Previous Divorce Why: Question at Embassy interview?

[gantavya 0]

Hi all,

I am new to this forum and I have been lurking for few weeks. It's an amazing community. Thanks to all of you for the support. I have been divorced since 2 years. 9 months after my divorce I met my fiance. We met in-person after 1 year of chatting/talking online. I went to meet her. Do you see anything wrong with this timeline? One more question, I petitioned for my ex-wife as an Immediate family member of an Asylee and she came to US. However, after more than 7 years of married life, I filed for divorce. That was few months after I filed for my citizenship and she filed for her citizenship after few months. The reason: She cheated on me multiple times. However, in our divorce paper, it says "irreconcilable differences". So, when they ask my fiance about the reason of my divorce, can she just say differences as reason or it's better to give cheating from her side as reason, which is the undocumented truth. I don't want to jeopardize my ex's chance of petition, if she meets somebody living outside US. Thanks for the help.

[Boiler 46,034]

You have only met once?

[gantavya 0]

@Boiler Thanks for replying. Yes we met only once few weeks back. However, I will meet my fiance and her family during Christmas for 3 weeks and will accompany her during her interview too.

[Oliversmom 250]

I don't know if India is a difficult consulate or not.  My husband is from Morocco and they grilled him about a lot of things but they never asked any questions about my divorce.  But you never know, they may ask.  If they do ask just tell them the truth.  

[Boiler 46,034]

Have you already petitioned?

[gantavya 0]

@Oliversmom Thanks for the reply. From what I gather, Mumbai, India is considered as a difficult consulate. Can you share the types of questions they asked him? Also, I hope he got approved. If not, good luck to you both.

[gantavya 0]

1 minute ago, Boiler said:

Have you already petitioned?

@Boiler I am planning to petition after few weeks.

[Oliversmom 250]

Well he came on a spousal visa instead of a fiancé visa.  But the questions they asked 

2 minutes ago, gantavya said:

@Oliversmom Thanks for the reply. From what I gather, Mumbai, India is considered as a difficult consulate. Can you share the types of questions they asked him? Also, I hope he got approved. If not, good luck to you both.

Well he came on a spousal visa and not a fiancé visa.  But the questions they asked centered around "why an American lady and not a Moroccan lady".  And we chose not to have a wedding ceremony for our own reasons and the CO was REALLY hung up on that.  He really grilled my husband about this but in the end he was approved.  He was just able to answer confidently the reason why we didn't have a ceremony.  I think that is key in the interview - being confident in your answers. Best of luck to you.  You are now staring the waiting game so have patience.  

[gantavya 0]

38 minutes ago, Oliversmom said:

Well he came on a spousal visa instead of a fiancé visa.  But the questions they asked 

Well he came on a spousal visa and not a fiancé visa.  But the questions they asked centered around "why an American lady and not a Moroccan lady".  And we chose not to have a wedding ceremony for our own reasons and the CO was REALLY hung up on that.  He really grilled my husband about this but in the end he was approved.  He was just able to answer confidently the reason why we didn't have a ceremony.  I think that is key in the interview - being confident in your answers. Best of luck to you.  You are now staring the waiting game so have patience.  

@Oliversmom I am glad things turned out positively for you two. We didn't have engagement ceremony. My parents came from Nepal to talk with her extended family and they all gave their blessings. I got ring for her from Nepal after few weeks. Not sure, if I should submit the ring receipts. Although we are from different countries and cultures, there are so many similarities in our cultures. I hope this won't be a problem for us. Thanks for the tips. Really appreciated.

Edited September 7, 2019 by gantavya

[SalishSea 18,125]

3 hours ago, gantavya said:

Hi all,

I am new to this forum and I have been lurking for few weeks. It's an amazing community. Thanks to all of you for the support. I have been divorced since 2 years. 9 months after my divorce I met my fiance. We met in-person after 1 year of chatting/talking online. I went to meet her. Do you see anything wrong with this timeline? One more question, I petitioned for my ex-wife as an Immediate family member of an Asylee and she came to US. However, after more than 7 years of married life, I filed for divorce. That was few months after I filed for my citizenship and she filed for her citizenship after few months. The reason: She cheated on me multiple times. However, in our divorce paper, it says "irreconcilable differences". So, when they ask my fiance about the reason of my divorce, can she just say differences as reason or it's better to give cheating from her side as reason, which is the undocumented truth. I don't want to jeopardize my ex's chance of petition, if she meets somebody living outside US. Thanks for the help.

Honestly, I think you'll run into trouble at the consulate with such little time spent together....

[JFH 12,191]

She may or may not be asked about it at the interview. Personally, I don’t think she needs to give any further detail than what is listed on the divorce paperwork as those are recorded facts. Since she was not involved and was not present during the adultery, it’s purely hear-say on her part that it even happened. The embassy is a formal setting and discussing allegations of former spouses being unfaithful does not befit the situation. It’s trashy. Save that for Jerry Springer. The judge did not record adultery as the reason so officially it either didn’t happen or it doesn’t count. Otherwise the judge would have recorded it on the decree. 

 

Stick to facts. Not the gossip. It’s likely the version she had heard from you is somewhat embellished anyway, especially since you are the wronged party. 

Edited September 7, 2019 by JFH

[JFH 12,191]

7 hours ago, gantavya said:

I don't want to jeopardize my ex's chance of petition, if she meets somebody living outside US. Thanks for the help.

Why is that a concern of yours? 

[Nitas_man 3,100]

11 hours ago, gantavya said:

don't want to jeopardize my ex's chance of petition, if she meets somebody living outside US. Thanks for the help.

Interesting.

 

She cheated on you and your main concern is that your ex can petition someone outside the US

[Duke & Marie 1,389]

12 hours ago, gantavya said:

Hi all,

I am new to this forum and I have been lurking for few weeks. It's an amazing community. Thanks to all of you for the support. I have been divorced since 2 years. 9 months after my divorce I met my fiance. We met in-person after 1 year of chatting/talking online. I went to meet her. Do you see anything wrong with this timeline? One more question, I petitioned for my ex-wife as an Immediate family member of an Asylee and she came to US. However, after more than 7 years of married life, I filed for divorce. That was few months after I filed for my citizenship and she filed for her citizenship after few months. The reason: She cheated on me multiple times. However, in our divorce paper, it says "irreconcilable differences". So, when they ask my fiance about the reason of my divorce, can she just say differences as reason or it's better to give cheating from her side as reason, which is the undocumented truth. I don't want to jeopardize my ex's chance of petition, if she meets somebody living outside US. Thanks for the help.

 

1. After only one meeting you are already engaged and looking for k1 Visa? 

2. concern about your ex making petitions for others outside of USA?

 

I think if you tell anything other than the truth you will likely end up with problems, particularly with your language skills... whilst your intentions might be honest, it almost reads as chain migration given you initially got to the USA as an Ashlee, brought your wife there, divorced soon after citizenship and again wish to petition so does possibly your ex wife

[gantavya 0]

14 hours ago, Jorgedig said:

Honestly, I think you'll run into trouble at the consulate with such little time spent together....

I will visit her for few weeks after I file the I129F and will accompany her during the interview as well. I hope this would help to overcome that concern.