VAWA, Part 14

[FeDaniela 673]

4 minutes ago, Blunt said:

And please could you send me the link of the page of the uscis talking about EAd automatic renewal based on same category ...thanks 

https://www.uscis.gov/working-united-states/automatic-employment-authorization-document-ead-extension Also @Stillwinning!!!😊 post it on previous answer. 

[RoDaMo 58]

On 6/18/2019 at 9:11 AM, Stillwinning!!!😊 said:

Ever since my VAWA was approved in March I've not heard anything concerning my i485 transfer! Today I lay pondering on that..I said a quick fervent prayer to my father to hasten it for me and grant me favour!🙏 I fell into a short nap..woke up checked my phone.... PRAISE BE TO THE MOST HIGH GOD!🙏

 

Case Transferred To Another Office

On June 18, 2019, we transferred your Form I-485, Application to Register Permanent Residence or Adjust Status, Receipt Number MSCXXXXXXXXXX, to another office for processing and sent you a transfer notice. The notice explains why we transferred your case. Please follow the instructions in the notice. If you do not receive your notice by July 18, 2019, please go to www.uscis.gov/e-request to request a copy of the notice. If you move, go to www.uscis.gov/addresschangeto give us your new mailing address.

 

Congratulations!!!!! I feel so happy for you!!!!! 😊

[Stillwinning!!!😊 4,570]

1 minute ago, NeverGiveUp Nov17 said:

Congratulations!!!!! I feel so happy for you!!!!! 😊

Thanks 💘😂 ☺ God is good!

[FavouredOne 51]

14 hours ago, Stillwinning!!!😊 said:

😂😂🙌✨🌟 So Guys I got another update from USCIS this morning..the date says 6/25/19 text and email alerts that my case has been moved to another office on 6/19/19! The first one was moved to another office on 6/18/19 this is the second movement! I was a little confused...

Case Was Transferred And A New Office Has Jurisdiction

On June 19, 2019, we transferred your Form I-485, Application to Register Permanent Residence or Adjust Status, Receipt Number MSCXXXXXXXXXX, to another USCIS office. That office now has jurisdiction over your case. We sent you a notice that explains why we moved your case. Please follow the instructions in the notice. If you do not receive your notice by July 19, 2019, please go to www.uscis.gov/e-request to request a copy of the notice. If you move, go to www.uscis.gov/addresschangeto give us your new mailing address.

@Stillwinning, i read somewhere thstthat USICS will be transfering cases to field offices that have less backlog to hasten adjudication without affecting the person concern.

I guess this could be the case. Expect your interview date any moment from now.😁

[Stillwinning!!!😊 4,570]

Just now, FavouredOne said:

@Stillwinning, i read somewhere thstthat USICS will be transfering cases to field offices that have less backlog to hasten adjudication without affecting the person concern.

I guess this could be the case. Expect your interview date any moment from now.😁

It is true dear☺ I hope and pray🙏 that is the case😂 put me in your prayers! 

[FavouredOne 51]

15 minutes ago, Stillwinning!!!😊 said:

It is true dear☺ I hope and pray🙏 that is the case😂 put me in your prayers! 

God has done it for you. And He will do it for us too.

[Stillwinning!!!😊 4,570]

1 minute ago, FavouredOne said:

God has done it for you. And He will do it for us too.

AMEN!🙏 and AMEN!☺

[Sandra G. 5,049]

3 hours ago, tawayacct said:

Hello everyone.. I have been a lurker for a while now and am thinking if I should file for VAWA.. This is my throwaway account as my husband knows about my other account. I also messaged one of the people who has been posting here and I am posting what I sent the person. I would just like to ask for the input of the people here if I may be eligible for it.. 

 

I went here in the USA last June 2018 using a B2 visa. We have no intentions to marry, I was just here to visit my family in California and visit him in South Dakota. Our relationship was good and we even went out to Florida to visit his dad. I was bound to leave USA on November 2018, but we decided to get married as we wanted to start our lives together and we were having a hard time of being in a long distance relationship which was going on for 4 years at the time. We wanted to not be apart and believed we were ready to get married. I was skeptical at first because I knew how risky that could be, considering I entered using B2 but we did it anyway as we believed this will start our life together.

 

We got married in November 2018 we filed my I-130 and I-485 on December 2018. I lived in South Dakota. Since we both didn't really have much of an income or money in the bank, we had to ask my Aunt's fiancé to fill out an I-864. We had a small argument about the filing and he did not care about my legal status in the USA and I was getting frustrated because I did not want to get in legal trouble and I took that risk of staying here for him. Anyway, when we received the I-864, he called my family sketchy for having that much income. Shortly after that, he became very controlling. We get into small arguments, and I would just be passive about it so he can calm down, but then when he can't take me not saying anything he would start cussing at me. I was getting scared and threatened to call the police. He stopped for a little bit when I did. Everyday was just a struggle after that, I didn't work as I did not have my EAD yet, so I just stayed at the apartment most of the time. I also didn't have a driver's license and a car. When I would ask him to drive me somewhere, he would get annoyed and frustrated that I'm messing up his schedule, so I just stopped asking him to do that for me. Having sexual intercourse also became an issue, I felt scared of him so I wasn't really feeling like doing it with him. Everyday he would bring up if I would like to have sex with him that night (Which means I have to be in bed by 8PM, I usually don't sleep until 12AM. He also tries to control what time I should be in bed) and it would always give me anxiety to say no because he will get mad or give me the silent treatment which I didn't want because I already felt alone and isolated, I did not have family or friends in South Dakota. It is also relevant to mention to say that every night he would check and want me to drink my contraceptive pills in front of him, and told me if I got pregnant and decided to keep the baby and not get an abortion he would leave me. I got forced to do it because I only have him there. I asked him if we could make friends there apart from his own, but he would always say he isn't a social person. 

 

I asked permission to him that I will be flying to California and visit my family there for a month or so, from January to February or March. Thankfully he said yes. I thought it would be a good idea to come to California as he will not be in the apartment most of the time because he had school. It was all going good until he started to ask me to come back just after a week of being here. He told me I was not messaging and calling him enough. I explained that apart from the time difference, he wasn't always available on the time I am available. I thought about extending my stay in California, and he got very mad about it. He then started to use divorce to threaten me to come back to South Dakota. He knew I would be scared of a divorce because that could cause my illegal status here.

 

Here are the things he did to me lately, and I hope you can give your insight if this is indeed emotional abuse:

 

- He told me, in this exact words on text: "Everytime you don't do what I want you to do I could hold it over your head that I will just get a divorce." and everything just went very much downhill after that. I expressed that I want to feel independent just a little bit and don't do things that are against my will.

 

- He then told me that "I have thought about how you wanted to be independent. You kind of gave that up when you wanted to get married". Everyday he would text me and tell me I'm intentionally not texting or calling him. I say I try to and that I'm not always on my phone, he told me he did not believe me. I was just very passive about the whole situation because I thought this is how a marriage is. Every night I could not sleep properly and just overthink from his threat, as he is always reminding me of his power over me. I wasn't mentioning this to any of my family or friends as my husband would tell me that everything's my fault, blaming me that the way he is treating me is because I wasn't texting or calling him enough. I was begging him to not use it against me and that I was doing everything I could to communicate at the time that is good for him. He would give me silent treatment for days just because he felt like it, and when I don't reply for hours he is already threatening me.

 

- Before we even met each other, I was already a cigarette smoker. Out of the blue, he messaged me saying that I am such a disappointment for smoking and he doesn't want to continue the marriage if I don't quit. He says that it affects everything we do because I go on cigarette breaks. He also told me it is very unattractive. He told me that not smoking is also a requirement for him to not divorce me.

 

- He also required me to have sexual intercourse with him at least 2x a week, and telling me that it is important to him even though he knows I have low sex drive, which is also caused by him getting upset when I don't want to do it.

 

- One time I could not deal with it anymore, I ran to a friend for advice. She told me that I should try to apply for Medi-Cal, because I cannot afford psychiatric services and that I should do it as soon as possible because she doesn't feel like I'm acting normal and told me she never saw me in that bad of a state before. 

 

- One time, I posted a photo on social media and one guy left a "<3" comment on my picture. He then started to accuse me of cheating on him because of that. The guy who commented on my picture was not interested in me, as he is gay. I explained that to him but then he continually told me that I have time to post a picture on social media and I don't have time to send my pictures to him. I did not argue with him anymore as I was already scared he might threaten me again. I just apologized. A few days after that, I sent him a picture of me wearing a dress. He then told me "When did you start wearing a dress?" I told him those were just borrowed from my Aunt. He then asked me if I was trying to look attractive for other guys. He was trying to fish and accuse me for cheating just for wearing a dress. 

 

- My grandfather became terminally ill and got put on hospice care. I told him that I don't think it's a good idea to go back to South Dakota because my grandfather is on his last days so I asked him to come in California, and he said he did not have money to do so. I called him saying that my dad wanted to talk to him. It was on loudspeaker so I could hear everything. My dad offered to pay his plane ticket as I need emotional support for everything. He was very nice to my dad. As soon as I removed it on speaker and went outside to talk to him on the phone privately, he said that he was disinterested and did not care and wants me to be back in South Dakota as soon as possible. I asked him to give me a few weeks just to stay and he reminded me of the divorce again. 

 

- On my birthday, he called me. I thought to myself that wow it is nice he is calling me on my birthday he probably wants to greet me and talk since it is my birthday. He then asked me about our joint bank account. I did not have any bank accounts for my own because I cannot apply for one as I do not have enough identification as a requirement. He then threatened to close the bank account we have. 

 

I am at a loss right now on what to do.. every time I try to explain myself he cuts me off and laughs at me. Whenever he would get a gist that I may tell my family or authorities what he's been doing and telling me, he's going to start to be nice and tell me he was only acting that way because of how I don't text or call often. He makes me feel guilty and then blames me. He also tells me that I should do what he wants if I really loved him. If I ever try to tell him off, he would bring up unrelated issues. 

 

Do you think that I will be eligible for VAWA based on what's been going on with me and my husband? I am scared to go back to South Dakota because I don't know what he's going to do to me if I don't obey him.. I also recently just called a non-profit organization to ask a few questions regarding my situation, and the person I talked to told me that I may not file for it because there was no threats to physically harm me.

Considering what you wrote here I  don't  see a case of extreme cruelty (psychological abuse). It seems more like an unpleasant marriage. You may have a VAWA case but as I said I am considering  what you wrote here. Psychological abuse is a pattern of isolation, humiliation, degradation, control, threats etc.  To tell if you have for sure a VAWA case you need to attend therapy and have a psychological evaluation done, if you are  a diagnosed of depression and/or PTSD due to the abuse suffered and not because the marriage ended then you will be able to prove abuse.

[Blunt 167]

3 minutes ago, Stillwinning!!!😊 said:

AMEN!🙏 and AMEN!☺

Thanks so much ...so what does (Correspondence received and we are still reviewing your case ) my i360 and i485 is saying same thing...I filed for vawa March 2019 and my i485 was transferred to Vermont after I went to the interview alone to tell them how my wife has been physically and emotionally abusing me..

[Stillwinning!!!😊 4,570]

1 minute ago, Blunt said:

Thanks so much ...so what does (Correspondence received and we are still reviewing your case ) my i360 and i485 is saying same thing...I filed for vawa March 2019 and my i485 was transferred to Vermont after I went to the interview alone to tell them how my wife has been physically and emotionally abusing me..

If I'm not mistaken Fedaniela answered this question..I did too! But let me say it again..they have acknowledged your petitions 1360 and 1485 that's basically what the update is informing you of..at least you are aware your i485 has been transferred to Vermont! Praise God! Any more questions?😏😑

[Blunt 167]

19 minutes ago, sandranj said:

Considering what you wrote here I  don't  see a case of extreme cruelty (psychological abuse). It seems more like an unpleasant marriage. You may have a VAWA case but as I said I am considering  what you wrote here. Psychological abuse is a pattern of isolation, humiliation, degradation, control, threats etc.  To tell if you have for sure a VAWA case you need to attend therapy and have a psychological evaluation done, if you are  a diagnosed of depression and/or PTSD due to the abuse suffered and not because the marriage ended then you will be able to prove abuse.

@sandranj how does the psychological evaluation go?? You said they gonna diagnose the patient.but I think the patient will tell them how he or she is feeling before they can diagnose and tell actually what the patient is suffering from ? Or they are just gonna diagnose the patient  without even asking the patient how he or she is feeling ....I’m just asking ,cause when I did Mine,they asked me how I’m feeling and I told them my wife beats me and spits on me..and also I can’t sleep and I don’t have appetite anymore and they asked me if I always lost concentration I told them yes and they placed me on Zoloft and I keep attending sessions ...is that how it works ??

[Blunt 167]

23 minutes ago, Stillwinning!!!😊 said:

If I'm not mistaken Fedaniela answered this question..I did too! But let me say it again..they have acknowledged your petitions 1360 and 1485 that's basically what the update is informing you of..at least you are aware your i485 has been transferred to Vermont! Praise God! Any more questions?😏😑

Thanks so much ...did you submit psychological evaluation with your vawa or police report and restraining order?if you did psychological evaluation how did it go ..did you just tell the therapist all you went through in your marriage and how you are feeling before you were diagnosed 

[Stillwinning!!!😊 4,570]

5 minutes ago, Blunt said:

Thanks so much ...did you submit psychological evaluation with your vawa or police report and restraining order?if you did psychological evaluation how did it go ..did you just tell the therapist all you went through in your marriage and how you are feeling before you were diagnosed 

🏃 🏃 🏃 @VJ members I'm calling for back up..😚😐

[Blunt 167]

5 minutes ago, Stillwinning!!!😊 said:

🏃 🏃 🏃 @VJ members I'm calling for back up..😚😐

LOL 😂 your are so funny 🤣 

[Pinkrlion 2,724]

6 hours ago, FeDaniela said:

No. Every AOS case will have an In Person interview this was implement and expand August 2017, for all category, Before some Category don't need interview was I-485 base on employment and Refugee/asylee relative petitions, Parent of US Citizens, etc... Now yes.

My Us citizen friend petitioner her mother of 64 years old the was already living in US, and they need it to go to the interview...

Some Medical Exemption may applied to waived an interview but it will be on the officer discretion. 

Not true. Only employment AOS and specific AOS are required for interview.