So drained, mostly just need to vent

[DGF 730]

I know, this process requires an endless amount of patience and then some. I have been patient. For 328 days I have been patient, and I will be patient for as many more days as it takes, but sometimes there are days that patience doesn't come easy and today is one of those. I don't know what I'm looking for here, maybe to vent, maybe for support, maybe nothing. Sorry if this is in the wrong place! 

At first we were excited to get Texas, it was a fast service centre! But then things slowed down. And our VJ estimate went from March, to April, to May, to June. Then August filers started getting approved and we were hopeful that it would be our turn soon. At long last September filers (us) started getting approved and we started checking the mail and our online case status every day, but we got nothing. "Oh well, we must be on a slow desk." Then October filers started being approved, and November, and December, and January, and still, we had nothing. Our VJ case estimate went back to late April/early May, but it didn't matter because we were already months past that. We put in a case inquiry and it didn't tell us anything useful. One day my husband called USCIS determined to get a tier 2 rep, and thankfully, after being told they'd gone home for the day and to call back tomorrow, he was able to speak to one. They tried to brush him off but he was persistent and that was when the rep found the problem. Our internal case status was "in background checks" but when the rep looked into it further, they found that the results of our background check had actually come back 4 months prior. The rep escalated our previous case inquiry and the next day we got a response saying that our case was with an officer.

At first I was ecstatic, we weren't stuck in background checks! But I knew that that relief was temporary and eventually I would get angry at USCIS for delaying us unnecessarily for 4 months. Yesterday that anger finally hit. Based on when our background checks were completed, we would have been one of the earlier September approvals if this hadn't happened. Instead we're back where we were supposed to be 4 months ago, checking every day, time crawling to a halt again. It was mentally tiring the first time around, but boy oh boy is it exhausting the second time around. I know we will likely hear something in a matter of days (it's been just over a week since the second response to our inquiry) but I can't bring myself to trust that it's just a matter of waiting and being patient and that they won't screw it up again. Now I'm reading about cases where Texas is messing up sending approved cases to the NVC and I can't help but wonder how many more months is our case going sit collecting dust because of procedural mistakes. I'm just so fed up and I very much can't wait for this part of the journey to be over. It's like being strapped into an amusement park ride that you hate and not being able to even close your eyes until it's over. 

 

I don't know how to end this so just imagine someone letting out an incredibly frustrated sigh. 

[Richard Purves 58]

I hear ya. The patience required for this process is huge. I've been on this journey since April 2017, longer if you consider all the time needed to assemble documentation, shop for lawyers etc. Just hang in there mate. Hell, I'm not the most patient person for sure but if I can go through application, three RFE's, delay at NVC, 221(g) at the consulate, three months for file to get back to TSC, 250 something days to get a NOIR and 154 days for a reaffirm then I'm sure as hell anyone can do this.

 

I hear stories of people from higher fraud countries going round the NOIR - Reaffirm process three times ... An extreme case, but an outlier. Just hang in there!

[Ontarkie 14,218]

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[DGF 730]

1 hour ago, Richard Purves said:

I hear ya. The patience required for this process is huge. I've been on this journey since April 2017, longer if you consider all the time needed to assemble documentation, shop for lawyers etc. Just hang in there mate. Hell, I'm not the most patient person for sure but if I can go through application, three RFE's, delay at NVC, 221(g) at the consulate, three months for file to get back to TSC, 250 something days to get a NOIR and 154 days for a reaffirm then I'm sure as hell anyone can do this.

 

I hear stories of people from higher fraud countries going round the NOIR - Reaffirm process three times ... An extreme case, but an outlier. Just hang in there!

Thankfully I don't doubt my ability to go through the process (or my husband's), so that's one less thing weighing on me. I'm sorry you've had to go through all of that and I hope that you are very close to finally getting your visa! Immigration is a rough process for everyone and sometimes it's just nice to hear someone say "I hear ya" so thank you  

[Richard Purves 58]

You're very welcome!

[HKS 169]

You have way more patience than I do at this point. I see Texas is worse than Nebraska. 

At least your beneficiary is from Canada. That is like USA's cool cousin. (just a joke) and perhaps your NVC goes smoothly as such... Hopefully. 

 

Just venting, totally not deminishing your situation...... 

I'm camped out in the middle East where daily I worry about war breaking out. Just a few days ago there was an attack about a mile from where I am. The news does not reflect reality. 

My husband has to travel through a dangerous region weekly. It's very scary for me at the thought of something happening to him again. (yes, something very bad that I cannot disclose here did happen) 

What really upsets me is that many ppl here helped the USA during the war. The USA promised them many things to help them only to abandon their promises when they left. He has lots of documentation that hopefully will help the "he isn't a terrorist" process. 

Hell, at this point I suppose I have to prove I'm not a terrorist either from the things I've seen in the USA News lately. 

Sigh.... God give me patience. 

Good luck everyone.