VAWA, Part 16

[Stillwinning!!!😊 4,570]

1 minute ago, Charlotte18 said:

Thanks for helping always ☺️

You're welcome dear. Remember to include 2 passport style photographs, copy of i485, copy of the EAD to be renewed.These are the important documents.

[Aprilvawa 61]

1 hour ago, Stillwinning!!!😊 said:

Similar situation here as well..got the RFE for good faith marriage..I submitted the lease, our landlord wrote too to confirm, cable bills..affidavits from neighbors, friends and family...think carefully, search fervently, you'll be able to come up with a document or two that can help..alongside attestations from witnesses..yes! Gather those affidavits my dear. Out here, we stay winning! You'll make it!💛💙💜💚

Thank you for the suggestions! I really appreciate it. I will definitely get affidavits from family and I will write my own affidavit as well. I am glad things worked in your favour, it gives me hope 

Edited October 28, 2019 by Aprilvawa

[Stillwinning!!!😊 4,570]

1 minute ago, Aprilvawa said:

Thank you for the suggestions! I really appreciate it. I will definitely get affidavits from family and I will write my own affidavit as well. I am glad things worked in your favour, it gives me hope 

It's okay dear sis💙 it will work out for you as well!🙏 be thorough in the responses..it goes a long way.

[Aprilvawa 61]

49 minutes ago, FeDaniela said:

You must explain in detail why you wasn't able to be on the lease, Why the bank account was close check with the bank they may be able to provide you a letter when the account was open, the names on the account, date it was close... Explain exactly why you name was not on any utility... Affidavits from friends... Check your social media record photos of your weeding, receipt or travel documents.... Any cards like bjs, health insurance... Just explain all in very clear details. 

Thank you, I submitted photos this is what it says about them and the bank statements 

[Lola_lalo 211]

1 hour ago, Aprilvawa said:

I received the request for additional evidence and they’re asking for good faith of marriage. I had a joint account with my abuser but he overdraft the account shortly after we got married and the account was closed so they say they can’t accept that.  The lease was under his name because that’s the way he wanted it and I had no utility under my name because I wasn’t working at the time. When I suggested we file apply for life insurance he refused. We had no kids and we lived together for less than a year due to the abuse. I can get affidavits from a couple of my friends and also my own affidavit. Would that be enough?

 

Hello Dear, try to explain every detail as much as you could. I was married for 7 years, except for our kids and pictures I didn't share anything. But I explained everything because it is part of the abuse. As a human being I should have manage something but not even a bank account, I used cash or his card whenever he is around. So as long as you explain it and attest that it is part of the abuse they will understand. I got approved with out RFE regarding this. What I understand from you is he  wants to control everything regarding your finance. Write, read it and rewrite it until you put the picture of your life with your ex spouse for someone who has no idea about what was going on in your married life. God be with you! 

[Deserteagle 158]

14 minutes ago, Aprilvawa said:

Thank you for the suggestions! I really appreciate it. I will definitely get affidavits from family and I will write my own affidavit as well. I am glad things worked in your favour, it gives me hope 

 

you need to try your best and get cards, emails both of y’all exchanged or occupants who knew y’all lived together . Also, speak to the apartment office if they knew y’all lived together and they can write why you were not on the lease 

Edited October 28, 2019 by Deserteagle

[Deserteagle 158]

5 minutes ago, Aprilvawa said:

Thank you, I submitted photos this is what it says about them and the bank statements 

The file or picture you posted did not load up 

[Aprilvawa 61]

4 minutes ago, Lola_lalo said:

Hello Dear, try to explain every detail as much as you could. I was married for 7 years, except for our kids and pictures I didn't share anything. But I explained everything because it is part of the abuse. As a human being I should have manage something but not even a bank account, I used cash or his card whenever he is around. So as long as you explain it and attest that it is part of the abuse they will understand. I got approved with out RFE regarding this. What I understand from you is he  wants to control everything regarding your finance. Write, read it and rewrite it until you put the picture of your life with your ex spouse for someone who has no idea about what was going on in your married life. God be with you! 

Wow that’s great! I am so happy for you. You’re absolutely right about the control issue. That man was a nightmare and a complete control freak. Every thing was his way or the high way. Anytime I suggested anything he disagreed and he was good at hiding things from me. I will keep this in mind when I rewrite my affidavit. Thank you so much! 

[Aprilvawa 61]

4 minutes ago, Deserteagle said:

The file or picture you posted did not load up 

I’m sorry, I am using my phone and it keeps say the size is too big, I will try to upload it again and see what happens 

[Deserteagle 158]

1 minute ago, Aprilvawa said:

I’m sorry, I am using my phone and it keeps say the size is too big, I will try to upload it again and see what happens 

Okay dear. Don’t be stressed it’ll all come out very well for all of us . I had to edit my earlier post for I don’t want to make you more stressed than you already are . 

[Aprilvawa 61]

10 minutes ago, Deserteagle said:

Not to scare you but I know of someone who was recently denied that had no proof of bonafide marriage . She sent affidavits for the RFE and got a denial. She appealed though . 
 

you need to try your best and get cards, emails both of y’all exchanged or occupants who knew y’all lived together . Also, speak to the apartment office if they knew y’all lived together and they can write why you were not on the lease 

I don’t live in that state anymore and I haven’t since 2017. Last I heard he moved to a new state as well. Couple of my family visited us there so I will ask them to write an affidavit for me

[Deserteagle 158]

Just now, Aprilvawa said:

I don’t live in that state anymore and I haven’t since 2017. Last I heard he moved to a new state as well. Couple of my family visited us there so I will ask them to write an affidavit for me

Those family affidavits will do just fine too 

[Aprilvawa 61]

1 minute ago, Deserteagle said:

Those family affidavits will do just fine too 

Thank you! I will be submitting those

[dreamer1 320]

1 hour ago, Aprilvawa said:

I received the request for additional evidence and they’re asking for good faith of marriage. I had a joint account with my abuser but he overdraft the account shortly after we got married and the account was closed so they say they can’t accept that.  The lease was under his name because that’s the way he wanted it and I had no utility under my name because I wasn’t working at the time. When I suggested we file apply for life insurance he refused. We had no kids and we lived together for less than a year due to the abuse. I can get affidavits from a couple of my friends and also my own affidavit. Would that be enough?

 

Look for any photos of you two together, any gifts exchanged, if you can get the receipts of pictures of the gifts... write another affidavit explaining everything... like @Stillwinning!!!😊 and @FeDaniela said. I had the same RFE. 

[Lola_lalo 211]

2 minutes ago, Aprilvawa said:

I don’t live in that state anymore and I haven’t since 2017. Last I heard he moved to a new state as well. Couple of my family visited us there so I will ask them to write an affidavit for me

Affidavits from family member who knows and could write the good and bad is a must, I believe. Not only to tell about the shared residence. My mom, sister and best friend wrote me the affidavits. It was genuine and they wrote from the beginning to present what they know and observed. they wrote the good things they saw while i was in the courtship, marriage, building my family, abuse and my current status through their eyes. I'm sharing this to give you and the person who will write the affidavit an idea how to put what they know and observe.