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Do You Believe Unconditional Love Can Exist In A Marriage?

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  1. 1. Do You Believe Unconditional Love Can Exist In A Marriage?

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dalegg Experienced

dalegg   143

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No, I think once someone cheats it's over.

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Henia   11

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Even the God comes with conditions...so dont tell me you would still love your mate if the cheated on youafter arriving, after went throu all that INS BS... ye right...that is lie if i ever heard one!

Unconditionally = DOORMAT

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dalegg   143

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unconditional love is different from unconditional acceptance. You can divorce someone and still love them.

This is true- but once you divorce them then it's not marriage, right? So aha- unconditional love can exist- but not in a marriage.

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Fandango   1,439

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unconditional love is different from unconditional acceptance. You can divorce someone and still love them.

This is true- but once you divorce them then it's not marriage, right? So aha- unconditional love can exist- but not in a marriage.

True. but yer just splitting hairs now :P

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I think it CAN exist, but I don't know if it necessarily SHOULD... esp. if the love is unconditional only for one person in the couple. I think that could lead to an abusive situation where one half keeps cheating/hurting/beating/abandoning/etc their partner and their partner keeps forgiving them and taking them back and not standing up for themselves all in the name of unconditional love.

I love my husband A LOT but there are things I would NEVER tolerate, which would probably make me stop loving him, namely -- physical abuse and infidelity.

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Unconditional love is something you get from a dog. If that's what you're looking for, you need to get a puppy - not a spouse.

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At the same time, I think I couldn't respect somebody who loves me "unconditionally" as much as an independantly feeling and thinking person. So, unconditional love is what I am NOT looking for nor am willing to give.

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Conditions removed February 23, 2009

I am extraordinarily patient,

provided I get my own way in the end!

Margaret Thatcher

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Fandango   1,439

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D & I share an unconditional love. And it's wonderful. To know that you're loved despite your flaws and bad choices gives a feeling of intimacy far greater than I have ever felt before. It makes me look at him as family...not just 'my spouse'. Yes, to me there's a difference. I've been married before, and my feelings were very conditional & one day I just woke up and decided that I didn't want to be married to him anymore. So I walked. Yes, it was painful for my then-spouse and it was sad to see him hurting, but it didn't change my feelings & that was that. I've never once looked back, nor did I ever question my decision.

I could no sooner imagine ever leaving David for any reason than I could imagine cutting my legs off....I love him & accept him flaws and all. And he's a part of me. I don't expect him to be perfect. I don't expect him to never make a wrong choice, or to never fall. And when he does, I'll be there to catch him & vice versa.

I've done a lot of reflecting on this situation, actually, and I can categorically say especially from a religious standpoint...that when I say 'for better or worse til death do us part' before God, my family, and D himself...that I completely mean that without any disclaimers of any kind. I know this sounds horribly cheesy & trite...and that's so not my style...and it's not the 'honeymoon' phase that I'm in cos we've been together over 7 years. We've had hard times & have fought like two insane people. But that hasn't changed a thing between us. He's taught me what true commitment is....that you don't walk on your family. He amazes me & has made me a much better person for knowing him.

So yeah, I think unconditional love is great.

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I believe unconditional love really only exists between a parent and child, and sometimes not even then. I know my dad unconditionally loved me - no matter what I did, he loved me so much. If I were Jeffrey Dahmer, he would have said, "Weellll, she was hungry." With a spouse, I just don't see that ever happening.

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