October 2019 I-129F FILERS

[Sarge2155 4,584]

1 hour ago, msrodriguez said:

That and expectations usually lead to disappointment 

We have watched you grow and I'm  very proud of you for that. Many good things are headed your way!

[msrodriguez 267]

1 hour ago, Sarge2155 said:

We have watched you grow and I'm  very proud of you for that. Many good things are headed your way!

Thank you ☺️☺️☺️

[Lyn Chazzy 39]

13 hours ago, Greenbaum said:

there are always those who set their expectations higher then need be. So when something doesen't happen on THEIR timetable they are disappointed or angry. 

 

I’m expecting it to be 5 months. It’s just the anxiety of waiting lol

[E&W 146]

In my very very humble opinion, it would be weird if we didn't get impatient at times. We are all human, we care, and we all like to feel we have control over our lives. It's about what we do with that frustration. Talking about it does help to a certain degree, and sure, sometimes you need others to kick you out of the frustration spiral that you put yourself in. But at some point you have to start finding ways to deal with the frustration by yourself internally, or you will constantly be suffering and waiting for others to rescue you.

 

What we don't need to do is worry. They will not loose or skip or ignore our petitions. It will just take time. The people at USCIS, NVC and embassies are just people, subject to the same things that influence us (holidays, bad days, sickness etc.). They are doing their best in the framework they are given. And from what little I have seen by reading this forum, they know their jobs very well.

 

Ok, end of rant, sorry for that, I tend to get a bit philosophical at times.

[Sarge2155 4,584]

6 hours ago, Lyn Chazzy said:

I’m expecting it to be 5 months. It’s just the anxiety of waiting lol

Let's  hope that is the case!

[Sarge2155 4,584]

51 minutes ago, E&W said:

In my very very humble opinion, it would be weird if we didn't get impatient at times. We are all human, we care, and we all like to feel we have control over our lives. It's about what we do with that frustration. Talking about it does help to a certain degree, and sure, sometimes you need others to kick you out of the frustration spiral that you put yourself in. But at some point you have to start finding ways to deal with the frustration by yourself internally, or you will constantly be suffering and waiting for others to rescue you.

 

What we don't need to do is worry. They will not loose or skip or ignore our petitions. It will just take time. The people at USCIS, NVC and embassies are just people, subject to the same things that influence us (holidays, bad days, sickness etc.). They are doing their best in the framework they are given. And from what little I have seen by reading this forum, they know their jobs very well.

 

Ok, end of rant, sorry for that, I tend to get a bit philosophical at times.

@E&W

Preach it!😊

[Sinead91 246]

1 hour ago, E&W said:

In my very very humble opinion, it would be weird if we didn't get impatient at times. We are all human, we care, and we all like to feel we have control over our lives. It's about what we do with that frustration. Talking about it does help to a certain degree, and sure, sometimes you need others to kick you out of the frustration spiral that you put yourself in. But at some point you have to start finding ways to deal with the frustration by yourself internally, or you will constantly be suffering and waiting for others to rescue you.

 

What we don't need to do is worry. They will not loose or skip or ignore our petitions. It will just take time. The people at USCIS, NVC and embassies are just people, subject to the same things that influence us (holidays, bad days, sickness etc.). They are doing their best in the framework they are given. And from what little I have seen by reading this forum, they know their jobs very well.

 

Ok, end of rant, sorry for that, I tend to get a bit philosophical at times.

Not a rant at all! You summed it up really well! I have found that working and filling my days have really helped....my days go by faster!

[E&W 146]

41 minutes ago, Sinead91 said:

Not a rant at all! You summed it up really well! I have found that working and filling my days have really helped....my days go by faster!

Keeping yourself busy with work is great. I got a lot of idle time in mine, so I have to be a bit more creative, lol. I like to research, organize, prepare stuff. Even if it doesn't pan out how I wanted, just the act of having the knowledge helps. Hell, we plan to buy a house at some point, I go to web pages and look at houses available. I know they will be all sold when we get to it, but it gives me a topic to focus on, discuss with my partner, see what we both like, want etc. It focuses us on a positive future together. 

Edited January 27, 2020 by E&W

[Sinead91 246]

46 minutes ago, E&W said:

Keeping yourself busy with work is great. I got a lot of idle time in mine, so I have to be a bit more creative, lol. I like to research, organize, prepare stuff. Even if it doesn't pan out how I wanted, just the act of having the knowledge helps. Hell, we plan to buy a house at some point, I go to web pages and look at houses available. I know they will be all sold when we get to it, but it gives me a topic to focus on, discuss with my partner, see what we both like, want etc. It focuses us on a positive future together. 

Absolutely!! We do the same! It also makes things more exciting and gives you more to look forward to!

[Sarge2155 4,584]

5 minutes ago, Sinead91 said:

Absolutely!! We do the same! It also makes things more exciting and gives you more to look forward to!

Indeed!!!!

52 minutes ago, E&W said:

Keeping yourself busy with work is great. I got a lot of idle time in mine, so I have to be a bit more creative, lol. I like to research, organize, prepare stuff. Even if it doesn't pan out how I wanted, just the act of having the knowledge helps. Hell, we plan to buy a house at some point, I go to web pages and look at houses available. I know they will be all sold when we get to it, but it gives me a topic to focus on, discuss with my partner, see what we both like, want etc. It focuses us on a positive future together. 

You guys are on the ball absolutely correct!

[msrodriguez 267]

3 hours ago, E&W said:

In my very very humble opinion, it would be weird if we didn't get impatient at times. We are all human, we care, and we all like to feel we have control over our lives. It's about what we do with that frustration. Talking about it does help to a certain degree, and sure, sometimes you need others to kick you out of the frustration spiral that you put yourself in. But at some point you have to start finding ways to deal with the frustration by yourself internally, or you will constantly be suffering and waiting for others to rescue you.

 

What we don't need to do is worry. They will not loose or skip or ignore our petitions. It will just take time. The people at USCIS, NVC and embassies are just people, subject to the same things that influence us (holidays, bad days, sickness etc.). They are doing their best in the framework they are given. And from what little I have seen by reading this forum, they know their jobs very well.

 

Ok, end of rant, sorry for that, I tend to get a bit philosophical at times.

Absolutely normal to be impatient as we are anticipating a very unique life changing event. I think it’s just important to remember that honestly we don’t have control over this process or how long it takes. Staying busy is definitely imperative for your sanity haha! 

[msrodriguez 267]

Also, I just meant don’t get so wrapped up in the future that you forget to enjoy the present because tomorrow is not promised to anyone. 🙂

[E&W 146]

Haha, yeah, we are all saying the same things, just have different ways of coping. There is no one size fits all, just find healthy ways to deal with it that suit you.

Edited January 27, 2020 by E&W

[LibbyG99 65]

Hi all! We filed our K-1 in late October and it was received Nov 8, and my NOA1 a few weeks after. Now the waiting..... it is agonizing!

[Greenbaum 12,259]

6 hours ago, E&W said:

In my very very humble opinion, it would be weird if we didn't get impatient at times. We are all human, we care, and we all like to feel we have control over our lives. It's about what we do with that frustration. Talking about it does help to a certain degree, and sure, sometimes you need others to kick you out of the frustration spiral that you put yourself in. But at some point you have to start finding ways to deal with the frustration by yourself internally, or you will constantly be suffering and waiting for others to rescue you.

 

What we don't need to do is worry. They will not loose or skip or ignore our petitions. It will just take time. The people at USCIS, NVC and embassies are just people, subject to the same things that influence us (holidays, bad days, sickness etc.). They are doing their best in the framework they are given. And from what little I have seen by reading this forum, they know their jobs very well.

 

Ok, end of rant, sorry for that, I tend to get a bit philosophical at times.

This was well said. Thank you.