About to file I-751: Wife don't want to stay married anymore after counseling

[Back2Reality 55]

The past few weeks been so eventful. I posted before below about my marriage and the struggles we been going through. After attempting counseling twice, my wife declared that she don't want to be married anymore, and that she loves me so much, and she doesn't mind us working on our relationship in the future, but she just don't want to be married to anyone, period. She want to be independent, and the marriage counseling ended up revealing a lot about her feelings. We love each others, but in different ways at this point. The decision of divorce been so hard that the past 6 months we talked and re-talked about it like 20 times. At this point, it is 100% clear that divorce is happening no matter what I do.

 

I need to file I-751 within the next 10 weeks, and divorce once filed, will take 2.5 to 4 months to finalize. Despite our great relationship, I am not comfortable with filing together as we are clearly getting divorced (despite it being a legal option), so I am taking my chances here. we just need to sort of some joint finances before we file, and hopefully I will have the decree within 3 months of sending the forms

 

Now, I don't want to give up on my wife even after the divorce, and I want to keep trying to fix our relationship, maybe starting over down the road; however, I am scared that will look bad for USCIS?

 

I understand that people usually don't get divorced to date each others again, but I don't want to give up on the love of my life, and I want to keep trying to win her back even after the divorce as she is open for us trying to fix our relationship outside the marriage.  I honestly not sure what to do at this point. Outside being married couple, we are best friends, and I don't want to give all up and pretend we never happened, but I also understand that is not traditional to keep talking to your ex wife and be close after divorce?   I thought divorce is easy, but it turned out to be more complicated than our marriage... Our divorce is not due to lack of commitment, or lack of love, or communication. It just we can never live together, and we can't live without each others. We can't deal with our strong differences, but we can't stop being together. 

 

I'd appreciate any advice really 

 

 

Edited September 27, 2019 by Back2Reality

[designguy 1,179]

Are you planning to file with a divorce waiver?

[Ed&Midori1031 330]

Is divorce something you both agreed upon?  Meaning, you both verbally agreed to it? 

[Back2Reality 55]

3 hours ago, Ed&Midori1031 said:

Is divorce something you both agreed upon?  Meaning, you both verbally agreed to it? 

As of now, yes. My wife wants the divorce, and I can't force her to stay married. 

3 hours ago, designguy said:

Are you planning to file with a divorce waiver?

Yes, I don't feel comfortable sending joint form if we filling for divorce around the same time. it loses the value of the word joint

[designguy 1,179]

18 minutes ago, Back2Reality said:

Yes, I don't feel comfortable sending joint form if we filling for divorce around the same time. it loses the value of the word joint

I am not too familiar with the process but do you need your divorce finalized prior to filing with a divorce waiver?

[Going through 5,671]

4 minutes ago, designguy said:

I am not too familiar with the process but do you need your divorce finalized prior to filing with a divorce waiver?

OP can file before the divorce is finalized, that's the point of requesting the divorce waiver beforehand....the i-751 cannot be approved, however, until the final divorce decree is submitted to USCIS later on.

Edited September 27, 2019 by Going through

[Richard1948 1]

Before you file think about your obligations under the 751

[Crazy Cat 41,887]

17 minutes ago, Richard1948 said:

Before you file think about your obligations under the 751

Please elaborate....