VAWA, Part 16

[RoDaMo 58]

12 minutes ago, Stillwinning!!!😊 said:

Hey..not so fast! Weigh your options before taking that decision! There's always a way! Better still wait for Sandra's legal advice!💁

 

8 minutes ago, Nu B said:

Yes, first I didn’t notice about that until on Tuesday they asking, will you go hike with us again? I said I don’t want to go if out of trails and go to the place that I got bite of the insects again. They replied, the temperature will go low and no more insect. The next day they asking the same question and the next day again and the next day again until I can’t sleep and cry all night. And finally on Friday, I call USCIS officer and said all my stories and I asked if I go to married counseling, will it help? The USCIS officer said better pack your belongings and go to the police. I went there and meet the counselor and she was agreed with my decision to go out from the house. 

Totally agree!!! Wait for Sandra’s advice 
Also, you did it right! I am also ran away from the house that I have been living with my ex... 

when you went to the police, did you submit a report? that could help to start gathering evidence 

[Stillwinning!!!😊 4,570]

7 minutes ago, NeverGiveUp Nov17 said:

 

Totally agree!!! Wait for Sandra’s advice 
Also, you did it right! I am also ran away from the house that I have been living with my ex... 

when you went to the police, did you submit a report? that could help to start gathering evidence 

Very logical reasoning!👍

[Nu B 5]

Just now, NeverGiveUp Nov17 said:

 

Totally agree!!! Wait for Sandra’s advice 
Also, you did it right! I am also ran away from the house that I have been living with my ex... 

when you went to the police, did you submit a report? that could help to start gathering evidence 

I didn’t make a report because I don’t want my husband go to the jail, he has mental problem and needs help through special treatment. Also he and my father-in-law has one charged domestic violence already. I don’t want to put them on a jail. Only want to get out from my trap and continue my life with peace. I told that and the officer bring me to one lady, this lady works in the police station but she is not police officer only handle domestic violence cases. 

[Fishy89 207]

25 minutes ago, Stillwinning!!!😊 said:

How does a combo card say not valid for re entry?😕😏 don't take chances now...kinda misleading..

I get Travel document approval notice and EAD approval notice .. but the card says not valid for reentry .. !! Which is weird ! 
 

[Stillwinning!!!😊 4,570]

2 minutes ago, Nu B said:

I didn’t make a report because I don’t want my husband go to the jail, he has mental problem and needs help through special treatment. Also he and my father-in-law has one charged domestic violence already. I don’t want to put them on a jail. Only want to get out from my trap and continue my life with peace. I told that and the officer bring me to one lady, this lady works in the police station but she is not police officer only handle domestic violence cases. 

Life is basically survival of the fittest!!! I admire your humanity but this is not the time for sentiments! Especially if you really mean what you said earlier that you might be in danger! Sometimes it's shoot or get shot! If you still love him and feel protective of him..or even believe he should be helped then you probably should not go this route...💁

[Stillwinning!!!😊 4,570]

2 minutes ago, Fishy89 said:

I get Travel document approval notice and EAD approval notice .. but the card says not valid for reentry .. !! Which is weird ! 
 

Got you sweety!💖💓💗 your AP is definitely seperate then! Pay attention to each document you receive or will be receiving..👍

[Fishy89 207]

28 minutes ago, Pinkrlion said:

Look at your approval notice for AP, sometimes you do not receive a combo card.  AP is in letter form.  

I got the AP letter already .. but Iam worried because i used to travel with the card i never traveled with the document and i had problem before with the card boarding because Egyptair was not familiar with that kind of card .. and i was about to miss my flight as they  were refusing the card for boarding  .. this card also has no fingerprint on it .. it’s kinda weird card ! 

[Fishy89 207]

30 minutes ago, FeDaniela said:

Only travel with the appropriate AP document, it seems to be your EAD was not made a combo Card.  Combo Card will say at that bottom Serve as I-512 Advance Parole. If not is just an EAD. Wait for your Advance Parole official document. 

I already have the approval notice .. 

[Stillwinning!!!😊 4,570]

3 minutes ago, Fishy89 said:

I got the AP letter already .. but Iam worried because i used to travel with the card i never traveled with the document and i had problem before with the card boarding because Egyptair was not familiar with that kind of card .. and i was about to miss my flight as they  were refusing the card for boarding  .. this card also has no fingerprint on it .. it’s kinda weird card ! 

Well if you have the AP letter then it's valid! No need to fear! You'll be fine..the AP is from USCIS remember?😊😉👍

[Shroy123 749]

1 hour ago, Nu B said:

That’s what my husband and my father-in-law said, that they taking care of me, so why I went from the house, but my counselor said they’re clever and manipulated me.

1. I like hiking but I don’t like hiking off the trail because anything could be happen and it happened one time. We get lost. Even my husband already get mad and screaming because we can’t get back to the trail. I don’t like hiking off the the trails, for me it’s kinda danger.
2. Father-in-law pay for the first and second month but not 3rd and 4th, and wants to pay the 5th since I’m runaway. I stopped work since May 2019 since I moved to their house and they know my condition.

3. They know I don’t like some kind of movies according to my belief, I’m not saying I’m perfect, but they force we to sit with them as spending time with them.

4. Not only movies, show or sports, they forced me to have the same favorite team, interests, political views, etc

5. They suggested to cancel all my religious activities or any kind of invitations from friends became we need to spend our time together.

6. Even, they asked me to stop any kind of social media, and phone, because they love old fashioned, and they force me to do the same.

7. Also all the food, the vitamins, and so on.....

No physical abuse, but I feel trapped. 
 

I know my husband didn’t about withdrawing i130 but my father-in-law sent email to me that they can’t wait forever. 
 

I don’t want comeback since I’m not sure they will change as I want. I just afraid.

PS: 2 years ago, my mother-in-law did suicidal through overdose xanax, in their house. Now I understand what the mother-in-law feeling that time.

 

All i can say point 5, 6 and 7 may comes under isolation, social withdrawn but does it affect your health? 

[Shroy123 749]

1 hour ago, Fishy89 said:

Hello guys ! 
I have a problem .. i sent my renewal application for EAD and advance parole 4 months ago and both applications were approved 10 days ago ,, i received the COMBO CARD but it says not valid for reentry to the states !! However i got the approval notices for advance parole and the EAD .. 
the Card also doesn’t have my fingerprint .. !! 
My question now can i travel or no?  using the approval notice ?

thanks !

you made me scared. my EAD/AP approved yesterday and I am hoping it is a combo card. although on NOA, it states this card will serve as both work and travel.  ask your attorney to call USCIS and inquire 

[Nu B 5]

11 minutes ago, Stillwinning!!!😊 said:

Life is basically survival of the fittest!!! I admire your humanity but this is not the time for sentiments! Especially if you really mean what you said earlier that you might be in danger! Sometimes it's shoot or get shot! If you still love him and feel protective of him..or even believe he should be helped then you probably should not go this route...💁

Since Monday until now, it seems like I got stucked. When finally I found a private lawyer and wants to make appointment for what happen to me, she asked $250 for vawa appointment.

I don’t want to go back to my husband, I just want to continue my life with peace and start new beginning.

[Shroy123 749]

38 minutes ago, Nu B said:

I didn’t make a report because I don’t want my husband go to the jail, he has mental problem and needs help through special treatment. Also he and my father-in-law has one charged domestic violence already. I don’t want to put them on a jail. Only want to get out from my trap and continue my life with peace. I told that and the officer bring me to one lady, this lady works in the police station but she is not police officer only handle domestic violence cases. 

Red: do you have any evidences of his mental treatment and treatment? Like medical reports

Green: This is a good point. Ask for police report about that domestic violence charge against them. You can use it 

[Nu B 5]

6 minutes ago, Shroy123 said:

All i can say point 5, 6 and 7 may comes under isolation, social withdrawn but does it affect your health? 

I feel trapped, stressed and I feel not the same as I’m before. About the vitamins since they take expired vitamins too, and it didn’t effect to them so, they think it will not harm me.

[cashweed 22]

@Nu B

1. I like hiking but I don’t like hiking off the trail because anything could be happen and it happened one time. We get lost. Even my husband already get mad and screaming because we can’t get back to the trail. I don’t like hiking off the the trails, for me it’s kinda danger. Does this mean that the reason you dont want to go to the hikes is because you fear that you might get lost and you are afraid of your husbands violent reaction. My question is the last time you did hike with him was his reaction threatening to you? Either physically or emotionally. Was he abusive in any ways to you?. Has he threatened you in such away that you fear he might do anything to you while hiking?. My take on this is, If you can prove anything like that or similar happened then that can be used as evidence. This evidence can be inform of affidavit from anyone you told about this who is willing to do it for you. Ofcourse you can also explain what happened also in your own affidavit. Since you mention that they keep on asking you to follow them on hikes which you already refuse then you can use this evidence to show a pattern. Because they keep on pushing you to do this and you said you just cry and cry. How about you talk to a psychologists. 

2. Father-in-law pay for the first and second month but not 3rd and 4th, and wants to pay the 5th since I’m runaway. I stopped work since May 2019 since I moved to their house and they know my condition. My take on this is that they have already helped you even when you left. I dont think you can use this to your favour at all. The fact that they have accepted to help you financially even after you left favours them. Even if they know your condition as you put it. You are the one who decided to leave and I really doubt they are obliged to help you. They might be helping you inorder to use this in future. It makes them look good. If I were you I would be careful. Did theh force you to live your work?. Did they make any agreement that they will support you which they are breaking?. 

3. They know I don’t like some kind of movies according to my belief, I’m not saying I’m perfect, but they force we to sit with them as spending time with them. The key word here is Force. How do they force you?.Do they threaten you?.  No one should make you do things against your will. If I were you I would be careful so that this incompatibility is not seen as a way to show that your marriage is not bonefide. I have heard that the uscius scrutinises carefully marriages between people of different beliefs. It's always seen as a redflag. This is not to mean that there are no true marriages between people with different beliefs it happens sometimes but it's difficult. In your case if you can prove there was an agreement before that your husband would respect your beliefs. And again you have to explain how you were forced. Again this is just my speculation on what you wrote. I stand to be corrected if I am wrong.  All in all forcing you to do things against your belief can be seen.ad  is psychological abuse but also if he forces you to do this physically then this can be seen as physical abuse. 

5. They suggested to cancel all my religious activities or any kind of invitations from friends became we need to spend our time together. This sounds like abuse inform of isolation and over controlling. Again if you can proof this in some sort of way. Can someone from your religious activities write affidavit showing concern that you have been missing from your religious activities . Your friends whom you have turned down their invitation because you were forced to do so by your husband can also help you out by writting affidavits. The most important is to show patterns of isolation and being overcontrolled. This is some form of domestic abuse. Try father evidence on this. 

6. Even, they asked me to stop any kind of social media, and phone, because they love old fashioned, and they force me to do the same.  This is isolation and overcontrol. Prove how they force you. 

 

Its maybe difficult to prove this kind if psychological abuse. You can talk to therapist who document what you go through for now. Tall to a psychologist. Domestic abuse social workers. Tell them the truth everytime you meet with them. This is a way to document your suffering. And which can be used to prove your abuse for vawa later on. You mentioned that you cry alot because of what they put you through. This can be a sign of depression. A psychologists can help out to by therapy and later they can give you prove to use in your case. 

You mentioned your father in law is a lawyer. If that's the case. They are probably careful so you cant prove anything.  Be careful they probably suspect you would apply using vawa. So whatever you do do it carefully. If you cant talk to police since you dont want him to be arrested. Talk to therapists and also to people who deal with domestic violence so they can document it for you. Once you have gathered evidence enough apply for vawa. Remember to check requirements needed for vawa to make sure you have those as well. Be careful and follow your instincts.