VAWA, Part 16

[Poupis 52]

On 10/23/2019 at 6:15 PM, Fishy89 said:

Read this

Thanks for sharing that, it gives me hope. I was asked for proof of share residence which I sent after RFE: bank statements, cable bill and car insurance and a letter from our landlord, I didn’t send them before because I didn’t have access to them. Also proof of abuse and I sent more pictures personal affidavit + 3 people affidavit. And proof of good moral which I sent the police record from my state. Today is 123 days after answering the RFE...

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1 hour ago, Poupis said:

Thanks for sharing that, it gives me hope. I was asked for proof of share residence which I sent after RFE: bank statements, cable bill and car insurance and a letter from our landlord, I didn’t send them before because I didn’t have access to them. Also proof of abuse and I sent more pictures personal affidavit + 3 people affidavit. And proof of good moral which I sent the police record from my state. Today is 123 days after answering the RFE...

WOW..just read the exchange in the post above..it's terrifying! 6months! Anyway just to assure you that you'll hear anytime now..definitely not up to 6months..I reject that for you. I got 3 RFEs and was approved in 60days. Keep praying God is on your side!🙏

[FeDaniela 673]

14 hours ago, Lola_lalo said:

Hello Dear, try to explain every detail as much as you could. I was married for 7 years, except for our kids and pictures I didn't share anything. But I explained everything because it is part of the abuse. As a human being I should have manage something but not even a bank account, I used cash or his card whenever he is around. So as long as you explain it and attest that it is part of the abuse they will understand. I got approved with out RFE regarding this. What I understand from you is he  wants to control everything regarding your finance. Write, read it and rewrite it until you put the picture of your life with your ex spouse for someone who has no idea about what was going on in your married life. God be with you! 

Great advise, I agree with you, one way of abuse is controlling and VAWA unit officer will see this if you clear point it and explain it. I did suffer this type of abuse i did not even knew I was being control until I get helped. NYC banks will allow a person without a SS# to open an account but in my case I open one to be a little independence and he force me to add him, applied for credit card, got a debit card and everything i earn was spend by him... He control my finance, My hard work money, cause without him I was a nobody he said....  A little of my experience..  @Aprilvawa

[Shroy123 751]

11 hours ago, CrimsonWarrior26 said:

Good evening everyone! Is there anyone here with a template of notarized change of address and cover letter format for sending additional evidence to Vermont? Please and thank you!

you just need to submit change of address form. 

[Lola_lalo 211]

1 hour ago, FeDaniela said:

Great advise, I agree with you, one way of abuse is controlling and VAWA unit officer will see this if you clear point it and explain it. I did suffer this type of abuse i did not even knew I was being control until I get helped. NYC banks will allow a person without a SS# to open an account but in my case I open one to be a little independence and he force me to add him, applied for credit card, got a debit card and everything i earn was spend by him... He control my finance, My hard work money, cause without him I was a nobody he said....  A little of my experience..  @Aprilvawa

I'm sorry you passed through this but I hope it makes you stronger now. @Aprilvawa is getting more insights. "i didn't even knew i was being controlled until I get help" This is the saddest thing happen to a victim. Beside the physical abuse I had no idea about all his tactics to control my finance, moral, career, study and even playing a good guy amongst my family and friends. . . when I tell my closest family members (siblings and parents) it took them a while to believe me he is a kind of person. usually he cursed my siblings all night long to me and when he meets them he is an angel. now i know he was wearing the fallen angel. 

[FeDaniela 673]

5 minutes ago, Lola_lalo said:

I'm sorry you passed through this but I hope it makes you stronger now. @Aprilvawa is getting more insights. "i didn't even knew i was being controlled until I get help" This is the saddest thing happen to a victim. Beside the physical abuse I had no idea about all his tactics to control my finance, moral, career, study and even playing a good guy amongst my family and friends. . . when I tell my closest family members (siblings and parents) it took them a while to believe me he is a kind of person. usually he cursed my siblings all night long to me and when he meets them he is an angel. now i know he was wearing the fallen angel. 

typical abuser behavior. Thanks the Lord we are free of that.... Many blessings.  

[Pinkrlion 2,724]

18 hours ago, ATLANTA1 said:

WHEN YOUR WAWA I-360 APPROVED AND I-485 STILL PENDING 

 

Not understanding what you are saying. 

[Aprilvawa 61]

5 hours ago, FeDaniela said:

Great advise, I agree with you, one way of abuse is controlling and VAWA unit officer will see this if you clear point it and explain it. I did suffer this type of abuse i did not even knew I was being control until I get helped. NYC banks will allow a person without a SS# to open an account but in my case I open one to be a little independence and he force me to add him, applied for credit card, got a debit card and everything i earn was spend by him... He control my finance, My hard work money, cause without him I was a nobody he said....  A little of my experience..  @Aprilvawa

@FeDaniela @Lola_lalo thank you guys so much for your sharing your experiences. I feel like we’re all a family. Our unfortunate circumstances brought us all together, I hope and pray everyone here comes out a winner at the end of this journey. Despite what our abusers did or said, I truly believe we will be fine because God is here for all of us. I am rewriting my affidavit and I will be sure to include the control that he had over me. The money that went into our joint account was mostly from me and we agreed we it would be our savings. None of was supposed to touch, this was actually his idea and I agreed to it. You can imagine my surprise, shock and horror when the bank notified me that the account was overdraft and there was a negative balance. This was just a few months into our marriage. He got so defensive and angry when I confronted him about. He had no remorse, it was like my opinion didn’t matter at all. Like you guys say, sometimes When are being controlled and we don’t even know about until someone points it out

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2 minutes ago, Aprilvawa said:

@FeDaniela @Lola_lalo thank you guys so much for your sharing your experiences. I feel like we’re all a family. Our unfortunate circumstances brought us all together, I hope and pray everyone here comes out a winner at the end of this journey. Despite what our abusers did or said, I truly believe we will be fine because God is here for all of us. I am rewriting my affidavit and I will be sure to include the control that he had over me. The money that went into our joint account was mostly from me and we agreed we it would be our savings. None of was supposed to touch, this was actually his idea and I agreed to it. You can imagine my surprise, shock and horror when the bank notified me that the account was overdraft and there was a negative balance. This was just a few months into our marriage. He got so defensive and angry when I confronted him about. He had no remorse, it was like my opinion didn’t matter at all. Like you guys say, sometimes When are being controlled and we don’t even know about until someone points it out

My dear! You really have been through so much, now pour out your heart into that affidavit, it will go a long way! These officers are trained..they know there are a number of reasons documents are lacking..they know the dynamics surrounding victims of abuse..you'll be alright!🙏

[Atstake 5]

I need help - someone , moderators of VJ .. please refer me to the right thread - I need help with removal of conditions ROC with a extremely cruelty or abuse waiver ... which means I already have my conditional green card 

This vawa thread helped me so much , even though I made a critical mistake of not filing vawa and I got fooled into thinking my abuser will change and I let the abuse trick me yet again into thinking I need to give my marriage another try 

this regret will be with me forever 

but I want to do things right this time and I need a support group like this one 

I don’t know anyone who is in similar state like mine .. I need help 

please add me or guide me to the correct forum thread etc 

Edited October 29, 2019 by Atstake

[natalysmile 75]

I met on FB
with a woman who also asked for help
I'm tired of hearing such bullying.
These bullying are not physical (in her words)
They also had no marriage
I don’t know how to help her.
She is crying and upset. And seeks advice

[natalysmile 75]

She has two children whom she brought to the USA.
she has animals which she also brought to the USA
The husband did not even buy her a phone with an American number.
I am worrying a lot
Although sometimes it seems to me that everyone around lies
Tell me how she should be
She is crying

she has no marriage

[natalysmile 75]

1 hour ago, Atstake said:

I need help - someone , moderators of VJ .. please refer me to the right thread - I need help with removal of conditions ROC with a extremely cruelty or abuse waiver ... which means I already have my conditional green card 

This vawa thread helped me so much , even though I made a critical mistake of not filing vawa and I got fooled into thinking my abuser will change and I let the abuse trick me yet again into thinking I need to give my marriage another try 

this regret will be with me forever 

but I want to do things right this time and I need a support group like this one 

I don’t know anyone who is in similar state like mine .. I need help 

please add me or guide me to the correct forum thread etc 

I also once forgave everything and allowed the offender to change
But the second time it turned out even worse

[Villanelle 4,122]

15 minutes ago, natalysmile said:

I met on FB
with a woman who also asked for help
I'm tired of hearing such bullying.
These bullying are not physical (in her words)
They also had no marriage
I don’t know how to help her.
She is crying and upset. And seeks advice

If they are not married she can not file VAWA. She may be able to get a U visa. She should contact a pro-bono attny near her to see if the U visa is possible. In the US you can dial 2-1-1 for non emergency services or use http://www.211.org/ to find domestic violence resources near you. 

[FeDaniela 673]

39 minutes ago, Atstake said:

I need help - someone , moderators of VJ .. please refer me to the right thread - I need help with removal of conditions with a extremely cruelty or abuse waiver ...

This vawa thread helped me so much , even though I made a critical mistake of not filing vawa and I got fooled into thinking my abuser will change and I let the abuse trick me yet again into thinking I need to give my marriage another try 

this regret will be with me forever 

but I want to do things right this time and I need a support group like this one 

I don’t know anyone who is in similar state like mine .. I need help 

please add me or guide me to the correct forum thread etc 

You need to file I-751 

Federal immigration law permits an applicant to file a petition to remove conditions on his or her residence even if he or she does not jointly file with his or her spouse if s/he was subject to extreme cruelty from his or her spouse during the marriage. For this type of waiver, you must prove:

You entered into the marriage in “Good faith” (proving that you did not commit marriage fraud); and

You suffered Extreme cruelty from your spouse during the marriage (you endured physical, emotional, verbal, sexual and/or financial abuse from your spouse).

Edited October 29, 2019 by FeDaniela