fiance with a child

[Eric C 1]

Hi everyone! I'm about to start filing for K1 visa. My fiance has a 16 year old boy. I've seen my fiance multiple time but I haven't seen her child in person and he's included in the petition. Do I have to meet/see her child in person? Will they need to see evidence that we met? During the interview, will they ask her son questions? Will they ask him if we met?

[Unlockable 7,315]

You don't have to meet in in person, but it would be highly, highly recommended that you two meet and have some type of knowledge of each other. Reason being... immigration is extremely protective of underage children. And yes, they will be asking the child questions about you and how they feel about immigrating. The last thing you want is a child having harsh feelings and moving away from their, family, friends, and country. And the last thing an immigration officer is going to do is approve a case for a child that is not aligned with living with a stranger.

 

The thing that is more important than you meeting the child is how the child feels about you, especially a teenager. You have some time so you need to start working on some kind of relationship with your fiance's child so there are no complications down the road.

[Eric C 1]

4 minutes ago, Unlockable said:

You don't have to meet in in person, but it would be highly, highly recommended that you two meet and have some type of knowledge of each other. Reason being... immigration is extremely protective of underage children. And yes, they will be asking the child questions about you and how they feel about immigrating. The last thing you want is a child having harsh feelings and moving away from their, family, friends, and country. And the last thing an immigration officer is going to do is approve a case for a child that is not aligned with living with a stranger.

 

The thing that is more important than you meeting the child is how the child feels about you, especially a teenager. You have some time so you need to start working on some kind of relationship with your fiance's child so there are no complications down the road.

You have great point Unlockable. Thank you. He's turning 17 next year.   

[Boiler 45,730]

Think of a friend was doing this and what you would say to them.

[Hank_ 9,174]

9 hours ago, Eric C said:

Hi everyone! I'm about to start filing for K1 visa. My fiance has a 16 year old boy. I've seen my fiance multiple time but I haven't seen her child in person and he's included in the petition. Do I have to meet/see her child in person? Will they need to see evidence that we met? During the interview, will they ask her son questions? Will they ask him if we met?

No you do not need evidence of having met the child for filing the I-129F.    

 

The boy will have his own interview, and yes they will ask him questions .. about you and the relationship you have with him.

 

Why haven't you met the boy?  He is a vital part of HER life and should be to you as well.  You and the boy should have a good relationship as well.  You and the boy not hitting it off can become a wedge pushing in your relationship with your fiancee .. which never ends well.   <<  I know of a couple where this happened, the boy resented the guy .. everything went downhill over time,  the boy and mom are almost done with ROC .. the couple is almost done with their divorce.

 

 

Philippines forum:  https://www.visajourney.com/forums/forum/129-philippines/

 

Edited September 30, 2019 by Hank_

[Falcon Cara 378]

12 hours ago, Eric C said:

Hi everyone! I'm about to start filing for K1 visa. My fiance has a 16 year old boy. I've seen my fiance multiple time but I haven't seen her child in person and he's included in the petition. Do I have to meet/see her child in person? Will they need to see evidence that we met? During the interview, will they ask her son questions? Will they ask him if we met?

You don't need to include him,  Let him stay in PI and give him an allowance or put him in college in Philippines.

[Commish10 427]

Mine a little different situation. My fiancee's daughter is almost 3. It took 3 visits for her to really warm up to me. Now we video chat almost everyday. Sometimes she calls her self (smart kids these days), or asks mommy to call for her. I do not think our relationship would survive without the "approval" of her daughter. If fact we are such a close family now even from far away. I feel i got a big head start forming a relationship with her early and thank my fiancee for allowing it. 
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[Highmystic 234]

6 hours ago, Falcon Cara said:

You don't need to include him,  Let him stay in PI and give him an allowance or put him in college in Philippines.

Yeah, this a a route some take, as the child does not want to immigrate. I'd like to know what the teen thinks about it.  Perhaps he would be happy living with a relative and going to school.

[SunflowerSweet 1,321]

9 minutes ago, Highmystic said:

Yeah, this a a route some take, as the child does not want to immigrate. I'd like to know what the teen thinks about it.  Perhaps he would be happy living with a relative and going to school.

I'd like to know what the mother thinks.

[Falcon Cara 378]

4 hours ago, Highmystic said:

Yeah, this a a route some take, as the child does not want to immigrate. I'd like to know what the teen thinks about it.  Perhaps he would be happy living with a relative and going to school.

It could be a chance of a lifetime, let him become a doctor or lawyer in Philippines and live a good life over there

[Highmystic 234]

6 hours ago, Falcon Cara said:

It could be a chance of a lifetime, let him become a doctor or lawyer in Philippines and live a good life over there

You are correct. I've heard of some who have their doctorates in the PH, but in the US they are lucky to get a job at a pharmacy, so they scale back their resume.  Someone who is a licensed MD in the PH makes a much better living than a pharmacist in the US.

[SunflowerSweet 1,321]

41 minutes ago, Highmystic said:

You are correct. I've heard of some who have their doctorates in the PH, but in the US they are lucky to get a job at a pharmacy, so they scale back their resume.  Someone who is a licensed MD in the PH makes a much better living than a pharmacist in the US.

Sounds like they should all move to PH. Problem solved.

[Cilllah 482]

12 hours ago, Commish10 said:

Mine a little different situation. My fiancee's daughter is almost 3. It took 3 visits for her to really warm up to me. Now we video chat almost everyday. Sometimes she calls her self (smart kids these days), or asks mommy to call for her. I do not think our relationship would survive without the "approval" of her daughter. If fact we are such a close family now even from far away. I feel i got a big head start forming a relationship with her early and thank my fiancee for allowing it. 
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Same. Although I am the fiancee with the 2.5 year old. My fiance has played a big roll her whole life. Even though he has only seen her on his trip here and I took her for my most recent trip to the US. We Skype daily and she is so close to him and his parents. When submitting photos we submitting just as many with her in it because we did everything together. 

 

I know this child is older but I couldn't imagine not even trying to develop a relationship. I'm not talking about wanting to be dad but at least having had met.