VAWA, Part 16

[Cindygodisgood1 57]

2 hours ago, digonyc said:

Do u remember what kind of questions? Mine is tomorrow and wanted to get ready. Thank you

Yes all from i485 on the security section and the criminal and your relationship with ur last current partner and the entries you have had to the usa and the dates and places you have been 

[Cindygodisgood1 57]

1 hour ago, nap_o said:

Hi dear. Did they ask your current marital status? If you’re still married or divorced to your ex ?

Yes ! Lots of different times she kept asking and i am divorced from him i didnt take the decree they will rfe for it 

[Pinkslays 6]

I read the pdf of denials - almost everywhere they denied because of insufficient proof or cohabitating or shared residence . Don’t you think that’s catch 22 ? our abusers weren’t saints ... they refused to add our names to any bills or give us any evidence of joint residence thats the way they abused us .

how do you prove any of that if your abuser refuses to cooperate - that was exactly how they abused us - they refused to help 

I was shocked to see that cases got denied even when there was ample abuse evidence But was denied based on inability to show good faith marriage and shared residence ! 
 

those denials are scary 

 

@sandranj

can those denials be contested ? Did they ever get approved ? 

Edited November 19, 2019 by Pinkslays

[Shroy123 751]

33 minutes ago, Pinkslays said:

I read the pdf of denials - almost everywhere they denied because of insufficient proof or cohabitating or shared residence . Don’t you think that’s catch 22 ? our abusers weren’t saints ... they refused to add our names to any bills or give us any evidence of joint residence thats the way they abused us .

how do you prove any of that if your abuser refuses to cooperate - that was exactly how they abused us - they refused to help 

I was shocked to see that cases got denied even when there was ample abuse evidence But was denied based on inability to show good faith marriage and shared residence ! 
 

those denials are scary 

 

@sandranj

can those denials be contested ? Did they ever get approved ? 

I know those PDFs are depressing. Don't read them.. and trust on God

In such cases, affidavits from friends and family who visited houses are beneficial. any statement from neighbors.. Also, if someone visits a grocery shop with their abuses spouses often and employees know them, they can get something from them too  😞 Its hard though 

[Stillwinning!!!😊 4,570]

1 minute ago, Shroy123 said:

I know those PDFs are depressing. Don't read them.. and trust on God

In such cases, affidavits from friends and family who visited houses are beneficial. any statement from neighbors.. Also, if someone visits a grocery shop with their abuses spouses often and employees know them, they can get something from them too  😞 Its hard though 

You're right! My heart would have probably exploded with fear anxiety and worry if I saw that before getting approved! As it was difficult for me to prove residence and good faith marriage..Believe me it was affidavits of mutual friends and family that I had..mostly..aside our lease and monthly receipts..our landlord testified as well..I had big doubts..but God is the master of the universe!!!🙏😊

[Pinkslays 6]

6 minutes ago, Stillwinning!!!😊 said:

You're right! My heart would have probably exploded with fear anxiety and worry if I saw that before getting approved! As it was difficult for me to prove residence and good faith marriage..Believe me it was affidavits of mutual friends and family that I had..mostly..aside our lease and monthly receipts..our landlord testified as well..I had big doubts..but God is the master of the universe!!!🙏😊

I lived with my spouse but his house was already mortgaged so he didn’t want to refinance it to add my name to it ... hence I live with him in a house that he mortgaged before he met me - so we don’t even have a lease as such ...

so how do I show a shared residence ? 
 

I just have our address showing on our bank account , phone bill , cable bill and his car insurance ( just 4 things ) 

that’s all 

 

please help everyone 

 

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1 minute ago, Pinkslays said:

I lived with my spouse but his house was already mortgaged so he didn’t want to refinance it to add my name to it ... hence I live with him in a house that he mortgaged before he met me - so we don’t even have a lease as such ...

so how do I show a shared residence ? 
 

I just have our address showing on our bank account , phone bill , cable bill and his car insurance ( just 4 things ) 

that’s all 

 

please help everyone 

 

Those four things can speak for you..never underestimate any document! I didn't even have that much that's how I know there's a thing called GRACE!!! write a very detailed affidavit explaining why you do not have a lot...it helps! The officers are highly trained and know the dynamics of VAWA as a whole! You will make it I am sure!🙏😊

[Shroy123 751]

24 minutes ago, Pinkslays said:

I lived with my spouse but his house was already mortgaged so he didn’t want to refinance it to add my name to it ... hence I live with him in a house that he mortgaged before he met me - so we don’t even have a lease as such ...

so how do I show a shared residence ? 
 

I just have our address showing on our bank account , phone bill , cable bill and his car insurance ( just 4 things ) 

that’s all 

 

please help everyone 

 

those are enough. in your personal affidavit, explain why your name was not on mortgage. plus ask statements from your friends and family as well. 

[FeDaniela 673]

1 hour ago, Pinkslays said:

I read the pdf of denials - almost everywhere they denied because of insufficient proof or cohabitating or shared residence . Don’t you think that’s catch 22 ? our abusers weren’t saints ... they refused to add our names to any bills or give us any evidence of joint residence thats the way they abused us .

how do you prove any of that if your abuser refuses to cooperate - that was exactly how they abused us - they refused to help 

I was shocked to see that cases got denied even when there was ample abuse evidence But was denied based on inability to show good faith marriage and shared residence ! 
 

those denials are scary 

 

@sandranj

can those denials be contested ? Did they ever get approved ? 

Vawa petition is not only base on Abuse, you also have to prove and have the Eligibility requirements USCIS ask for, they cannot only approved you for one thing and dismiss the others requirements: 

Qualifying spousal relationship (being married to US citizen or LPR Abuser, filled your I-360 before the 2 year time frame etc) 

You have suffered battery/extreme cruelty by your U.S. citizen or permanent resident spouse

You entered into the marriage in good faith, not solely for immigration benefits.

You have resided with your spouse.

You are a person of good moral character.

Any credible evidence will be taken in consideration but is also under the discretion of the officer. But we must a least tried to put them all together even with affidavits and if they investigate to be accurate with our information. 

[Pinkslays 6]

5 minutes ago, FeDaniela said:

Vawa petition is not only base on Abuse, you also have to prove and have the Eligibility requirements USCIS ask for, they cannot only approved you for one thing and dismiss the others requirements: 

Qualifying spousal relationship (being married to US citizen or LPR Abuser, filled your I-360 before the 2 year time frame etc) 

You have suffered battery/extreme cruelty by your U.S. citizen or permanent resident spouse

You entered into the marriage in good faith, not solely for immigration benefits.

You have resided with your spouse.

You are a person of good moral character.

Any credible evidence will be taken in consideration but is also under the discretion of the officer. But we must a least tried to put them all together even with affidavits and if they investigate to be accurate with our information. 

I understand ... however my clause is that our abusers don’t cooperate - they know these evidences are required and that’s where they abuse 

they choose not to add you to bills or have life insurance with you 

my abuser refused to add me to single bill ... he wouldn’t even have a joint account with me ...never added me to his medical insurance or life insurance or even car insurance ... all the 4 pieces of evidence I had was a result of fights abuse begging pleading - he refuses to even file taxes 

 

so my question is how do I prove anything if abuser refuses to cooperatE Knowing that these will help us —— they make sure we are enslaved ... if my abuser helped me establish good faith marriage and all pertinent documents then where would the problem be ? We would have a happy marriage ... isn’t that why we file vawa ... 

all of this extreme cruelty Isn’t it ? 

 

what do we do in such case 

[Shroy123 751]

32 minutes ago, Pinkslays said:

I understand ... however my clause is that our abusers don’t cooperate - they know these evidences are required and that’s where they abuse 

they choose not to add you to bills or have life insurance with you 

my abuser refused to add me to single bill ... he wouldn’t even have a joint account with me ...never added me to his medical insurance or life insurance or even car insurance ... all the 4 pieces of evidence I had was a result of fights abuse begging pleading - he refuses to even file taxes 

 

so my question is how do I prove anything if abuser refuses to cooperatE Knowing that these will help us —— they make sure we are enslaved ... if my abuser helped me establish good faith marriage and all pertinent documents then where would the problem be ? We would have a happy marriage ... isn’t that why we file vawa ... 

all of this extreme cruelty Isn’t it ? 

 

what do we do in such case 

did he abuse you physically or mentally? for bona fide marriage, add pictures of both of you together. add pictures with families too. any wedding card or invitation, add that too.. Also, affidavits are great sources 

[FeDaniela 673]

Just now, Pinkslays said:

I understand ... however my clause is that our abusers don’t cooperate - they know these evidences are required and that’s where they abuse 

they choose not to add you to bills or have life insurance with you 

my abuser refused to add me to single bill ... he wouldn’t even have a joint account with me ...never added me to his medical insurance or life insurance or even car insurance ... all the 4 pieces of evidence I had was a result of fights abuse begging pleading - he refuses to even file taxes 

 

so my question is how do I prove anything if abuser refuses to cooperatE Knowing that these will help us —— they make sure we are enslaved ... if my abuser helped me establish good faith marriage and all pertinent documents then where would the problem be ? We would have a happy marriage ... isn’t that why we file vawa ... 

all of this extreme cruelty Isn’t it ? 

 

what do we do in such case 

This is when Affidavits comes in, explaining each and every detail on why no bills was on your name, find other ways to prove it, Maybe a Neighbor know you live in the apartment try them to write an affidavits, building super, Family, friends, relative.  I give an example, my abuser had a bank account, we went together so he can add my name on the account the bank refuse to do so because i did not have an SS# (crazy) at the time, so how did I prove it that I went to the bank and ask them to give me a letter explaining why i couldn't be add to his account even thought i was his wife, they did it was the policy... I sent that as proof. Little details can count and well explained affidavits is credible evidence.  Another example for my case: Our lease apartment was on my mother's name i ask the super to write an affidavits for me he was witness were both lived there, we sign paper when something was fix i sent copy,  he also provide me a letter that he was the super on the building with address... Those little things counts as credible proof even thought is not directly in our names. 

[Pinkslays 6]

38 minutes ago, Shroy123 said:

did he abuse you physically or mentally? for bona fide marriage, add pictures of both of you together. add pictures with families too. any wedding card or invitation, add that too.. Also, affidavits are great sources 

Physically mentally and emotionally - I went to the DV shelter too then went back to reconcile - I found no respite 

every lawyer I met said I don’t have enough bonafide marriage evidence - 

[Lola_lalo 211]

3 hours ago, Pinkslays said:

I read the pdf of denials - almost everywhere they denied because of insufficient proof or cohabitating or shared residence . Don’t you think that’s catch 22 ? our abusers weren’t saints ... they refused to add our names to any bills or give us any evidence of joint residence thats the way they abused us .

how do you prove any of that if your abuser refuses to cooperate - that was exactly how they abused us - they refused to help 

I was shocked to see that cases got denied even when there was ample abuse evidence But was denied based on inability to show good faith marriage and shared residence ! 
 

those denials are scary 

 

@sandranj

can those denials be contested ? Did they ever get approved ? 

If you are talking about the I-360 I can tell you my experience. I'm approved by the grace of God. We don't have nothing shared. Name it, I don't have it. NO bank account, shared residence, insurance. . . I submitted a detailed self, sister, mom and friend affidavit. The only thing I found with the address is the hospital documents sent for me. I submitted his proof of residency by googling on people search engines. My advice pray, do what you have to do, give all the information you have and wait. If you prefer to stress yourself keep on reading all those denial materials and stay up all night, loose your appetite. . . read success stories and give to God. The Righteous Judge is your father. Do what you have to do and give it to God. May the Almighty God guide you through out the process and guard your heart. 

Edited November 19, 2019 by Lola_lalo

[Stillwinning!!!😊 4,570]

1 minute ago, Lola_lalo said:

If you are talking about the I-360 I can tell you my experience. I'm approved by the grace of God. We don't have nothing shared. Name it, I don't have it. NO bank account, shared residence, insurance. . . I submitted a detailed self, sister, mom and friend affidavit. The only thing I found with the address is the hospital documents sent for me. I submitted his proof of residency by googling on people search engines. My advice pray, do what you have to do, give all the information you have and wait. If you prefer to stress yourself keep on reading all those denial materials and stay up all night, loose your appetite. . . read success stories and give to God. The Righteous Judge is your father. Do what you have to do and give it to God. May the Almighty God lead you through the process and guide your heart. 

WOW! I am so inspired by your testimony! The need to focus on ONLY the positive can not be overemphasised!!! May God go before us all and make every crooked path straight, rough terrains smooth! AMEN!!!🙏🙏🙏😊