Marriage

[Kizzy2012 2]

5 minutes ago, JeanneAdil said:

I am not being hard on you

i am saying this is all wrong and wrong thinking and would be a big issue for a US CR1 visa

all we can do here is tell you why it is wrong

if my words hurt,  wait till you go for an interview at US embassy

 

You tell us uncle's business is not international and gf does not work,  so creating a document for her to come on business is not only wrong,  it is illegal 

 

If you don't want advice "like don't even think to do this"  or a $92 round trip plane ticket is cheaper than driving,  then i am sorry and i will stop trying to help as that is all i was doing

 

You should also try to be constructive when trying to give advise....you hurt my feelings with the words you said....i really felt bad..i would never knowingly indulge in bad practices. 

[Kizzy2012 2]

2 minutes ago, designguy said:

You have just as much power in this relationship... If you think you should wait then you should wait and if she doesn't respect that then do you really want to marry that person?

I think no matter what i say, y'all wouldnt believe we love each other truly and i try to also see things from her point of view which is because we are in different countries and she feels insecured....i have had relationships for years and we never went along so well,she has had past relationships for years ,same city,state and country and she never felt this way......

[gregcrs2 1,778]

4 minutes ago, Kizzy2012 said:

You should also try to be constructive when trying to give advise....you hurt my feelings with the words you said....i really felt bad..i would never knowingly indulge in bad practices. 

Except for trying to get a business visa for non-business purposes.  So are her children coming for the wedding?  You should know it's probably not going to help your case that you never met her children.

[designguy 1,179]

3 minutes ago, Kizzy2012 said:

I think no matter what i say, y'all wouldnt believe we love each other truly and i try to also see things from her point of view which is because we are in different countries and she feels insecured....i have had relationships for years and we never went along so well,she has had past relationships for years ,same city,state and country and she never felt this way......

What people are saying here is you should validate your feelings by meeting in person before saying you are going to get married 

[JeanneAdil 6,559]

7 minutes ago, Kizzy2012 said:

You should also try to be constructive when trying to give advise....you hurt my feelings with the words you said....i really felt bad..i would never knowingly indulge in bad practices. 

My comments were what we call Constructive criticism   

It is the process of offering valid and well-reasoned opinions about the work of others, usually involving both positive and negative comments.  

 

Take it or leave it

but your feelings do not matter to immigration as we have all experienced in our own visa journey so get over it if you want a CR1 visa

 

and you need to heed what is said here if u really want help

and everyone here is saying the same things

[JeanneAdil 6,559]

9 minutes ago, Kizzy2012 said:

I think no matter what i say, y'all wouldnt believe we love each other truly and i try to also see things from her point of view which is because we are in different countries and she feels insecured....i have had relationships for years and we never went along so well,she has had past relationships for years ,same city,state and country and she never felt this way......

Pardon me but everyone here is married or in love to someone in another country and I personally went thru a 6 year immigration process so we know about love and lasting relationships and the heartache and issues

just accept help when you see or hear it 

as there are some real knowledgeable people here

 

Now i really give up

Edited August 28, 2019 by JeanneAdil

[Kizzy2012 2]

4 minutes ago, JeanneAdil said:

Pardon me but everyone here is married or in love to someone in another country and I personally went thru a 6 year immigration process so we know about love and lasting relationships and the heartache and issues

just accept help when you see or hear it 

as there are some real knowledgeable people here

 

Now i really give up

I never said i wont listen or i wont take to the various advice,i have liked comments and thanked members that contributed....why do you make i seem like I'm not listening? 

THANK Y'ALL FOR THE ADVICE

I REALLY APPRECIATE 

SHE WOULD GO FOR A TOURIST OR VISITING VISA.

I WOULD TRY TO CONVINCE HER ABOUT THE WEDDING! 

[JeanneAdil 6,559]

18 minutes ago, Kizzy2012 said:

I never said i wont listen or i wont take to the various advice,i have liked comments and thanked members that contributed....why do you make i seem like I'm not listening? 

THANK Y'ALL FOR THE ADVICE

I REALLY APPRECIATE 

SHE WOULD GO FOR A TOURIST OR VISITING VISA.

I WOULD TRY TO CONVINCE HER ABOUT THE WEDDING! 

now my feelings are hurt

i tried to help in so many ways 

and you yell at me

but i will get over it 

[Crazy Cat 41,981]

22 minutes ago, Kizzy2012 said:

I WOULD TRY TO CONVINCE HER ABOUT THE WEDDING! 

Ask her to open an account here on Visa Journey......We will be happy to explain why marrying on the first visit is a bad idea.......Is she willing to relocate to Nigeria if needed?

[Kizzy2012 2]

3 minutes ago, missileman said:

Ask her to open an account here on Visa Journey......We will be happy to explain why marrying on the first visit is a bad idea.......Is she willing to relocate to Nigeria if needed?

I would have her sign up....she wont. 

Thanks. 

[JeanneAdil 6,559]

1 hour ago, Temi & Obim said:

1. Get her a tourist visa, flight from Miami to Atlanta is around $250 for round trip if you buy her ticket ahead of time. So check for flight price range and make appointment for during the time flight is cheaper since 11 hours by road is hard for you guys.

2. Don't go the route of business visa to Nigeria and she will definitely  be harassed at the point of entry in Lagos which you know because Nigeria Immigration don't even like issuing visa at entry but I might wrong.

3. Don't get married on the first visit, at least use this trip for her to get to know your family and all.  

4. If the visa is the issue, I believe there are countries you both can meet that visa is not required and only stamp at the entry. 

 

Don't start your immigration journey on the wrong foot because no one is exactly sure of questions that US and Nigeria Immigration will ask in the future. 

actually frontier airlines has one for $92 roundtirp

[Crazy Cat 41,981]

18 minutes ago, Kizzy2012 said:

I would have her sign up....she wont.

That's odd........this is the best source of accurate visa information........

[Temi & Obim 24]

4 minutes ago, JeanneAdil said:

actually frontier airlines has one for $92 roundtirp

Oh waoo, then flight is way better than road then. 

Edited August 28, 2019 by Temi & Obim

[fip & jim 452]

May I suggest that the two of you meet up in a place where it isn't so difficult to get a tourist visa, have a holiday, get to know each other better. You visit America (since you're the one that is planning on moving here), see if you would actually want to live here. Then decide who is going to live where and which visa to apply for.

 

This situation looks terrible from an immigration point of view and on a personal level. Why is she so desperate to get married? It isn't the cultural norm in America to marry someone you've never even met before. 

 

Often people come on here wanting easy answers and get annoyed when they're told the reality of immigration. We had multiple visits and months spent together before we decided which route to take and, in hindsight, I'd choose differently if I could. It has been very stressful for me.

 

Combining as a step-family is hard work. You haven't met each other yet, never mind meeting her children. What if you dislike them? What if they dislike you? What if you dislike America? Can you see how ridiculous your "plan" looks in the cold light of day? 

 

You're conversing with people that have knowledge of the complexities and hardships of immigration. You're not even at the beginning of the journey. I've been here a year and I know that I have a couple of more years before I feel in any way that I have successfully emigrated and assimilated in to American society. 

 

[Kizzy2012 2]

5 minutes ago, JeanneAdil said:

actually frontier airlines has one for $92 roundtirp

Now you're talking....this is all i need 

THANK YOU!!!