That Itch You Can't Rant About (The Rant Thread)

[TBoneTX 45,835]

We have out-figured that our partially-tolerable-back days occur when we have taken Heap Strong Medicine at previous bedtime, induce we man.

 

However, this is exactly what we were doing before getting shot, whoopee man, and it is not a sustainable practice, no man.

[Cyberfx1024 7,980]

So I after watching Yellowstone last night (Great show and everybody needs to watch it) I decided to act like a horse and let my 2 year old get on my back. We were going all around the house and she just had a blast..... That was until I stubbed my toe and had to stop. I stubbed it so hard that the nail came off. 

[fip & jim 452]

On 8/7/2019 at 11:37 AM, SAT said:

 

And, what's that new red coats name...jib, she must be vacationing her brains out in Canada...

Jib!? JIB!! It's Fip, if you don't mind. Yeah, I've been vacationing my brains out as you so charmingly put it. Back home now and back to some semblance of reality.

[fip & jim 452]

On 8/6/2019 at 6:13 PM, theresaL said:

Thanks. I'm just disappointed in her because I thought her to be much more responsible. I just don't understand how anyone can find themselves in this situation with all the available birth control these days. 

It happens.

 

I got pregnant 3 times while I was on the pill because I was super fertile. No birth control is 100% effective. In the end my old man had the snip. Job done. 

 

You're probably in shock. I'd play the role of non-committal step-mom. Early pregnancy is a roller coaster and what's needed is a steadying influence when emotions are high. Doesn't mean you have to approve or agree with decisions being made, just keep it to yourself or rant here. 

[fip & jim 452]

On 8/6/2019 at 6:27 PM, N-o-l-a said:

In any case, I had my first when I was 21.  I think Ontarkie and NLR were younger moms too.

 

23 is pushing the envelope in my part of the Midwest for the first baby. You are practically elderly by that point. 

There's a lot to be said for being a younger parent. You have so much more energy and recover better from sleep deprivation and running around after little ones. 

 

I had a miscarriage before I had my daughter at 26, then a couple more in between my son and daughter. I had my son at 32. The difference physically between having a newborn at 26 and at 32 was really noticeable. I was exhausted after having my son and I had an easy natural birth and recovered well. 

 

My career also took a hit from having my son. In your 20s you may not have established yourself yet so delaying that by having a baby isn't such a big deal. You have more energy for juggling it all. Having said that, I was much more patient in my 30s so my son benefited from that. Personally though it cost me a lot to my own well being and satisfaction by having a child in my 30s. 

 

 

[fip & jim 452]

On 8/6/2019 at 1:43 PM, cdneh said:

I'm not really that upset. She's been persistently vegetative for about 11 years, non verbal, just not present at all. Before that, she was on a locked ward at the home down to her incessant wandering. I feel more now that she is no longer trapped in any way.

I'm sorry for your loss. My mum was terminally ill for years before she passed away. I know how you feel. It was a relief for me when my mum finally died and was no longer suffering. They wouldn't let an animal suffer the way she did. 

[theresaL 408]

19 minutes ago, fip & jim said:

It happens.

 

I got pregnant 3 times while I was on the pill because I was super fertile. No birth control is 100% effective. In the end my old man had the snip. Job done. 

 

You're probably in shock. I'd play the role of non-committal step-mom. Early pregnancy is a roller coaster and what's needed is a steadying influence when emotions are high. Doesn't mean you have to approve or agree with decisions being made, just keep it to yourself or rant here. 

thanks for the advice, that's what I'm doing. I did say(tell) my stepdaughters they were responsible for finding a hairdresser  for me on the day of the wedding. Other than that, I don't have to do anything but find a dress and shoes stateside, which won't be easy. I've decided not to stress-out about it since I can't do anything anyway. We are going to take advantage of our time in Paris and do some material shopping for the remodeling work we're planning to start next year on the French house.

[N-o-l-a 7,168]

10 minutes ago, fip & jim said:

There's a lot to be said for being a younger parent. You have so much more energy and recover better from sleep deprivation and running around after little ones. 

 

I had a miscarriage before I had my daughter at 26, then a couple more in between my son and daughter. I had my son at 32. The difference physically between having a newborn at 26 and at 32 was really noticeable. I was exhausted after having my son and I had an easy natural birth and recovered well. 

 

My career also took a hit from having my son. In your 20s you may not have established yourself yet so delaying that by having a baby isn't such a big deal. You have more energy for juggling it all. Having said that, I was much more patient in my 30s so my son benefited from that. Personally though it cost me a lot to my own well being and satisfaction by having a child in my 30s. 

 

 

 

I'm just starting a career in my 30s, so I can't speak to that.  However, the amount of energy in my 30s versus 21 is obvious, especially with having young ones at both ages.  My body bounced back quicker both in an outward sense and inwards at 21. I swear I'm still "healing" from the last one 18 months ago. My stomach is still slowly pulling back in. I was huge all 3 times, but this last time (since you are new and don't now) I was the size of someone 42 weeks with twins because I had too much amniotic fluid.   We are done now too, which is probably good.

 

--------

 

The Dane became a citizen yesterday!

 

And then forbade me from wearing a cool steampunk style corset to the Manson concert tonight on account of it being too risqué. He's not going.  It is a rock concert, one of the few appropriate times for such clothes.  I was going to wear it anyway, but it is a long drive there and then wearing it all night might be a little hard on the breathing.

[N-o-l-a 7,168]

3 minutes ago, theresaL said:

 Other than that, I don't have to do anything but find a dress and shoes stateside, which won't be easy. 

 

I think we are both in the big bust club, so 2 suggestions: get a dress that fits the bust and have it altered to fit the rest or try eshakti if you have some time. I think the first is probably what I'd do. 

[Russ&Caro 1,549]

1 hour ago, N-o-l-a said:

The Dane became a citizen yesterday!

 

And then forbade me from wearing a cool steampunk style corset to the Manson concert tonight on account of it being too risqué. He's not going.  It is a rock concert, one of the few appropriate times for such clothes.  I was going to wear it anyway, but it is a long drive there and then wearing it all night might be a little hard on the breathing.

Hey, congrats to the Dane! He should want to see his wife in a steampunk corset in celebration of the event. La Colombiana wears corsets quite often and has worn other risque outfits. It bugged me a little bit the first couple of times it happened and then I just let it go after that. If it bothers others then it's their problem, not mine or her's.

[fip & jim 452]

3 hours ago, N-o-l-a said:

And then forbade me from wearing a cool steampunk style corset to the Manson concert tonight on account of it being too risqué. He's not going.  It is a rock concert, one of the few appropriate times for such clothes.  I was going to wear it anyway, but it is a long drive there and then wearing it all night might be a little hard on the breathing.

I would wear it to leave the house, because I'm obstinate, and then take it off later if it's uncomfortable. I'd then wear it for the next week if I felt like it - to watch TV, do chores, anything really. Do you tell him what he can wear? I can be very childish though so I wouldn't take advice from me. 

[fip & jim 452]

15 hours ago, TBoneTX said:

We have out-figured that our partially-tolerable-back days occur when we have taken Heap Strong Medicine at previous bedtime, induce we man.

However, this is exactly what we were doing before getting shot, whoopee man, and it is not a sustainable practice, no man.

Totally unsustainable. Re-connection and appreciation of vertebrae and realistic management is needed, man. Have you had MMR scan? You can't continue down this path. Pain is a pain. Pain is weary and debilitating. It's unacceptable to live in unmanageable pain. 

[SAT 9,609]

10 hours ago, Cyberfx1024 said:

So I after watching Yellowstone last night (Great show and everybody needs to watch it) I decided to act like a horse and let my 2 year old get on my back. We were going all around the house and she just had a blast..... That was until I stubbed my toe and had to stop. I stubbed it so hard that the nail came off. 

 

You know what we say to that in the Marines...

You dum ####!

6 hours ago, fip & jim said:

Jib!? JIB!! It's Fip, if you don't mind. Yeah, I've been vacationing my brains out as you so charmingly put it. Back home now and back to some semblance of reality.

 

Did you enjoy yourself?

[fip & jim 452]

2 minutes ago, SAT said:

 

Did you enjoy yourself?

Quantify enjoy.

[SAT 9,609]

 

Hey this only cost me 75 dollarz in kielbasa...