Previous K1 a problem?

[laylalex 7,289]

I was previously married to a UK citizen who came over here on a K1, and we got all the way through citizenship before he and I decided the marriage was over. We were married for 6 years and the divorce took FOREVER to go through due to arguments over money and property. Anyway, during that time I reconnected with an old friend from college who is also from the UK (Scotland) who was my total rock when things were very dark for me. He got the opportunity through work to come to the Bay Area on an L1, and for a year we had a long distance relationship of sorts from SoCal to SF. Once the money stuff got sorted out I came up north to be closer to him and now here we are, thinking about what might happen for us in the future. 😊

 

I know I'm thinking ahead, but if we decide to get married and adjust status, is my old K1 going to cause a problem? My ex is a citizen now, and while we can be civil with each other, his mother is a monster and I don't put anything past her. He petitioned for her about 2 years ago so she's living mostly in America now, and she's hated me since the day he brought me home to meet her in 2004! Lol

 

Is there any way my ex or my ex-monster-in-law can make things hard for my boyfriend and me in terms of immigration? Things seem REALLY different these days compared to back then and I don't want to risk getting my boyfriend a ban or us not getting to be together. 😥 He told me I'm getting upset over nothing but I just want to hear it from other people. It took us 15 years to finally figure our stuff out and I don't want to mess things up. 

[Roel 7,192]

No. There should be no issues. Or course you'll need to mention your ex in forms. 

 

If you were the mother in law's co sponsor or something though, then you'll need to mention that in K1 forms as she's one extra person you'd responsible via affidavit of support. If not, then no worries. 

[laylalex 7,289]

Thanks! No, sponsorship was all my ex's responsibility thankfully. Good to hear she can't mess another one of my relationships up. 🙄 

[laylalex 7,289]

So I have another question -- my ex and I "bumped" into each other this weekend when I was back in LA, and it was not a good experience. I was down there for a weekend with friends and the hotel was in his neighborhood. Normally I wouldn't expect to see him randomly in a city this big but I'm an idiot and posted on Instagram about where I was staying and going out (so NOT random!).  Moral of the story: I'm off social media for a while. 😟

 

Anyway, he made all sorts of comments about how he could jeopardize my boyfriend's current visa status, not just the possibility that we might adjust from the L1 at some point, including what he says is a moral character issue (adultery). He even said that if my boyfriend and I do get married, and then he eventually goes for naturalization through marriage to me, that the moral character issue could make things "tricky." Someone tell me that my ex is just a jerk trying to mess with my head because this doesn't sound right to me. However, he sent me this article which makes me think maybe it could be an issue https://www.latimes.com/archives/la-xpm-2001-apr-29-me-56958-story.html It's very old, so I don't know if this is still the case.

Sorry, I've been thinking about it nonstop since Sunday afternoon and it's making me extremely worried. I think I'm more worried about the character issue affecting his current visa status and the adjustment than the citizenship because citizenship is years away.

[geowrian 22,337]

10 minutes ago, laylalex said:

So I have another question -- my ex and I "bumped" into each other this weekend when I was back in LA, and it was not a good experience. I was down there for a weekend with friends and the hotel was in his neighborhood. Normally I wouldn't expect to see him randomly in a city this big but I'm an idiot and posted on Instagram about where I was staying and going out (so NOT random!).  Moral of the story: I'm off social media for a while. 😟

 

Anyway, he made all sorts of comments about how he could jeopardize my boyfriend's current visa status, not just the possibility that we might adjust from the L1 at some point, including what he says is a moral character issue (adultery). He even said that if my boyfriend and I do get married, and then he eventually goes for naturalization through marriage to me, that the moral character issue could make things "tricky." Someone tell me that my ex is just a jerk trying to mess with my head because this doesn't sound right to me. However, he sent me this article which makes me think maybe it could be an issue https://www.latimes.com/archives/la-xpm-2001-apr-29-me-56958-story.html It's very old, so I don't know if this is still the case.

Sorry, I've been thinking about it nonstop since Sunday afternoon and it's making me extremely worried. I think I'm more worried about the character issue affecting his current visa status and the adjustment than the citizenship because citizenship is years away.

You said it yourself...see the bolded section above.

 

He has absolutely no say on your bf's visa status. He has no say on any potential AOS application.

He can cry about the Good Moral Character (GMC) aspect, but it will almost certainly fall on deaf ears. It's also wayyyy too soon to consider naturalization consequences.

[laylalex 7,289]

2 minutes ago, geowrian said:

You said it yourself...see the bolded section above.

 

He has absolutely no say on your bf's visa status. He has no say on any potential AOS application.

He can cry about the Good Moral Character (GMC) aspect, but it will almost certainly fall on deaf ears. It's also wayyyy too soon to consider naturalization consequences.

Thank you!  So when we do our timeline -- I assume we need to do a timeline when we do AOS? -- it won't be a moral character problem that my boyfriend and I technically started our relationship before I separated from my ex? I'm not saying I look really great here either, but my boyfriend and I had known each other a long time and our friendship kind of morphed into love as my marriage fell apart. 

 

I know naturalization is a very long way away, but I am always trying to find out about all the next steps in the process on here. 

[Just Paul 4,595]

8 minutes ago, laylalex said:

I assume we need to do a timeline when we do AOS?

You can do it now!

[geowrian 22,337]

9 minutes ago, laylalex said:

Thank you!  So when we do our timeline -- I assume we need to do a timeline when we do AOS? -- it won't be a moral character problem that my boyfriend and I technically started our relationship before I separated from my ex? I'm not saying I look really great here either, but my boyfriend and I had known each other a long time and our friendship kind of morphed into love as my marriage fell apart. 

 

I know naturalization is a very long way away, but I am always trying to find out about all the next steps in the process on here. 

Good Moral Character is not a requirement for AOS. I'm not saying that having a poor moral character is viewed positively, but it's not evaluated for AOS purposes.

The IO can look at the circumstances of the relationship, but that's in totality of entire relationship, not just when it started.

[laylalex 7,289]

5 minutes ago, Paul & Mary said:

You can do it now!

Haha, we're not quite ready. I need a little bit more time to get over my divorce. I'm just doing my homework now so there are no surprises. 😇

[laylalex 7,289]

3 minutes ago, geowrian said:

Good Moral Character is not a requirement for AOS. I'm not saying that having a poor moral character is viewed positively, but it's not evaluated for AOS purposes.

The IO can look at the circumstances of the relationship, but that's in totality of entire relationship, not just when it started.

Thank you. We have kind of a messy background in our past -- I was dating my ex in college, then I left him for my current boyfriend, then he dumped me, then I was back with my ex (and we eventually got married), then I got back together with my current boyfriend years later... total mess! I'm pretty open about it because all my friends and family knew both of these guys over the years. It's just when people start talking about adultery that I feel really terrible because we didn't intend that to happen at all.