PLEASE Help! New in USA in abusive relationship

[Nitas_man 3,100]

4 minutes ago, visawonderer said:

This link says "There are two possible times when you may be screen for marriage (1) at the K-1 visa interview and (2) at the US border entry."

 

I wasn't married during the interview and Iwasn't registered there until after my entry, because it takes time but I have to check the dates.dates.

 

In all cases, is this something I should worry about now? How does it come up?

You were already  married when you entered

You it was certainly registered by the time you fraudulently obtained a marriage license from your state. 

 

Edited August 27, 2019 by Nitas_man

[SalishSea 17,847]

2 minutes ago, visawonderer said:

This link says "There are two possible times when you may be screen for marriage (1) at the K-1 visa interview and (2) at the US border entry."

 

I wasn't married during the interview and Iwasn't registered there until after my entry, because it takes time but I have to check the dates.dates.

 

Whatever that link is, it is irrelevant.  

 

You married in your country, therefore you were ineligible for the K-1 visa.  It does not matter that they didn't "catch" it at the border when you entered.

 

It doesn't matter if your marriage was not "registered" until after your entry to the US.

[SeanK 4]

8 minutes ago, visawonderer said:

This link says "There are two possible times when you may be screen for marriage (1) at the K-1 visa interview and (2) at the US border entry."

 

I wasn't married during the interview and Iwasn't registered there until after my entry, because it takes time but I have to check the dates.dates.

 

In all cases, is this something I should worry about now? How does it come up?

Even if it doesn’t come up, which it will, you must be honest in all the information you give when filing for AOS or any immigration benefit, and the fact is you were married and legally registered as married before you entered the US on your k-1 visa. Omitting information about your marriage in your home country to avoid that scrutiny to gain immigration benefits is material misrepresentation. 

Edited August 27, 2019 by SeanK

[Nitas_man 3,100]

At any rate your ONLY path forward is for your husband to file an I-130/I-485 based on your original marriage or for you to return home.  

 

Your US marriage is invalid because you were not eligible to marry in the US.

 

You cannot adjust on your own from

K1 because your marriage overseas invalidated your K1 eligibility.

 

 

 

Edited August 27, 2019 by Nitas_man

[Nitas_man 3,100]

12 minutes ago, visawonderer said:

 

Ok so I'm screwed... He doesn't know this, it's not why he won't file. It's to keep me trapped. 

 

I probably need to consult a lawyer, having learned all this now..

Well at least now you understand the purpose of the questions

[Cathi 5,757]

4 minutes ago, Nitas_man said:

At any rate your ONLY path forward is for your husband to file an I-130/I-485 based on your original marriage or for you to return home.  

 

Your US marriage is invalid because you were not eligible to marry in the US.

 

If he wasn't willing to send in her AOS(even though she isn't eligible), I'm pretty sure he won't be willing to go this route. Just a feeling...

Edited August 27, 2019 by Cathi

[Nitas_man 3,100]

Just now, Cathi said:

If he wasn't to send in her AOS(even though she isn't eligible), I'm pretty sure he won't be willing to go this route. Just a feeling...

Yeah me too

 

What a mess.  This one needs a professional but it looks pretty bad.

Edited August 27, 2019 by Nitas_man

[visawonderer 10]

I have to first find a DV counselor to hopefully clear my mind to take actions. This year has been a nightmare and now I learn this... 

 

Thank you for your input.

[Cathi 5,757]

Just now, Nitas_man said:

Yeah me too

 

What a mess

Big time.

[Cathi 5,757]

1 minute ago, visawonderer said:

I have to first find a DV counselor to hopefully clear my mind to take actions. This year has been a nightmare and now I learn this... 

 

Thank you for your input.

Come back and update us with whatever decision you make. I'd be interested to hear the outcome. 

[Nitas_man 3,100]

Just now, visawonderer said:

I have to first find a DV counselor to hopefully clear my mind to take actions. This year has been a nightmare and now I learn this... 

 

Thank you for your input.

You’re in a bad spot and need to get out

[visawonderer 10]

2 minutes ago, Cathi said:

If he wasn't willing to send in her AOS(even though she isn't eligible), I'm pretty sure he won't be willing to go this route. Just a feeling...

Yeah me too... That's why I'm trapped.. why bring someone here and force an illegal status on them. I'm going to try again with him, can't do much more other than go back home.

[100sundrops@gmail 4]

Girl, he is so not worth it.. Pack your bags and go back home to people who know you and love you. Run, beforw you have a child with him and are trapped in a situation you can never get out.. 

 

[visawonderer 10]

3 minutes ago, Cathi said:

Come back and update us with whatever decision you make. I'd be interested to hear the outcome. 

Will do. I can't decide quickly. So many factors at play. Each route is difficult. I need the SAFEST route for everything is messed up.

 

I am NOT holding on to stay here. If anything, my experience here has been horrible. I want to forget the people and places and start over somewhere else.

 

I just really hate to face all the old chatty women and be stigmatized for nothing. That path is SO hard for anyone knowledgeable in eastern cultures. 

[Cathi 5,757]

1 minute ago, visawonderer said:

Yeah me too... That's why I'm trapped.. why bring someone here and force an illegal status on them. I'm going to try again with him, can't do much more other than go back home.

I know it's none of my business but are you sure you want to try with a man who obviously doesn't care about your well being? That isn't any way to live. I understand your culture as my husband is from a similar culture, it isn't common, but people do get divorced. Your family wouldn't want you to be trapped in a miserable, potentially abusive marriage for the rest of your life just to save face, would they?

Either way, I wish you the best and come back to let us know what you decide.