Will my ex-wife be working illegally following our marriage petition withdrawal? (merged)

[Nitas_man 3,100]

On 7/31/2019 at 8:29 PM, Villanelle said:

Please take what Goingthrough posted seriously. If remaining in the US is her priority and she already demonstrated she is willing to bend things in life to get the immigration benefits she desires - there is no reason to believe she will not discover VAWA allows her to get status with out your help and set you up for a false DV claim in order to qualify. Stay away from her! Only meet in public places or when others are present as witnesses. Do not allow her to set you up for a false claim of abuse. Being arrested for that can ruin your life. 

This.  You may return to your residence with police in attendance and get whatever you want.  If you are on the lease you can enter anytime.  If you are on the lease and she is not you can dump her life out the window and move on with your own new locks.  Either way, from this moment never be in her presence without a witness.  Or a police officer.  Tell them you feel threatened (sounds like you do).  What a ——c.  Good luck to you.

[OllieJ 12]

Here's an update if anyone is interested.

 

The divorce was finalized yesterday. I spoke with her a couple weeks ago about what she plans to do with her immigration status to make sure there's no fraudulent VAWA case that can affect me. Although her I-485 and EAD were denied on July 24th after I withdrew the I-130, she told me that she had already received a new EAD card. Her lawyers got it expedited and she's applying for an EB2 visa. She didn't give me specifics, but said it doesn't have premium processing. So that essentially leaves it to an EB2-NIW. I asked her if she is applying for a visa that implicates me in anyway and she assured me that she wasn't. So as far as I know, she isn't filing a fraudulent VAWA case (although she has lied to me repeatedly for the past year). She also told me that her and her father are likely planning to do an EB5 investor visa as well.

 

A couple things that surprised me here is that she's applying for a visa (EB2-NIW), which has very high requirements, like national importance, exceptional ability, published research, usually a PhD, etc. She is a recent masters graduate student working in her first full time position as an analyst at a bank. Seems like more of a means to just have a pending I-485 so she doesn't accrue anymore unlawful presence and reach the 180 bar of inadmissibility and get a 3 year ban and can have a temporary EAD. A pending I-485 for an EB2-NIW can buy her up to 8 months of time until the application is processed, so she has quite some time to figure out what to do, if its with an EB5 or otherwise.

 

She also received the expedited EAD literally within two weeks. I've never heard of someone getting an EAD that quickly. I looked this up and the only reason she could use would be due to severe financial loss of losing her job, essentially saying that she would not be able to survive without working and therefore needs the EAD. She has a bank account with several hundred thousands of dollars in it, which will likely be used toward the EB5 investor visa. Seems untruthful?

 

Thankfully her immigration issues are no longer my problem, however, I found her method to stay here unusual so I wanted to share with you all.

 

 

[designguy 1,179]

12 minutes ago, OllieJ said:

She has a bank account with several hundred thousands of dollars in it, which will likely be used toward the EB5 investor visa. Seems untruthful?

Several hundred thousand is probably not going to be enough. After Nov 21, 2019 the minimum investment even in a Targeted Employment Area will go up to $900,000 and $1.3million for non-TAE.

 

Also a recent master's working as a bank analyst is probably not going to cut it for NIW. Seems like she is just buying time but doesn't have a solid path to stay.

[OllieJ 12]

38 minutes ago, designguy said:

Several hundred thousand is probably not going to be enough. After Nov 21, 2019 the minimum investment even in a Targeted Employment Area will go up to $900,000 and $1.3million for non-TAE.

 

Also a recent master's working as a bank analyst is probably not going to cut it for NIW. Seems like she is just buying time but doesn't have a solid path to stay.

True. Unless she manages to invest before Nov 21 while it's still only $500,000, however, it seems unlikely to be able to do the EB5 process within two or three months. Definitely just seems like she is trying to buy time through bending some truths like how she managed to get the expedited EAD. She even mentioned to me about saying on her EB2 application that she plans on doing a PhD (likely to strengthen the application). She has no plans to do a PhD. She just wants the visa to continue working at her job and remain the US. Hopefully USCIS will do their due diligence with the application and see her true intentions.

 

 

[designguy 1,179]

4 minutes ago, OllieJ said:

She even mentioned to me about saying on her EB2 application that she plans on doing a PhD (likely to strengthen the application). She has no plans to do a PhD. She just wants the visa to continue working at her job and remain the US. Hopefully USCIS will do their due diligence with the application and see her true intentions.

 

EB petitions are adjudicated on an applicants past experience and qualifications not what they may do in the future so it would be pretty pointless to add that to the application. She seems pretty desperate and should better understand what the requirements are and not get herself into a twisted messy situation. Good thing its no longer your problem!

[OllieJ 12]

Hi everyone, 

 

I wanted your opinion on something I’m dealing with. 

 

Context: 

My ex-wife and I married last August, 2018. She is not a USC but I am. Back then, we had just graduated college and we had both been together for 4 years and living together for 3. We “eloped” and married. Only our very immediate family knew about the marriage. I was madly in love with her and looking back, may have been manipulated. We started our grad programs and I then proposed to her in March, 2019, as I always wanted a traditional proposal and timeline of marriage, etc. Around that time she began to gaslight me and emotionally abuse me. I had no idea why this was happening. It became extremely bad and I left to visit my family for a few weeks to take a break from it and recover before starting a new job. The moment I returned home she told me to not come back and that she wanted a divorce and that she doesn’t need the green card anymore because she has a job at this prestigious bank and so forth. She ended our marriage and 5 year relationship over the phone - I was devastated. I returned home unexpectedly and discovered she changed the locks to our home. I eventually got into the apartment and discovered she was cheating on me. This unraveled all her lies. She had been cheating on me with multiple men since about a month after we married throughout our entire first year of marriage (although I believe it likely began before). I had to move in with family, I lost my job, lost my home, and of course, lost my wife and the woman I was deeply in love with for five years. I was left pretty much penniless and had the rug pulled out from under me with no remorse. The one thing I will never forgive that she took from me is my trust.  

 

I filed for divorce and withdrew the immigration documents. Her work authorization (EAD) was voided, however, she told me on the phone a couple weeks ago that the lawyers at her company (very large bank) had managed to get her an expedited EAD within two weeks through a pending I-485 linked to an EB2-NIW application. 

 

She’s a recent college grad with no exceptional abilities working as an entry level analyst. The EB2-NIW is completely frivolous in my opinion. It’s a means for her to buy time in order to avoid accruing unlawful presence and to have an EAD. 

 

I looked at the reasons for an expedited EAD and the only reason that can apply to her would be extreme financial hardship. She has a bank account with several hundred thousand dollars in it. She plans to use that possibly for an EB5 investor visa with some more money transferred from her home country soon. I assume she purposely did not include this bank account when she applied for the expedited EAD as this would prove she is not financially constrained to her job and doesn’t have financial hardship if she loses her job. 

 

She has repeatedly tortured me throughout this entire process and has psychologically traumatized me beyond belief. I am quite honestly done with her manipulation, lies, and hurt. 

 

Question: 

I want to know if it is worth reporting to USCIS that her expedited EAD application was not truthful. Is it worth also reporting that her EB2-NIW is likely frivolous? She had 180 days to leave the country before a 3 year ban, however, she has found a loophole through this pending application and expedited EAD. If USCIS found her expedited EAD application to be misrepresented she would likely be banned from the US for life. 

 

What would you all do this in situation? I ideally do not wan to open myself up to any legal repercussions or retribution, however, I am tired of her lies and manipulation. Our marriage and proposal isn’t necessary traditional but I absolutely married her out of love. I’ve had quite a bit of anxiety from this entire experience and have worried that she would try to report me for either a fraudulent VAWA case or would try to implicate me in some marriage fraud case because I wanted a traditional proposal after we got married. The application is already withdrawn so maybe I am overthinking this as I don’t believe USCIS would come after me with an already withdrawn application before an interview. 

 

I ideally want to see some justice and I honestly do not think she should be in the US with her manipulative and psychologically abusive behavior, but I am still apprehensive as she has used me with no remorse and lied to me repeatedly - I don’t know what she is capable of. 

 

Should I report her misrepresented expedited EAD application, which would likely result in a lifetime ban from the US, or should I let this go? 

 

TL:DR: Wife cheated on me with multiple men and likely used me. Her green card application was denied after I withdrew the I-130, she has since gotten an expedited EAD within two weeks through questionable means. Should I report her? 

 

Thanks

[Dashinka 24,707]

Personally I would give it a rest.  It was a bad situation, but luckily you are now free.  Let her deal with her tenuous immigration plan on her own.  That being said, if you do have concrete evidence of fraud you can certainly report it.  Just go to the bottom of the VJ page in the fine print and you will find the information for do that.

 

Good Luck!

[sexyafrican36 42]

4 hours ago, OllieJ said:

Hi everyone, 

 

I wanted your opinion on something I’m dealing with. 

 

Context: 

My ex-wife and I married last August, 2018. She is not a USC but I am. Back then, we had just graduated college and we had both been together for 4 years and living together for 3. We “eloped” and married. Only our very immediate family knew about the marriage. I was madly in love with her and looking back, may have been manipulated. We started our grad programs and I then proposed to her in March, 2019, as I always wanted a traditional proposal and timeline of marriage, etc. Around that time she began to gaslight me and emotionally abuse me. I had no idea why this was happening. It became extremely bad and I left to visit my family for a few weeks to take a break from it and recover before starting a new job. The moment I returned home she told me to not come back and that she wanted a divorce and that she doesn’t need the green card anymore because she has a job at this prestigious bank and so forth. She ended our marriage and 5 year relationship over the phone - I was devastated. I returned home unexpectedly and discovered she changed the locks to our home. I eventually got into the apartment and discovered she was cheating on me. This unraveled all her lies. She had been cheating on me with multiple men since about a month after we married throughout our entire first year of marriage (although I believe it likely began before). I had to move in with family, I lost my job, lost my home, and of course, lost my wife and the woman I was deeply in love with for five years. I was left pretty much penniless and had the rug pulled out from under me with no remorse. The one thing I will never forgive that she took from me is my trust.  

 

I filed for divorce and withdrew the immigration documents. Her work authorization (EAD) was voided, however, she told me on the phone a couple weeks ago that the lawyers at her company (very large bank) had managed to get her an expedited EAD within two weeks through a pending I-485 linked to an EB2-NIW application. 

 

She’s a recent college grad with no exceptional abilities working as an entry level analyst. The EB2-NIW is completely frivolous in my opinion. It’s a means for her to buy time in order to avoid accruing unlawful presence and to have an EAD. 

 

I looked at the reasons for an expedited EAD and the only reason that can apply to her would be extreme financial hardship. She has a bank account with several hundred thousand dollars in it. She plans to use that possibly for an EB5 investor visa with some more money transferred from her home country soon. I assume she purposely did not include this bank account when she applied for the expedited EAD as this would prove she is not financially constrained to her job and doesn’t have financial hardship if she loses her job. 

 

She has repeatedly tortured me throughout this entire process and has psychologically traumatized me beyond belief. I am quite honestly done with her manipulation, lies, and hurt. 

 

Question: 

I want to know if it is worth reporting to USCIS that her expedited EAD application was not truthful. Is it worth also reporting that her EB2-NIW is likely frivolous? She had 180 days to leave the country before a 3 year ban, however, she has found a loophole through this pending application and expedited EAD. If USCIS found her expedited EAD application to be misrepresented she would likely be banned from the US for life. 

 

What would you all do this in situation? I ideally do not wan to open myself up to any legal repercussions or retribution, however, I am tired of her lies and manipulation. Our marriage and proposal isn’t necessary traditional but I absolutely married her out of love. I’ve had quite a bit of anxiety from this entire experience and have worried that she would try to report me for either a fraudulent VAWA case or would try to implicate me in some marriage fraud case because I wanted a traditional proposal after we got married. The application is already withdrawn so maybe I am overthinking this as I don’t believe USCIS would come after me with an already withdrawn application before an interview. 

 

I ideally want to see some justice and I honestly do not think she should be in the US with her manipulative and psychologically abusive behavior, but I am still apprehensive as she has used me with no remorse and lied to me repeatedly - I don’t know what she is capable of. 

 

Should I report her misrepresented expedited EAD application, which would likely result in a lifetime ban from the US, or should I let this go? 

 

TL:DR: Wife cheated on me with multiple men and likely used me. Her green card application was denied after I withdrew the I-130, she has since gotten an expedited EAD within two weeks through questionable means. Should I report her? 

 

Thanks

Let it go, what goes around comes around. She can’t fight it for long and in the end even if she get citizenship, she can still loose it all if it’s found she lied on her paperwork so move on and hopefully you find someone else who makes you happy.

[Nat&Amy 623]

I am sorry that you find yourself in this situation but at this point you are better off rebuilding your life than trying to prove fraud. It's an uphill battle, and you are coming from a place of hurt - the harsh reality is that you don't seem to have any solid evidence about how her EAD was obtained. Not only that: remember that at some point in this journey you vouched for your wife before the USCIS. If the relationship deteriorated, the whens or whys, the morally questionable decisions... none of it actually matters to an Immigration Officer at this point.  It is time to let go. 

[Boiler 45,898]

I thought you said she was Chinese.

 

I have no idea what is going on, well I could make a guess, but pretty sure it is not what you have been told.

[Eugenia2017 28]

Life will make your ex - wife pay for what she did to you and without you have to move a finger she'll pay. You avoid negative feelings and seek your happiness. You'll find someone who really loves you!! 

[azblk 338]

11 hours ago, OllieJ said:

Hi everyone, 

 

I wanted your opinion on something I’m dealing with. 

 

Context: 

My ex-wife and I married last August, 2018. She is not a USC but I am. Back then, we had just graduated college and we had both been together for 4 years and living together for 3. We “eloped” and married. Only our very immediate family knew about the marriage. I was madly in love with her and looking back, may have been manipulated. We started our grad programs and I then proposed to her in March, 2019, as I always wanted a traditional proposal and timeline of marriage, etc. Around that time she began to gaslight me and emotionally abuse me. I had no idea why this was happening. It became extremely bad and I left to visit my family for a few weeks to take a break from it and recover before starting a new job. The moment I returned home she told me to not come back and that she wanted a divorce and that she doesn’t need the green card anymore because she has a job at this prestigious bank and so forth. She ended our marriage and 5 year relationship over the phone - I was devastated. I returned home unexpectedly and discovered she changed the locks to our home. I eventually got into the apartment and discovered she was cheating on me. This unraveled all her lies. She had been cheating on me with multiple men since about a month after we married throughout our entire first year of marriage (although I believe it likely began before). I had to move in with family, I lost my job, lost my home, and of course, lost my wife and the woman I was deeply in love with for five years. I was left pretty much penniless and had the rug pulled out from under me with no remorse. The one thing I will never forgive that she took from me is my trust.  

 

I filed for divorce and withdrew the immigration documents. Her work authorization (EAD) was voided, however, she told me on the phone a couple weeks ago that the lawyers at her company (very large bank) had managed to get her an expedited EAD within two weeks through a pending I-485 linked to an EB2-NIW application. 

 

She’s a recent college grad with no exceptional abilities working as an entry level analyst. The EB2-NIW is completely frivolous in my opinion. It’s a means for her to buy time in order to avoid accruing unlawful presence and to have an EAD. 

 

I looked at the reasons for an expedited EAD and the only reason that can apply to her would be extreme financial hardship. She has a bank account with several hundred thousand dollars in it. She plans to use that possibly for an EB5 investor visa with some more money transferred from her home country soon. I assume she purposely did not include this bank account when she applied for the expedited EAD as this would prove she is not financially constrained to her job and doesn’t have financial hardship if she loses her job. 

 

She has repeatedly tortured me throughout this entire process and has psychologically traumatized me beyond belief. I am quite honestly done with her manipulation, lies, and hurt. 

 

Question: 

I want to know if it is worth reporting to USCIS that her expedited EAD application was not truthful. Is it worth also reporting that her EB2-NIW is likely frivolous? She had 180 days to leave the country before a 3 year ban, however, she has found a loophole through this pending application and expedited EAD. If USCIS found her expedited EAD application to be misrepresented she would likely be banned from the US for life. 

 

What would you all do this in situation? I ideally do not wan to open myself up to any legal repercussions or retribution, however, I am tired of her lies and manipulation. Our marriage and proposal isn’t necessary traditional but I absolutely married her out of love. I’ve had quite a bit of anxiety from this entire experience and have worried that she would try to report me for either a fraudulent VAWA case or would try to implicate me in some marriage fraud case because I wanted a traditional proposal after we got married. The application is already withdrawn so maybe I am overthinking this as I don’t believe USCIS would come after me with an already withdrawn application before an interview. 

 

I ideally want to see some justice and I honestly do not think she should be in the US with her manipulative and psychologically abusive behavior, but I am still apprehensive as she has used me with no remorse and lied to me repeatedly - I don’t know what she is capable of. 

 

Should I report her misrepresented expedited EAD application, which would likely result in a lifetime ban from the US, or should I let this go? 

 

TL:DR: Wife cheated on me with multiple men and likely used me. Her green card application was denied after I withdrew the I-130, she has since gotten an expedited EAD within two weeks through questionable means. Should I report her? 

 

Thanks

Unfaithful spouse does not equal to immigration fraud. It is not up to you to decide which application is frivolous and which is not. Whether you report it or not it really wont make any difference in her immigration status. Her lawyers will simply say you are a jilted husband.

 

Live learn and move on.

 

 

 

[OllieJ 12]

56 minutes ago, Boiler said:

I thought you said she was Chinese.

 

I have no idea what is going on, well I could make a guess, but pretty sure it is not what you have been told.

 

No, she’s not Chinese. There’s another person that posted a story that’s similar to mine and his soon to be ex-wife was Chinese. You may be thinking of that one 

[OllieJ 12]

Thank you everyone for your advice. I spoke with some friends about this as well and the overwhelming consensus is to move on, let go, and let karma take its course. Her immigration situation will catch up to her eventually. 

 

It’s been difficult to let go from this since I still have a lot of negative emotions attached to the situation and her but letting go and moving on is really the best route to take 

 

Thanks again for all your input 

[Boiler 45,898]

Putting an application together for an EB2 NIW takes time, and EAD even is expedited is not that quick.

 

More likely she is working on her existing EAD.