sad weekend

[MaxxumUSA 0]

SKINSFAN...

I have a few questions.

How long did you date her before she actually flew to USA to marry you?

How many times did you visit her before bringing her to the USA?

How much total time with her did you spend in Russia before her coming to you?

Did you have an affectionate relationship before/after being married?

Did you live with her - in her flat or home - in her home town - for any of your visits?

Just curious.

[slim 1,523]

I replied tell that to columbus, she asked who he was. Sometimes I forget she doesnt know any american history

Pardon me but Columbus is not just American history. Every school kid in Russia knows about the Great Discoveries and all. Did your wife go to school?

A large number of girls here could scarcely tell you who Columbus was or what he was famous for. This probably accounts for the "who was he?" more than the fact that she's from Russia. Ponce de Leon is about as important to most American women as Dolgoruki is to women from Vladivostok.

History, discoveries, geography.... these are filed under "useless information" for most women whether from Russia or the U.S. Before the popcorn gets thrown at me, this is a broad generalization (no pun intended) and doesn't mean women aren't as smart as men in these fields, I'm just saying generally speaking, women care less about these sorts of things than men.

[Kathryn41 3,205]

Going off topic for a minute here - to throw lots of popcorn at Slim. . . what a ridiculous comment! I have spent nearly 35 years working in the heritage field/history field in Canada and the US, and from personal knowledge and experience, have seen far more women interested and involved in history and heritage than men. At the professional level the involvement is about evenly split between men and women; at the volunteer/interest level, there are definitely more women than men involved.

Back on topic - Skinsfan, I am so sorry you have had such a sad experience with your wife and am glad that you are able to move on. You have taken the correct steps to do so, as well as to protect yourself from someone who has a different agenda than yours. For those like Citycat who questioned why he notified USCIS when his wife left under the circumstances she did, it is important to remember that he signed an Affidavit of Support for her. Even if he divorces, he is still financially liable under the terms contracted by that Affidavit for as long as she is in the US. It certainly seems unfair, especially under the circumstances, but it is a reality. This has nothing to do with being vindictive - Skinsfan strikes me as anything but - and everything to do with protecting himself from unreasonable actions from someone whom he has every reason to mistrust.

As well, it appears she was hoping to use the domestic violence charge as a way to file under VAWA so it would be unlikely she had her green card already. As it turns out, she did not and is now facing the consequences of her actions. The only person she has to blame for what happens to her now is herself.

Edited August 7, 2007 by Kathryn41

[one...two...tree 2,762]

Going off topic for a minute here - to throw lots of popcorn at Slim. . . what a ridiculous comment! I have spent nearly 35 years working in the heritage field/history field in Canada and the US, and from personal knowledge and experience, have seen far more women interested and involved in history and heritage than men. At the professional level the involvement is about evenly split between men and women; at the volunteer/interest level, there are definitely more women than men involved.

Back on topic - Skinsfan, I am so sorry you have had such a sad experience with your wife and am glad that you are able to move on. You have taken the correct steps to do so, as well as to protect yourself from someone who has a different agenda than yours. For those like Citycat who questioned why he notified USCIS when his wife left under the circumstances she did, it is important to remember that he signed an Affidavit of Support for her. Even if he divorces, he is still financially liable under the terms contracted by that Affidavit for as long as she is in the US. It certainly seems unfair, especially under the circumstances, but it is a reality. This has nothing to do with being vindictive - Skinsfan strikes me as anything but - and everything to do with protecting himself from unreasonable actions from someone whom he has every reason to mistrust.

As well, it appears she was hoping to use the domestic violence charge as a way to file under VAWA so it would be unlikely she had her green card already. As it turns out, she did not and is now facing the consequences of her actions. The only person she has to blame for what happens to her now is herself.

Well said.

[Thomas-n-Elena 0]

Actually my wife did go to school and she is very intelligent, the fact that she did not know who columbus was has nothing to do with her education or her intelligence, it had more to do with frame of reference and differences in language. She will often ask me a who or what question and when I give her the answer she will usually say that she learned it differently but she knows what I am talking about.

And as far as useless information I give her plenty of that all day long, she probably gets tired of all of the useless stuff Im filling her head with. Soon my son will be here and I can fill his head with the stuff that is keeping the pea in my head company.

[Blues Fairy 0]

Actually my wife did go to school and she is very intelligent, the fact that she did not know who columbus was has nothing to do with her education or her intelligence, it had more to do with frame of reference and differences in language.

I meant no offence, I was just surprised. Education in Russian schools used to be very thorough.

But perhaps the American pronunciation of Columbus was not instantly recognizable to her.

[slim 1,523]

Going off topic for a minute here - to throw lots of popcorn at Slim. . . what a ridiculous comment! I have spent nearly 35 years working in the heritage field/history field in Canada and the US, and from personal knowledge and experience, have seen far more women interested and involved in history and heritage than men. At the professional level the involvement is about evenly split between men and women; at the volunteer/interest level, there are definitely more women than men involved.

Of course, in any field, you're going to see people involved "in that field" but what I'm referring to is the average, everyday women versus men and importance of history as common knowledge debate.

I would speculate if you were to ask 100 men and 100 women who a historical figure was/is, you would tend to have more men be correct than women due to men remembering that sort of thing more than women. I'm not saying women don't know about history, all I'm saying is men generally know more about history than women because men are more into it.

[monkeys1 0]

i would get a copy of her phone bill,visa cards, etc. It may help

[russ 1]

You are kidding, right?

I would speculate if you were to ask 100 men and 100 women who a historical figure was/is, you would tend to have more men be correct than women due to men remembering that sort of thing more than women. I'm not saying women don't know about history, all I'm saying is men generally know more about history than women because men are more into it.

[slim 1,523]

You are kidding, right?

I would speculate if you were to ask 100 men and 100 women who a historical figure was/is, you would tend to have more men be correct than women due to men remembering that sort of thing more than women. I'm not saying women don't know about history, all I'm saying is men generally know more about history than women because men are more into it.

Next time you're at the bar.... ask everyone who Hernando de Soto was. I George Foreman guarantee you there will be more guys who will be correct than girls.

[Turboguy 6]

Yea but they named a car after De Soto and guys are into classic cars. Maybe we should try Vaspuses (sp?) See if more guys or gals would kinow what they named after him!

[Nancy2015 2]

Going off topic for a minute here - to throw lots of popcorn at Slim. . . what a ridiculous comment! I have spent nearly 35 years working in the heritage field/history field in Canada and the US, and from personal knowledge and experience, have seen far more women interested and involved in history and heritage than men. At the professional level the involvement is about evenly split between men and women; at the volunteer/interest level, there are definitely more women than men involved.

Of course, in any field, you're going to see people involved "in that field" but what I'm referring to is the average, everyday women versus men and importance of history as common knowledge debate.

I would speculate if you were to ask 100 men and 100 women who a historical figure was/is, you would tend to have more men be correct than women due to men remembering that sort of thing more than women. I'm not saying women don't know about history, all I'm saying is men generally know more about history than women because men are more into it.

It's the 21st century, but misogyny is still alive and well!

[Kotenochek 0]

well, where do i start.....friday, my wife said she was going to a chiropractor at noon...she was in an auto accedent march 30th....she never came home until the next day at noon with the police to remove her things...WOW !!!..........i had paid for my wife to go back to russia for three weeks (2nd 3 wk trip in 12 months) i stayed at home with her kids and catered to their every need....whe she arrived back on may 3rd, i went out and bought her a new car, the last car was destroyed in the accedent...that was 2 1/2 wks ago....she began speaking on the phone in russian very often, and meeting her russian girlfriends...i heard her speaking to a man in russian on the phone, and she said it was a friends boyfriend who needed advice....i am not one to be jealous, so i let it go....whe she came back from russia, she said she had to go to the russian embassy for a transfer of property...that appt is today.

bottom line, we never had any problems or arguments, other than normal disagreements in marriage...i don't know if she has received her green card...she was on fbi name check...but i was always at work when the mail arrived at the house...i tend to think i was duped.....i wish all good luck...it has been a tough long weekend, and i know she has received help because she has no job....., as far as money, she has helped herself to my wallet daily for 1 1/2 yrs...don't let my sad story influence your lives...i truely wish all of you love and happiness......

So sorry to hear your story..I read today on russian fiancee forum that some women even go to live in shelters afterwards to prove that they been kicked out from home ..make sure you will suggest her place for stay so you can defend yourself later about it.

Hope the guys is not andy thats what russian page tells about girl that went to live with friends and lied to friends that husband tourtured her but at the end they figured she has a lover.

OMG i wish such women never come across any of good people like you guys!Because of these cases the people that love have to go through all this bullshit waiting process.

I wish you all the best!stay strong!Make sure your credit card is protected and she can not fraud your check book.since when she arrived you signed a paper to take care of her till she has a citizenship.

[Ban Hammer 13,275]

Well, besides, a tea-pot calling a cattle black

this thread is so interesting

[slim 1,523]

this thread is so interesting

Off Topic has nothing on us.