No Contact Order vs. AOS/Lifting of Conditions

[Aussielad 37]

my advice is to seek a competent, qualified 'FAMILY' lawyer, who specailizes in that particular field, he might be able to get the decision reversed and have the 3 year ban taken off,

Get councilling, and i guess if they offer it where your husband is at, get him to receive it aswell, anything positive will help your case.

Your in my prayers.

[peezey 0]

The OP asked for advice, not opinions and I'm sure she didn't want anything else brought out. Please honour the OP's request.

Referring to information someone posted freely on VJ last week isn't "bringing anything else out." I happen to be helping those more familiar with the legal aspects of this sort of thing give her more informed choices about how to help and protect her abuser. That's what everyone wants to do for her in this thread, right?

Edited June 7, 2007 by peezey

[Tim and Bethanie 1]

Call an attorney. Best of luck!

[Together4ever 1]

Thank you for the information. As far as the other 2 individuals and their barking... my "denial" or acceptance of the situation and our history is unknown to you so your opinions don't mean squat to me. Again thank you for those who supplied information. I am now requesting this thread be closed.

[Boiler 45,510]

I went and looked, for others here is the full story, you can make your own minds up, something obviously Female, very few Male's would put up with that:

This is another type of visa tale. While most write their "happily ever after" stories and experiences here, I am writing another type of story. Consider it part of my healing. I am tired of hiding. I refuse to be a victim even though I still have some pretty weak moments where I go off and cry rivers of self pity.

Most of you know the story of our visa journey. I lived almost a year in Egypt with Mohammed. We were as happy as Egypt would allow us to be. Our relationship grew strong and tight. I was forced to leave Egypt and return to the USA to rebuild my life with nothing but the suitcase I was lugging behind me on the promise I would bring him here. He was in the same boat in Egypt. I worked through my heartbreak to begin building my life, finding a job, securing a job and a car and as much sanity as I could muster so I could get him here as soon as possible. I missed him terribly and we were both in pretty desperate situations.

A year and a half after I had to leave him crying in the airport, his visa was granted and he arrived in the USA. Three days later we were married. AOS was filed. We happily made our plans for the future. Unfortunately this is where my story takes a turn.

Mohammed started acting very strangely. He would crawl off alone and sulk. When I would finally get him to tell me what was wrong he would give me some fairytale scenario about my plans to dump him, or something else equally ridiculous and I would explain endlessly these things were his own manifestations and not true. These episodes got worse. I realized he was placing blame on me for his own fears and frustrations as he struggled to adjust. I talked myself blue. Some days he would relax and be himself. Most days his mood was foul and his temper horrible and I found myself becoming more and more nervous. That's when he started hitting me.

Five times I suffered through his bruisings, each time was worse then the time before. Each time I would find myself getting more and more angry as my bruises throbbed reminding me what I sacrificed for him and that it was not returned. Tuesday was the last straw. As I suffered his hammering fists he punched me in the chest as hard as he could, right exactly where my heart is. It knocked the breath out of me and as I got up off the floor I made a decision. I called the police.

They took him away in cuffs. My bruises were photographed by an uncaring female police officer and I was given a rather stern talking to by the paramedics and the first police officer that arrived. "He will do it again." Those are the words stuck in my darkest nightmares now.

He is in jail. I was assured he would be released the next day at the time of his arrest, my family all but forced me to file the restraining order to protect myself and still it was not my will to do it. The next morning I discovered he was placed on $3,000 bond. He did something stupid I'm sure. This is not "normal". I will face him in court in a week and I have no idea what to expect or even what to do. I am financially ruined. I have no way to bail him out.

All I know is I'm alone again. My body is covered in bruises and it still hurts to take a deep breath. My husband... my god I sent my husband to JAIL. The man I yearned for, longed for, cried for, fought for and waited for... is now in jail. I cannot find the proper words to explain even how that feels. Medication helps me live with myself. I don't know what to do now.

I really don't want advice. I've already heard it all. It all just makes an ugly smelly mud between my ears that keeps me awake at night. I would not wish this on anyone and my prayers are that all who are awaiting their reunions are blessed with happy and wonderful lives. Thank you for reading my words. As I said, this is my way of attempting to heal and bring sense to the chaos my life has become.

[ya falaha! 0]

I'm a female who certainly wouldn't put up with it. Of course I have a little thing called self respect.

Edited June 7, 2007 by moody

[peezey 0]

Thank you for the information. As far as the other 2 individuals and their barking... my "denial" or acceptance of the situation and our history is unknown to you so your opinions don't mean squat to me. Again thank you for those who supplied information. I am now requesting this thread be closed.

Get help, lady, no one wants to see you dead or your children endangered. Shon poured her heart out to you explaining the life of an abused woman, what she went through, and all your disgusting comments against her are a total insult to everything she went through. You are a classic case of turning against people who really want to help. What's Moh done for you so far?

[Mags 112]

Topic closed per request of OP.

[Captain Ewok 1,891]

This topic has been closed per the request of the original poster. Thank you for your understanding.