JUST A RANT(update merged)

[Rohit004 8]

On this allegedly new job that she got, I asked her last Thursday how much she'd be getting paid. She refused to tell me. She gave me some excuse.

[Rohit004 8]

6 hours ago, little immigrant said:

This is my story. I was the worker and immigrant. However for me he forbid me to buy necessities like bread and I often went to work hungry. He also forbid me from buying birth control because he wanted a baby so badly but I'm chronically ill and I can't handle a pregnancy and a baby. The mother always sided with him and they always ganged up on me and I never had someone to fight for me. But enough of that. 

 

She has to agree to be taken off the bank accounts. Trust me I went through this. I went to my bank to give my signature and he threatened me that I have to take myself off the account but I told him you need to go to the branch and sign too otherwise it's not valid I can't legally take myself off of the bank account without your signature too. He didn't believe me but later went to the branch and gave the signature. So please double check with the bank because she has to agree and she sounds like she's not agreeing so she is legally still on your account. 

Sorry to hear your account of things. It is indeed stressful 

[Rohit004 8]

My wife has developed this attitude of shaming people. If she has something to use, she will wait till in presence of her mom and then start asking questions to "expose" you. But behold, if she is wrong, don't even dare bring it up or you will not hear the end of it. A time back, she bought a dog car seat for close to $100. She told her mom it was $20. I was told not to speak about it. 

 

The 3 of us were in a car driving home. She asks if I ever had any past girlfriends back in my home country.  I knew where this would lead to and try to change topic ASAP. She persists. Next thing I know, she's on my phone's FB page. She found the girl and started a fight asking me why we are still friends. I informed her that I have not spoken to the lady in like 4 years since I left. She dint wanna hear any of that. Her mom jumped on this to help, but to no avail.  I had a 1 hour rough ride. 

[Carpe Vinum 2,327]

3 minutes ago, Rohit004 said:

My wife has developed this attitude of shaming people. If she has something to use, she will wait till in presence of her mom and then start asking questions to "expose" you. But behold, if she is wrong, don't even dare bring it up or you will not hear the end of it. A time back, she bought a dog car seat for close to $100. She told her mom it was $20. I was told not to speak about it. 

 

The 3 of us were in a car driving home. She asks if I ever had any past girlfriends back in my home country.  I knew where this would lead to and try to change topic ASAP. She persists. Next thing I know, she's on my phone's FB page. She found the girl and started a fight asking me why we are still friends. I informed her that I have not spoken to the lady in like 4 years since I left. She dint wanna hear any of that. Her mom jumped on this to help, but to no avail.  I had a 1 hour rough ride. 

Time to fly....But, you know this already....Good Luck...

[NikLR 13,227]

Im sorry you have so much drama.  Hubs and I have our own types of drama but at the very least we keep it between the two of us.  Our parents are never involved and I dont think it's good for them to be.  

I don't think your marriage will survive if she can run home to mommy and daddy everytime she doesn't get her way.  

Best wishes in the future. 

 

 

Edited May 20, 2019 by NikLR
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[JC&BS 75]

I think that her parents have spoiled her and she is expecting you to continue where they left off. 

[E & J 2018 132]

It sounds like she doesn't want a husband..... She wants an ATM card with an unlimited amount on money..... Run fast, it will only get worse for you.

[Bynx24 72]

Divorce and move on, theres nothing else that you can do at this point. It's clear that you still love her and are looking for comfort in the midst of this but if you continue in this relationship you will only be continuously abused and heartbroken. Your eligibility in this country is not at risk, you have plenty of proof that you have done your part and all they are trying to do is intimidate you using tactics that are abusive and manipulative, this lady is clearly not right in the head.

 

You seem to have a good head on your shoulders and will make it out of this. How old are you if you dont mind me asking?Country? I ask because it's surprising to see the immigrant being screwed over. It just goes to show that bad behavior can come from both sides.

 

Good luck.

[Rohit004 8]

7 minutes ago, Bynx24 said:

Divorce and move on, theres nothing else that you can do at this point. It's clear that you still love her and are looking for comfort in the midst of this but if you continue in this relationship you will only be continuously abused and heartbroken. Your eligibility in this country is not at risk, you have plenty of proof that you have done your part and all they are trying to do is intimidate you using tactics that are abusive and manipulative, this lady is clearly not right in the head.

 

You seem to have a good head on your shoulders and will make it out of this. How old are you if you dont mind me asking?Country? I ask because it's surprising to see the immigrant being screwed over. It just goes to show that bad behavior can come from both sides.

 

Good luck.

Check your PM. 

 

55 minutes ago, boris64 said:

Time to fly....But, you know this already....Good Luck...

I know the options. Just trying to tread carefully cz I know she has "evidence" as she calls it. So it may not go down easily.

She starts a fight, then secretly records what she deemed as useful to her. She's recording with the phone hidden. Found that out a while back. 

[purem4g1c 113]

if she wants a trip, tell her to get a job and pay for it, life ain't free

[Jenny17655 284]

once upon a time your wife is crazy the end....

[NikLR 13,227]

1 hour ago, Rohit004 said:

Check your PM. 

 

I know the options. Just trying to tread carefully cz I know she has "evidence" as she calls it. So it may not go down easily.

She starts a fight, then secretly records what she deemed as useful to her. She's recording with the phone hidden. Found that out a while back. 

You may want to check the laws where you live on recording someone without their permission.   That goes two ways as well and an edited recording isn't good evidence in divorce. 

Edited May 20, 2019 by NikLR

[Rohit004 8]

4 minutes ago, NikLR said:

You may want to check the laws where you live on recording someone without their permission.   That goes two ways as well and an edited recording isn't good evidence in divorce. 

I know. I just don't wanna tell her cz "she knows it all."

Nope. On my end, I don't record. I just mind my own business 

[Mike E 11,739]

The bad news is you are getting a divorce. Those are never fun and yours will be especially acrimonious.  

 

The good news is that you’ve  been married for under two years so your alimony will be short and sweet.  

 

 

[Rohit004 8]

Just now, Mike E said:

The bad news is you are getting a divorce. Those are never fun and yours will be especially acrimonious.  

 

The good news is that you’ve  been married for under two years so your alimony will be short and sweet.  

 

 

Well, she took everything. I have nothing left to give. More so, she never worked. I paid everything.