Went with my husband to a strip club last night

[IAMX 3,055]

At least we're bumping old threads that are semi-decent, rather than political.

It really depends on both people. If they both want to go, what's the problem?

Strip clubs aren't really something we're interested in (I'd rather see her strip, and both of us would rather watch a porn together in terms of seeing things), but those women who are really that insecure about their man simply looking at another woman likely have some work to do on themselves. It's pretty manipulative and controlling to whine about what your man is looking at.

Edited September 24, 2008 by SRVT

[LoriLawless 1]

Well since this thread is still going...

My ex and I went all the time. So much in fact that he never wanted to do anything else.

Hense the ex factor.

[Chica Yeyé 41]

Well since this thread is still going...

My ex and I went all the time. So much in fact that he never wanted to do anything else.

Hense the ex factor.

[Sprailenes 47]

I tried to take my husband to a strip club once and he got in there and said the atmosphere depressed him. His friends have tried to take him and he has told them the same.

I love going to see female strippers because personally I find it hilarious. But he doesn't. So sometimes I'll go with his friends.

[Heracles 417]

It was my husbands friends idea

I have to use this one myself. "Friend's idea"

[justashooter 430]

so butterfly,

betting you got a good roggering that night, too. no need for the full bob fer days, then.

[~Laura and Nick~ 5]

No thanks

[almaty 19]

i have had as many as 5 strippers as clients..and for a long time 2....they certainly put a new definition on the "empty chair' therapeutic technique

[Chica Yeyé 41]

i have had as many as 5 strippers as clients..and for a long time 2....they certainly put a new definition on the "empty chair' therapeutic technique

please explain....

[almaty 19]

Gestalt therapy is a complex psychological system that stresses the development of client self-awareness and personal responsibility

Empty chair technique

When you go see a Gestalt therapist, the office will usually have an extra chair--an empty chair. This chair serves an important function. The "Empty Chair" technique is one of the various ways in which Gestalt Therapy can be applied which is developed and popularized by Frederick "Fritz" Pearls.

Rationale - When the client expresses a conflict with another person, through this technique, the client is directed to talk to that another person who is imagined to be sitting in an empty chair beside or across the client. This helps the client to experience and understand the feeling more fully. Thus, it stimulates your thinking, highlighting your emotions and attitudes. For example, the therapist may say, "Imagine your father in this chair (about 3 feet away), see him vividly, and, now, talk to him about how you felt when he was unfaithful to your mother." There are innumerable other people, objects (your car or wedding ring), parts of your personality (critical parent, natural child, introversion, obsession with work), any of your emotions, symptoms (headaches, fatigue), any aspect of a dream, a stereotype (blacks, macho males, independent women), and so on that you can imagine in the empty chair. The key is a long, detailed, emotional interaction--a conversation. You should shift back and forth between chairs as you also speak for the person-trait-object in the other chair. This "conversation" clarifies your feelings and reactions to the other person and may increase your understanding of the other person.

Outcome

Cognitive change – Through this process, client will come to an understanding about how the imaginery person will be thinking about the same issues. He also learns that whether he was projecting any thoughts on the other person.

Behavioral change – client will come out with new behaviors in the supportive environment of the therapy and then they expand their awareness. More than passively accepting the environment, he will start taking stand on a critical issue and making choices that will result in getting what he wants.

Affective change – the client feels capable of dealing with surprises he encounters in everyday

[Chica Yeyé 41]

Hmmm... I thought it was going to be raunchy

[Nessa 23]

yay!!

[almaty 19]

Hmmm... I thought it was going to be raunchy

it is sister len..the way they do the empty chair technique

[Chica Yeyé 41]

Hmmm... I thought it was going to be raunchy

it is sister len..the way they do the empty chair technique