I have temporary greencard but want to a divorce with my husband

[dbdbdb 0]

Hi we have been married a little over 2years now but since I waited  my temporary greencard almost 20month I need another two years to get 10years greencard. But I do want to finish this relationship as soon as possible...

I found that my husband (US citizen) cheated on my while we were in marriage processing, He begged me a chance I decided to forgive him, which I should not have.... long story short , I have been very sad, but I wanted to try our relationship work! I never brought that up, I tried to forgive him but there is another issue that HE doesn’t have a sex with me, sometimes for one month, sometime 5months without intimacy... 

we have been together total 4 years, every time when I bring this up he said he has reasons, such as mental health problem, skin disease etc...... 

I even asked him if there is any issue so we can’t have a sex for a while plz tell me what’s going on, but he never come to me and talk... nothing has been improved, 

I’m not happy in this relationship ... thinking about him cheating on my but not having intimacy with me is killing me.

Will I need to get out of the country right after a divorce?  

[Going through 5,671]

You can file the ROC with a divorce waiver and submit proof of a bonafide marriage (before the marriage broke down).

The ROC cannot be adjudicated, however, until the final divorce decree is submitted.

 

Edited July 3, 2019 by Going through

[USS_Voyager 1,972]

15 minutes ago, dbdbdb said:

Will I need to get out of the country right after a divorce? 

No, absolutely not. You file ROC to get your 10 year green card even after you divorce him. As long as you have proof that you entered the relationship in good faith, it will be fine. Marriages do fail, often fail, despite the best intentions. Have you tried marriage counseling? I would try that. Start collecting documented evidence of your relationship, your times together, your commingling of financials, assets, bank accounts, leases, ... also evidence of how the marriage started falling apart.

 

I’m sorry for what you’re facing. It’s rough.

[cute_pretzel 49]

I'm really sorry to hear your experiences. Intimacy is a core element of romantic relationship. It's definitely a reason strong enough to result in a divorce. However, have you two tried counseling? It could be either physical or mental issue on your husband's side, but need to be diagnosed by a physician/psychologist/social worker etc. It might be worth trying couple therapies with a social worker.

 

If you eventually decide to divorce and you wanted to proceed with 10-year card, prepare good evidence of bona fide marriage and file divorce waiver. There're lots of good suggestions here at VJ. Good luck!

Edited July 10, 2019 by cute_pretzel