How to prove he married me for a green card?

[nguoivietnam2019 67]

Just now, Greekwife said:

I think the most important is what was posted earlier.We need time to go through different stages of visa but what do we do in the meantime?

Getting to know the other is not always easy as I know some people can be good at pretending.I think life teaches us something even through painful experiences.

Based on that just beware in the future.

All that glitters is not always gold...

There will be people deceived and fell into this as ...well love can be blind.  Generally, people will only see it after the fact.

[Bynx24 72]

Just now, nguoivietnam2019 said:

There will be people deceived and fell into this as ...well love can be blind.  Generally, people will only see it after the fact.

This is true, love is blind, but logic is logic, I am sorry but when your life and finances are on the line for someone, and there are serious red flags, why continue and send papers?

[Carpe Vinum 2,327]

Just now, Bynx24 said:

No, it's clear that he wasnt even attracted to her and made any excuse to not even have sex, this is a harsh reality to accept but the women in this case are to blame as well.

We are just getting her side of the story here. Also, I said that immigration is a big risk. People go rushing in with their heart on their sleeves ignoring the problems that are right in front of them. The truth is now it really doesn't change anything by looking back and assigning blame. He can adjust status without her with a divorce waiver and she will be on the hook for the I-864.

2 minutes ago, Bynx24 said:

This is true, love is blind, but logic is logic, I am sorry but when your life and finances are on the line for someone, and there are serious red flags, why continue and send papers?

I think we have found common ground)))

[Bynx24 72]

2 minutes ago, boris64 said:

We are just getting her side of the story here. Also, I said that immigration is a big risk. People go rushing in with their heart on their sleeves ignoring the problems that are right in front of them. The truth is now it really doesn't change anything by looking back and assigning blame. He can adjust status without her with a divorce waiver and she will be on the hook for the I-864.

I think we have found common ground)))

Agreed.

[nguoivietnam2019 67]

Just now, Bynx24 said:

This is true, love is blind, but logic is logic, I am sorry but when your life and finances are on the line for someone, and there are serious red flags, why continue and send papers?

I would assume this question is direct to the OP.  

Many have a tendency to ignore some of the oblivious facts - letting emotion kill the logic... and regret after.  

 

I wish the OP could move on and let it go. Life is short, there are important things to worry than focus on things that unhealthy.  It is not easy but life still goes on.

 

 

[Ahmed&Freda 628]

1 hour ago, mizliz79 said:

A little history. He came to the US July of 2016 k1 visa we got married July 27th I was truly in love with him and he led me to believe that he was too, the reasons I now believe he only married me for gc are the following. He made excuses as to why he couldn't perform when it was time for intimacy, (he doesn't know what is wrong it never happened to him, no girl has had an issue with it why should I, maybe he needs to see a Dr or because he doesn't feel much of a man) then to his luck I fell ill and didn't need to give excuses for that, I had surgery may 2018 so then came the excuse as to why not sleep with me, (he didn't want to hurt me, months later it was the TV light bothers him, he snores and doesn't want to bother me) but all this time he showed he was loving and caring like I thought too good to be true type. come time to send his roc I started the petition in Feb 2019 which I sent, March 18 I get receipt letter he then was pushing for his sons petition which I was working on but hadn't sent because I needed a joint sponsor, he was under the impression that I sent it and all we are waiting on was permanent gc.. I started noticing him different in Feb he came telling me his wedding ring fell in sink while washing hands... Come April 18th he tells me that due to us not sleeping together we've distant ourselves therefore he started talking and seeing someone else for the last week, I come to find out it's been since Feb 2019 that he started talking to 3 women not just one ... If he wanted to be honest with me, why wait till I send the roc? That's all he did was wait for me to send the paperwork, mind you he tells me this one week before I was to have another surgery. He would also tell his son how he is sacrificing himself for him to have a better future and to wait for him (wait for him for what) ..Do I have something to fight for or will I waste my time? I really want an annulment rather than a divorce but will that have an effect? Everywhere I read it says just take it and move on... I just can't believe us as citizens don't have protection for this. 

So sorry this has happened to you.   As others have said its best to divorce and move on and let him handle the rest on his own.  

 

Intimacy is extremely important in a relationship I would agree that his lack of (especially so early in your relationship) was a huge red flag but I don't think it would help prove fraud.   You can always attempt to contact USCIS and ICE with a statement but I don't know it would have any affect.  I would not waste any more effort into this relationship or help him any further.

 

 

 

[carmel34 3,635]

Evidence that he entered into the marriage fraudulently, only to get a green card, would have to be proven with documentation, like a fake marriage certificate, or you never really met or lived together. Did you submit false documents with the I-129F petition?  When you filed AOS?   It sounds like from your post that your marriage was very real--maybe not a very good marriage, but it was a valid legal marriage nevertheless.  What documentation do you have to prove that your marriage is not real?  Feelings or suspicions are hard to prove with hard evidence.  Focus on getting a divorce if that's what you want, try to heal from this, and move on.

[Bynx24 72]

16 minutes ago, nguoivietnam2019 said:

Many have a tendency to ignore some of the oblivious facts - letting emotion kill the logic... and regret after.

That's low self esteem, having been thru bad relationship situations in the past and/or having had no father figure early in life or abandoned as a child. This is not about emotion necessarily but about the need for love which we inherently all want but we must love ourselves enough to walk away from harm and realize that we are complete and loved with or without a body laying next to us. Ignoring the obvious will lead to serious heartbreak, if your husband is making excuses to not sleep with you it's time to go, that's way to much.

 

OP, love yourself, let this bum go, just like John Wick said in the movie, "consequences", now you must deal with the support, live and learn , move on and find yourself a man that truly loves you not a bum ### man like that. Dont send in for his son, screw him.

 

Edited May 20, 2019 by Bynx24

[Jeanne Adil 1,651]

agree with Unlockable

 

We are all so sorry you are hurt but don't blame immigration

 

Immigration tries to do the best and denies many petitions both K1 and CR1

they see the dangers 

they try to warn USC

They are often ignored

The 2017 ds5535 form really should help feret out some as it targets the social media used by beneficaries 

it looks into who they talk to and more important who the person may be targeting for green card or money , etc

 

sometimes it is better to take ANY relationship slow 

 

again so very sorry

 

you need to move on and let him go 

[Scandi 4,166]

1 hour ago, Unlockable said:

@mizliz79,

 You have to realize that the US government does not have the resources to do a thorough investigation of every immigrants true intentions. That is where you come in. It is up to you, as the petitioner, to provide the evidence that you and your ex is in a legit relationship. You are the one that sent in evidence of you and your ex are in love. You sent the evidence, filed the paperwork, signed legal binding documents to bring him here. There is not much immigration can do because you did everything legally to vouch for your husband. It is not the government's fault that people get fraud. The government set up a system to where a person has all these things they must do to prove a legit relationship. The problem is too many people spend too much effort trying to bring their love to the US as fast as possible and don't spend enough effort to truly find out about their significant other's true intentions.

This.

 

Has to be pointed out over and over. It is YOU who bring this foreigner to this country, it is YOU who convince the US govt that the relationship is real. And then when it turns out it wasn't because you didn't do enough research on the foreigner, you want to blame the govt or even ask the govt for help? I think not. This is on YOU. 

[kris&me 572]

You can report it but many do and nothing happens

you would have to be able to prove he was talking, texting, emailing many women while he courted you and that he was "in love" with them too

 

https://www.uscis.gov/report-fraud

 

In doing this remember if immigration was to take any action ,   the USC can also be prosecuted for the fraud as it is not only fraud on you but fraud on the US government and you are responsible

 

https://www.alllaw.com/articles/nolo/us-immigration/penalties-marriage-fraud.html

Edited May 20, 2019 by kris&me

[Going through 5,671]

41 minutes ago, Bynx24 said:

Dont send in for his son, screw him.

From past posting history, seems the step son is already inside the US (arrived a few years ago on a K2), and now has the conditional green card?

  

OP's soon-to-be ex spouse can also continue the process on his own for his son, if this is the case.

Edited May 20, 2019 by Going through

[Bynx24 72]

1 minute ago, Going through said:

From past posting history, seems the step son is already inside the US (arrived a few years ago on a K2), and now has the conditional green card?

  

OP's soon-to-be ex spouse can also continue the process on his own for his son, if this is the case.

Thank you for the clarification , maybe I read wrong but I thought she said he expected her to sponsor him etc, either way, shes screwed and big time.

[Randyandyuni 2,682]

let it go, life is too short to wallow in the bad, divorce and heal yourself 

[Jeanne Adil 1,651]

the real question is 

 

Can you prove he married you for a green card?

we can't answer that

only you can