current fiancee is cheating on me, etc., as in just now I found out, and is no longer suitable for marriage, is it best to withdraw the application as soon as I am sure the relationship is over? I previously did not in my first fiancee because I wasn't sure if we would get back together; Also if withdrawn before approval will this second application for a K1 "count" in future applications I may make? SO I will need additional waivers? I am able to explain the reasoning of each application, but I worry I could be effectively blocked from marrying a foreign spouse for many years. The reality is the dating scene as such it is here means my future spouse will be probably an overseas citizen.

 

Also any easy link to how to withdraw? I had to send the request for evidence to some PO box in Texas, I didn't keep the document though, not imagining this would end so soon.

Best practice is to send a letter dated and signed with black ink to the USCIS requesting the K1 Petition be withdrawn or cancelled for any relationship that ended. If you applied for two separate K1 visas and are asking if it will affect your potential third petition, it will. You are a serial filer and your best course would to marry any future girlfriend you have and apply for a CR-1. You should then attach any correspondence received from the USCIS saying your petition is cancelled for number 1 and 2 girlfriends. You should be fine for the CR-1/IR-1 process, but prepared to explain the first two K-1 petitions and why your relationship with your hypothetical spouse is different. 

 

Best of luck on girlfriend number 3.

[Jmeleecur 347]

If you're sure your current relationship is over, I'd focus on withdrawing the current K1. Then give yourself some time and space to heal and recover from these back to back relationships. Don't jump right back into dating. But when that time does come- it sounds like long distance relationships haven't been the best for you- perhaps try something new, domestically...

[Boiler 45,525]

Sounds like he is fed up with swiping left or right or whatever and is looking elsewhere.

[JFH 12,190]

Are American women really that bad? 

[Lemonslice 4,843]

5 minutes ago, Boiler said:

Sounds like he is fed up with swiping left or right or whatever and is looking elsewhere.

This... Or no one local is interested in what he has to offer.

[Boiler 45,525]

6 minutes ago, JFH said:

Are American women really that bad? 

Well just look at a not insignificant part of the VJ user base.

[SunflowerSweet 1,321]

Yepp, it’s definitely the women’s fault. Both American and otherwise. There’s no way the serial fiancé/visa petitioner who somehow believes it only takes one person to argue that could be the common denominator. 

[Fogi 91]

I am sure we don't know the whole story. LDRs are tough. He said "hypothetical." We don't need to bash him. 

Edited October 3, 2019 by Fogi

[JFH 12,190]

5 minutes ago, Fogi said:

I am sure we don't know the whole story. LDRs are tough. He said "hypothetical." We don't need to bash him. 

But why would that even cross your mind? If you’re doubting that the person is right for you, you’re not ready for marriage, ergo you are not ready for a K-1 process. 

[Boiler 45,525]

6 minutes ago, Fogi said:

I am sure we don't know the whole story. LDRs are tough. He said "hypothetical." We don't need to bash him. 

Exactly, we are here to support.

[SunflowerSweet 1,321]

1 minute ago, Boiler said:

Exactly, we are here to support.

I’m here to support the women of VJ. 

[Fogi 91]

2 minutes ago, JFH said:

But why would that even cross your mind? If you’re doubting that the person is right for you, you’re not ready for marriage, ergo you are not ready for a K-1 process. 

Again, we don't know the whole story. Maybe he doesn't have a lot of relationship experience. Maybe they had a fight and he was emotional when he posted. He's probably not ready for marriage if these things are true, but he was just asking a questions. I agree, 3 fiances in 2 years is wild He's probably not the first, or the last. 

[SunflowerSweet 1,321]

13 minutes ago, Fogi said:

I am sure we don't know the whole story. LDRs are tough. He said "hypothetical." We don't need to bash him. 

Yeah, we are only hearing one side. But it's his side, and it's bad. Are you suggestion the side of the multiple women he has run through would somehow be... better?