Very serious situation

[payxibka 10,045]

2 minutes ago, Nyc2011 said:

Idk sir. I m just asking questions cuz I don t kno , n I m stuck on wat to do.

But I kno one thing that I need to divorce n move on with my son.

I m working now on this heat, n my wife is doin god knows wat?

Cheating ?drinking? Getting high?

I don t need that in my kid s life n my life.

Most states have no fault divorce laws

[Nyc2011 1]

Wat does no fault divorce mean?

[Boiler 45,559]

No blame, you want to get divorced it becomes mainly an issue of allocating finances.

[Nyc2011 1]

I don t want my boy to grow up n be a druggie addict or alcoholic like his mom.

She grew up around that life.   N that s wat she became,  she has never worked in her life. She has a big criminal record that even mc donalds won t hire her.

I ve taken so much,but I can t continue like this. I d rather take my boy n go back to my home country,  rather than living a miserable life here. 

[Nyc2011 1]

I m so tired, I m drained n idk wat to do 

[Boiler 45,559]

Being able to take the child out of State would be tricky, out of Country would be a big ask and something you need to discuss with your Divorce Lawyer.

[Russ&Caro 1,549]

26 minutes ago, Nyc2011 said:

I went to immigration attorneys a few times talkin to them.

But they charge so much,  200$ for an hour n I can t afford that.

You don't need an attorney. By the description of your case, the N400 naturalization application would be fairly straight forward. You can also file online and the website guides you through the process. You can upload any required documentation directly to the application. Good luck.

[laylalex 7,289]

44 minutes ago, Nyc2011 said:

Wat does no fault divorce mean?

It means that the court doesn't need to have a reason to grant a divorce. All that's needed is for one spouse to want to get a divorce, so nobody needs to be at fault. My ex tried to bring up what he called my "bad faith" throughout our marriage as a ground for our divorce, but here in California it's a no fault state. The judge didn't care, all they cared was that he wanted to get a divorce. As someone else here said, it's really just a matter of dividing up assets and debts at that point, along with any custody issues. 

 

This sounds so sad, really wishing the best for you and your son. ❤️ 

[wbeem 568]

58 minutes ago, Boiler said:

Never heard of that being a question. Why is it relevant?

Agreed. 

There are two ways for an LPR to apply for citizenship - the 3 year rule (marriage based) and the 5 year rule (not marriage based). 

As you have already seemingly satisfied the 5 year rule, the marriage is not relevant to a naturalization application. 

As for the divorce and domestic situation, you do what you need to do to protect your child and yourself. Most of us on here are experienced with going through one or more processes related to immigration. We can offer you support and reassurance, but we aren't really the people to give you family advice.  

I think the best thing you can do is to put you and your child first. Get the child out of the unhealthy environment so you can start a new life together. Better to live in a bit of poverty with love and stability than in a house filled with stress and strife. 

I'm so sorry you are in this situation, but there is life after divorce.  You have to have a little more faith in the strength you have  I would expect that by this stage you are mentally and emotionally exhausted. One day at a time. The sooner you start building your life again, the sooner you'll start feeling stronger. 

[Nyc2011 1]

@wbeem yes I m very exhausted to the point almost givin up.

N I kept forgiving her over the years so she can be around the kid.

He s the reason she s still here.

The boy is really close with her cuz she s home with him all day.

N I never wanted to break his lil heart , n kept givin her chances.

But she doesn't want a nrml life, n I can t do this no more.

She hangs out with homeless ppl n drugg addicts,  I don t want my son to grow up n think that s normal,  cuz it s not. Not judging anyone here, but I do not come from that life

Edited July 1, 2019 by Nyc2011

[Nyc2011 1]

@Daphne K I never said I ll hire my parents to babysit,  they r willing to stay n help me with babysitting for free,if we can get a permission for them to stay longer regarding the situation 

if I could afford to pay them, I d pay any babysitter, thnx for the reply tho.

[geowrian 22,337]

3 minutes ago, Nyc2011 said:

@Daphne K I never said I ll hire my parents to babysit,  they r willing to stay n help me with babysitting for free,if we can get a permission for them to stay longer regarding the situation

They still cannot babysit as a tourist. Whether you pay them or not is not the issue - work is prohibited and babysitting is work.

[Daphne . 1,873]

6 minutes ago, Nyc2011 said:

@Daphne K I never said I ll hire my parents to babysit,  they r willing to stay n help me with babysitting for free,if we can get a permission for them to stay longer regarding the situation 

if I could afford to pay them, I d pay any babysitter, thnx for the reply tho.

You asked in your first post if your parents could stay longer to look after your child. This is what I was referring to. And the answer was also given, it would be considered work (that a nanny or daycare facility etc.could/should do). So your parents would be ‘working’ on a tourist visa which would not be allowed..

Edited July 1, 2019 by Daphne K

[Nyc2011 1]

@Daphne K I apreaciate ur answer, thnx a lot but babysitting their grandson I don t think is considered work, 

 

[Russ&MaryAnn 110]

3 hours ago, Nyc2011 said:

she has never worked in her life

I feel for you, as I have also had some similar experiences. One question:

If she never worked how was it possible for her to petition you for K1? Didn’t she have to show income or proof of ability to support you before your AOS? Just curious